"I wish you all the best" "You're a wonderful person but.." etc is unnecessary
It might be a controversial or arguable opinion and I can see why people have different views on it but it seems to me that when someone who's breaking up with you says 'I wish you all the best'/'you deserve so much better'/'you're a wonderful person' etc. it's just unnecessary.
It might just be my personal experience but hearing something like this has only ever made me feel worse or at least indifferent and didn't help at all. it's not that I don't think the other person really didn't intent to hurt me, it's just that *at that moment*, especially when you didn't expect the break up, 'the best' for you means being with the person who's breaking up with you and hearing that sentence from the person you think is the best for you (while they're leaving you) feels almost ironic. Same with, 'you'll find someone perfect for you' etc.. That person is literally who the 'breakupee' wants to be with and reminding them that they'll find someone *else* is just not doing any good. Again, I do realise it might be genuine but during the break up conversation it seems quite unnecessary. I'd much rather hear it weeks or months after when I'm mentally healed and ready to forgive the person, move on and generally feel more positive towards them, when anger and shock is gone than have those conflicting thoughts right after, because the process looks a bit like 'If they wish me best, if they think I will find someone better, why they don't wanna be with me while I think ***they*** *are the best* for me?' And of course, in the long term it's not true, but at that time it's just creating more confusion and sadness in my opinion.
After all, well I guess they wish the best for me if they really didn't wanna hurt me
