What vibe am I giving to attract gold diggers and how to stop this?

[Anonymous]

Lately I can’t believe how I keep attracting these type of men. It’s unbelievable how I’m used to men who treated me like a queen and patience d for expensive meals because I’m on the same level. I don’t flash money or show off. I just present myself as a hard working woman who studies and is her own boss. I only show off when I trust the men and it’s on my same level of making money. I’m not that old. I’m 28 and I’m not that ugly. My ex was better than all of this guys who either ask me for money or make jokes regarding me working and then staying at home. 😩 I feel worthless if they only see me to get something from me

[Anonymous]

Well, you answered your own question. You present yourself as a hard working woman so that’s why you’re being used. These men aren’t gold diggers, they’re opportunists.
First and foremost, you need to take a good look at your environment , where you’re finding these men at. You don’t need to change who you are you need to change your environment. You more than likely won’t except to find a successful man if you’re dining at McDonalds, you’ll have much better luck if you book a reservation at Ruth’s Chris or something.
Second, evaluate what you say to these men, and to people in general, at first meeting. Present yourself differently and you’ll get different results. Being transparent or even straight up lying to these men deletes the potential for them to think they even have an opportunity to use you. Ask more than you answer. I used to attract a lot of narcissistic men, insecure ones. Now, when a man approaches, I ask them about themselves, what they do, what they want. Don’t talk about myself much and make myself appear boring, and a man that just wants to use me will see me as an unappealing target.

[Anonymous]

This is a you problem. I'll explain.

There are very few "gold digger" men because, unlike women, a person's resources is not what is important to men in the opposite sex. The only men who are like that are low quality men.

So, the answer you really need to be asking yourself is... what is it about you that only attracts low quality men?

[TheSpaceGnome]

Do you have anything in common with any of these men in terms of hobbies and interests? If you want to be valued as a person by someone, they have to relate to you.

[Anonymous]

Why did your last quality relationship end?

[Asker]

My only formal relationship end because he was my only formal man and I got bored. He works but the one who puts the ideas is me and I need someone like me. I can still keep him but I want someone like me. The second guy who wanted a formal relationship started making these comments here and there was kinda controlling immature so I started playing his game and he ended up calling me immature without knowing I was just mimicking his behavior but worse since I study psychology.

[Anonymous]

Just keep ignoring them.

[Danny_dan92]

Don’t show the gold