My boyfriend and his ex fling keep talking to each behind my back?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been together for over 8 months now but i started dating him when he had a fling and she cut him off then we started dating. But every now and then they would meet up and text each other especially when we go on a break or are arguing. So recently they met at a house party and then I overheard him argue with her on the phone about me. When i asked him about it he said he doesn’t want to tell me about it because I’ll feel bad and he told her that they should stop talking but I’m not sure if it’s true because he has a history of lying. I texted the girl and told her she can have him and she was definitely was cold to me. What should I do now because i like him but he came back saying he doesn’t want her but me

[_Maya_]

If he has a history of lying and talking to a previous fling that is not good. It is obviously effecting your relationship yet he does nothing to change that. If it were me I would break up with him. I get that you like him but if he lies to you and also still talks to an ex that would be a huge red flag for me. Seems like he runs to her whenever you two have issues. What happens when he does some time and they end up doing more than just talking?

[Asker]

So I just broke up with him, feels like a load has been lifted.. thank you

[_Maya_]

I am so glad you did. It is a big red flag and you deserve better. Good for you for doing the right thing.

[_Maya_]

Thank you for the most helpful opinion!

[HelpfulWoman]

huuuuuge red flag.
take the hints, though these "hints" are more like bright pink elephants. He doesn't take you as a serious option. You're only a "you'll do for now" deal.

[Asker]

Broke up with him! 🥳

[HelpfulWoman]

thanks for mho :)

[Lokiion]

This is honestly pretty funny to say the least how emotions cloud logic not trying to be mean or anything it’s just so stupid anyways why would you let it get this far you already said he has a history of lying and since he didn’t want to share what he discussed with her he definitely lied about the “I told her we should stop talking” part and since he talks to her when you have arguments he clearly likes her more then you why would you be so okay with cheating in the first place unless it’s an open relationship which it doesn’t seem that way it just sounds like you are being used

[Lokiion]

Just saw the reply that you broke up with him so there is no need to read what I had said

[Asker]

It’s okay I needed to hear this because I don’t know how I kept being convinced that it wasn’t a big deal, plus he had the tendency of apologizing and being really good for a couple of months but I’m happy with my decision now.

[Reem12345reem]

if he had a huge history of lying then why did u stay with him , that's already a reason to break up with him

and he goes back to her whenever u argue so he doesn't respect u , and they met at a house party , and they talk behind your back so he definitely thinks that this is wrong bc he's doing it BEHIND YOUR BACK

those are enough reasons to break up

[Asker]

I only texted because she was saying I stole him from her so I just wanted to let her know I’m out of the picture. As of now they are both blocked! I don’t intend to ever interact with them but it sure does hurt considering I need to detach from someone I’ve technically spent the last 2 years with (we met everyday)

[sheikalana]

You should have never texted the other woman. Regardless of what happens never get in touch with her again. He's dating you he's the one who owes you respect and he's been pretty shady and disrespectful towards you. He has to man and take this commitment seriously otherwise is not going to work especially if he tends to lie.

[OlderAndWiser]

He has a history of lying and he keeps talking to his ex behind your back and you tolerate it. So. . . he has an enormous dick and that's all that counts?

[ShesRad80]

he's doing the samething to you that he did to her, whatta dbag he is.

[WhitneySnow]

You need to make sure you trust him before you get back together with him

[boobliker]

then tel him it's up setting you and then walk out and go home.

[Asker]

🫡 I did just that

[In_Trance]

Dump him

[Asker]

Just did