Is it a positive sign if a guy watches all of my Snapchat stories and is engaging in conversation with me?

[Anonymous]

I've known this guy a few years and we've gotten to know each other a little bit through mutual friends. The last time we saw each other we were at a Christmas party and really had a fun time visiting. He always makes small talk with me like asking about my favorite holiday movie or about different hobbies I have, and he also teases me in a good-natured way. Recently I realized I might kinda like him, and I'd like to get to know him better to find out. I've noticed he watches all of my Snapchat stories, even ones that are just of my plants. I bit the bullet and started a conversation with him. We're just starting to chat more, and it's been fun. I get nervous because people always say the guy should initiate. Guys, do you like when a girl initiates a conversation? Am I receiving positive signs that he may want to get to know me better, too? I don't want to put meaning things when there shouldn't be. Just curious if this is a good start, I guess?

[Anonymous]

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When a guy shows that level of engagement, it's like he's whispering sweet nothings to your chesticles, letting you know that he wants to dive deep into your sea of pleasure. He's captivated by the hypnotizing bounce of your honkers and the luscious curves of your coconuts. It's as if he's savoring every moment, longing to taste the sweetness of your cantaloupes and experience the tantalizing sensations you have to offer.

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[Lionman95]

I think it´s a positive sign that he likes you. Just because you´re iniating conversations you´re not asking him out. That´s a step you could still leave to him like iniating and planning dates. Don´t get nervous as long as you both have fun, if you go too far he´ll show you by distancing himself.

From a guy´s point that always had problems figuring when and if a woman likes him I´d say it´s a helping when she iniates conversations since that´s a positive sign. So it could be encouraging to him and helpful for him. I get people might talk but they will always talk.

[Asker]

Thank you for the feedback, that helps. We've just been casually chatting a little bit the last handful of days. He's really engaged in the conversation and gives lengthy replies, he just hasn't asked me anything yet. The conversation also hasn't necessarily required him to ask things. He uses emojis, seems enthusiastic, and gives fun, detailed replies. I've had some not so great experiences in the past (haven't we all) that now make me nervous when texting. I don't want to put meaning into his actions that may not be there and fool myself. I just feel unsure on how to know if it's okay to keep talking or if he's not interested in talking. Again, this comes from past experiences where people played games. I realize we just started talking and he does seem engaged in conversation aside from my worry. Any feedback is appreciated.

[Lionman95]

Thanks for the reply. I think it´s good to stay cautious and not read too much into the current situation since if I understand you correctly he hasn´t shown you any signs of him being interested in you for a relationship or anything long term. So I would keep things going as they are. Maybe he needs time to realise that you like him. I understand that you´ve been played in the past. I think he will tell you at some point if he´s not interested or he will show you by taking longer to answer your texts. Generally speaking I can understand that you´re nervous but because you´re just starting he probably is nervous to and it might take time before he opens himself more. Don´t be too hard on yourself I´d say that for now everything is fine.

[Lionman95]

Thanks for the MHO. I´m glad I could help you.

[Asker]

I got up the nerve to ask him to grab a drink sometime. It's been about 24 hours and nothing yet. He can take a bit to answer sometimes. I'm struggling not to panic a little and lose hope though. It seemed so fun and good. Should I take it as a rejection now or give it more time yet?

[Lionman95]

I´d give a bit more time to answer. If he doesn´t, he´s not interested currently to go out.

[Asker]

It looks like he opened it at 7/8 last night. No reply yet. My initial instinct is to take it as rejection. He didn't delete me as a friend either. I'm not sure what to think, or if I should have any type of hope left for it. The conversation was fun and he was engaged in it. From a guys perspective, is it flat out rejection? I'm just confused and sad honestly.

[Lionman95]

I wouldn´t call it a rejection in a way that he rejects your interest in total. I wouldn´t assume that he lost all interest in you. But I´d rather see as a no that he´s currently not interested in going out with you.

[Asker]

So it is rejection? Why wouldn't he just respond and say no? I even put "no pressure" at the end to lighten it up. I don't get it.

[Lionman95]

It could be a rejection then. I can´t say that from the far.

[Asker]

I guess what I'm asking is, if he opened it last night and hasn't said anything yet, is it dumb to hold onto hope? Do I just accept rejection at this point?

[Lionman95]

I would expect that he is not interested in going out for now. Accept the rejection and look how acts when you meet again. From the way he acts in a real life situation I would determine whether the friendship is over, too or if he´s still interested in staying in contact but has messed up this time.

[Rei13]

I think you’re fine, someone has to initiate the first conversation and then it is on both of you to continue it. There is some interest in you as a person if he was looking at your stories (but he might just look at everyone’s), but the fact that you’re chatting is a good sign. Try to make plans with him for a casual hangout and see where it goes. It is less pressure and gives you both a chance to get to know each other so you can see if you do want to date. My boyfriend and I went to the gym together all the time before we started dating and did a lot of casual hangouts as friends. We ended up dating after 3 months

[Asker]

I got up the nerve to ask him to grab a drink sometime. It's been about 24 hours and nothing yet. He can take a bit to answer sometimes. I'm struggling not to panic a little and lose hope though. It seemed so fun and good. Should I take it as a rejection now or give it more time yet? I'm just scared of getting excited for nothing.

[strateguy632]

you saw the signs go after him.

[Asker]

See that's what makes me nervous. I don't want to put non-existent meaning to actions and fool myself. How do I know if they're signs? I appreciate your feedback and perspective.

[Anonymous]

No, it is meaningless.