Why do men find it difficult to do the little things like give flowers or compliments?

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Pacquet · Accepted Answer

I think you just have to find your guy. You’re probably looking for these things from people who you don’t align with or aren’t compatible with.

Men are inundated with a lot of information on how to approach and treat women but you all like different things. I think a better question is why do you want those things and a what point specifically do you want them. When he meets you, on the first date, second date? Etc.

The way men think of complimenting women is “she hears that she’s pretty all the time, she won’t appreciate it if I say that”. As for flowers it feels a little gimmicky and over the top like movie and we feel more inclined to gift flowers for a special occasion.

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

So here is the thing, about doing things like giving flowers and things. The first time you do it she seems so happy and pleased. So in this equation A (Woman) + B (Flowers)= C (happy woman). So A+B=AB. Men in general can understand this math and will think that A+B= will always equal C.

But that is not the case, with woman. Because the first time its sweet and thoughtful... but the more he does it the more she realizes that giving her flowers is literally the easiest thing he could do for her. So, A+B= will not always equal C... and when it doesn't then he will be less likely to do it as often.

Alli39 · Accepted Answer

I mean some women do too (and some guys don't struggle with this at all, especially if words of affirmation/gift giving are their love languages), but I think guys in general aren't taught to openly express appreciation of the people around them in the same way as women.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

because men are douchebags these days. i'm not even joking. they don't act like they did back in the day. they don't want to commit these days. they get by on doing the bare minimum if they're even doing anything. they just don't care anymore.

coachTanthony · Answer

Women need to court men with flowers and compliments it's 2023.

ShesRad80 · Answer

the art of romance for the most part is dead. people jump on the movie trends of friends with benefits and easy hook ups. hopefully one day romance will be a thing again more mainstream and celebrated. i send heart filled notes and poetry however people have no clue what to do or how to react.

RingOfFire · Answer

It's a learned behavior. Once I discovered that romance was the key to reaching the part of a woman's brain that ignites her libido I couldn't fight the girls off with a tank!

People tend to think in terms of their OWN feelings and assume that others will react to the same things they do. But since men and women are different in so many ways, when a man treats a woman the way he wants to be treated or a woman treats a man they way she wants to be treated it doesn't always have the desired effect. Yes, there are many similarities in the way they like to be treated, but there are also some differences. Women are turned on by romance. Most men like it too, but mainly because it turns HER on so much. Men's sexuality is generally triggered more by other things.

rigmarole · Answer

Why exactly do you want mulch lady? You realize cut flowers are just dead rotting plants right? How about men just leave the garbage in the can for you? It generally has some dead rotting plant matter in it. It has a smell after a while as well... You ever stop to ask yourself why dead plants appeal to you? Do they really do anything, or do you want them just because other women told you to want them...

dynamicyandere · Answer

It’s not difficult at all.

It should be second nature. Like saying please and thank you. Or breathing. It’s not supposed to be hard. But, I suppose the guys you hang around with just aren’t very gentlemanly, hospitable, or well-mannered.

Nowadays though, kind gestures and good manners are not the norm, for either gender.

es_annie · Answer

I’m pretty sure it’s not at all difficult but majority of men have different ways of expressing their love. Women often don’t see the little things men do for them…doesn’t always have to be flowers or compliments 🤷🏻‍♀️

HelpfulWoman · Answer

I think this is to do with the men you're around then. I know several men who do this as habit.
I had to tell my dude to stop buying flowers because they die and I dislike it- so he could always buy me a succulent instead lol.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Most of the men I've been surrounded by (husband, exes, brothers, friends, cousins, my dad, uncles, etc.) throughout my life have been gallant and thoughtful. Giving flowers and compliments are not at all difficult for any of them.

Anonymous · Answer

Because to a man these types of things don’t have an affect on men. We don’t get that same feeling if we were to receive them so we really don’t understand the full extent of how it makes women feel. Not only that a lot of women these days don’t deserve flowers, they being very little to a man’s life. Men show live, affection in our eyes by doing things, fixing things, taking care of the bills, etc.

Throwawaynowknow · Answer

When men are in love, many want to do a lot for their woman. Yes, there usually is a drop in them doing this after the beginning stages of relationship, but that applies to a lot of other things too. I think they stop because they aren't feeling that strong in love feeling anymore and a lot of the times it's because they aren't getting their needs met. (Women may not either but that moves beyond scope of your question)

spartan55 · Answer

What are you doing to hold up your end of the relationship?

slatyb · Answer

Compliments? They without them as a way of enforcing her subservient role. If your partner does this, get the hell out so you can meet someone capable of giving love.

JackCarter · Answer

I don't know... but they should ! Especially cause it may be a little thing but would make her day!

Nikki1989 · Answer

Most men fail at romance. There are exceptions though and they are the keepers.

VanillaSalt · Answer

I used to do that shit all the time and she insists I never did today… by the way when are you going to return that effort?

ManOnFire · Answer

No, this is false. Men will sometimes do these  too  much to a point of annoying the woman and seeming needy.

Nazgol · Answer

They were never told its necessary. In some cultures the mom says to the son he has to give that to his partner on special occasions

JesseP1nk · Answer

Its not about "find it difficult" its about am i getting METOO´d when i make compliment and i dont like her.

exitseven · Answer

I never really saw a healthy relationship up close when I was younger. It took me a while to get all this sorted out.

serious · Answer

No it is not difficult at all, if the know the woman well enough then doing these things are easy.

Wonderingguyy · Answer

I think they  can  do it with no difficulty if they actually wanted to. Most guys don’t care to even think about it.

intovertedguy · Answer

I have no problem in doing those things. I only need to find a girlfriend so I can do them.

BigDog1989 · Answer

well flowers are expensive and, depending on who the guy is, compliments are only "good" when its by the "right" guy, right, guys?

Grovermint · Answer

A lot of men need guidance from the person they are with. Many of us think that helping to solve their problems is enough to show they care as opposed to little gifts. Actions speak louder.

Anonymous · Answer

Probably because we receive nothing in return. Ask literally any man. We NEVER receive compliments. Why do something like that when there is no return on it.

genericname85 · Answer

why is it that women find all these little things he doesn't do to feel bothered by it?

pethouse · Answer

Some men do and some men don’t. The guys that do have a word of affirmation and giving gifts type of love language types

jahaims · Answer

They don't find it difficult. Most people don't deserve flowers or compliments.

DerekC321 · Answer

I like to give flowers on Valentine's Day and birthdays, at least.

Anonymous · Answer

Don't assume the men you've dated are representative of mn as a whole. Most guys are not as you describe.

Anonymous · Answer

Actually don’t find it difficult last time I’ve done this for a girl she got pissed I did it I really was just doing it to be nice but after that she told me she had a boyfriend after that whole time.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

It's not difficult. Perhaps men don't believe you deserve such attention.

Anonymous · Answer

Guys realized it was a wasted effort for most women.

Anonymous · Answer

For the same reason that women find it so difficult to be WORTHY of flowers and compliments.

MementoMori777 · Answer

They do? *poof* here you go anon 💐🙂

Anonymous · Answer

Because they are cheesy things that are not in line with my manhood and my masculinity.

Treec · Answer

Because these feminists and liberals aren’t worth fucking nothing

Slim57 · Answer

I always give my girl compliments and I've gotten her flowers often

gothbxtch · Answer

i think you just know shitty men

Unit1 · Answer

Nobody taught us to do that. Figures.

Anonymous · Answer

Another GAG fact.

Anonymous · Answer

Why do when try change men and nag them 🤔🤔

007kingifrit · Answer

i don't at all

Anonymous · Answer

They don't.

jimmy2 · Answer

No daddy growing up

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