If you felt a man who rejected you was alone and regretting and I need of a friends would you contact him?

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just asking because this one guy rejected me and stalked 2 years later and i worried about them are they ok. i can stop thinking they are hard broken that i blocked them. however i feel they have a false profile on here and yesterday a couple of complete arseholes who also happen to be mormon like him and the same age messaged me on here. i dont know if he was him as i dont remember him being such a dick. although some stuff he sayed was true about me like i am old (comapared to him i am 29 ), i am not a virgin. he also says i am unatractive which personaly i dont think so but he could think that. i dont know if i should assume this massive harshole was him as he was under an anonymous account but if he isn't him and my real guy is alone suffering it might be unfair on him.

i dont know what to do.

blueonblack22 · Accepted Answer

Nah he needs to live with decision he made. He could have handled this better when he turned you down but he didn’t. He could have just said “hey thanks. But tbh i am just not interested” vs blocking you outright. Let him learn that there are consequences to his bad decisions.

Also I know it’s easier said than done but don’t take his rejection personally. If he rejected you for the wrong reasons it’s a HIM problem not a you a problem.

I think you are falling victim to the scarcity complex. That is if a guy is hard to get you think he is of high value. There is something “special” about him or something. It has to with mystery and challenge. But he made a rash decision to be rude/disrespectful on how he rejected you.

It’s time to stop giving people like that (male or female) second chances when they demonstrate bad behavior. That just emboldens then to keep doing their bs. They need a hard lesson when they make rash and/or disrespectful decisions. This is one of the reasons nobody should ever take back a ghoster (exceptions if they ghosted you for a legit reason e. g. they cheated on you)

Not to call the kettle black because I too gave way to much respect to women who didn’t deserve it when I was much younger. But there is no substitute for self respect. Hindsight is 20/20 but there were several women I gave way too many second chances to only to have them burn me again. They also had a million bs excuses but the ugly truth is they just had no respect for me. You can’t change those people but need to instead walk away and never look back

BoobSlayer · Accepted Answer

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AshViper · Accepted Answer

Let me get this straight.

A random out of nowhere account with a severe change in personality from what you knew previously and you somehow magically assume that it is some guy you rejected 2 years ago off of what exactly? The only connection happens to be they are Mormon.

Get a mental health evaluation.

If you can make such an assinine makes no sense whatsoever guess out of less than nothing - there's almost nothing to connect Guy A with Guy B - you are going to be used, abused and quite possibly killed by some random asshole you find on the internet.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

Nope. I gave him a chance, if he rejected me it means, I gave it a try, I tried what I could.

If I was that into him and still got rejected, I am not contacting anyone anymore.

He can deal with it alone.

Knowing the type of men I’m attracted to, they won’t be lonely for long.

ShadowYamihiro · Answer

Regardless if that person needs a friend or not you should block them and stay away from him. Definitely a toxic person and having a person like that in your life will only hurt you in the end. Doesn't matter if that is the same person or not block them. You have your own life to live, you deserve far more than to be treated poorly like that. Ignore trolls, disrespectful and toxic people, You deserve to be accepted for who you are and not be belittled, insulted and forced to question your own judgement. You are you, love yourself for that. Who doesn't return your feelings just accept that and move on. We all are judged and like or disliked for every choice we make in life. No matter how you act you will always displease someone so why bother having them in your life. Love and accept yourself and be surrounded by those who love, respect and accept you just the way you are. Everyone else is a background character, you and your family of your choosing are the main characters. Sorry if it sounds silly but that's how i think about stuff like this.

DaveJord · Answer

Okay let me walk this out. Let's say I'm a man because I am a man. And a woman rejected me, and then I stalked her 2 years later because I was worried about her missing me? Or I Justified my behavior because I know she's lonely and even though she rejected me, she might want me back? And that's okay because I am only worried about her being lonely?

Dude rejected you period end of story. You have no greater responsibility to this person. So whatever your concerns may be about their loneliness, I'm calling b*******.

_piotr · Answer

I am not experienced in dating, but what most people write here is a bit soulless. It's good that you have empathy. I generally think blocking somebody is rude and unnecessary unless this person keeps doing something very wrong against me. Some people learn from their experiences and change. You are not obliged to anything and you do not need to be in relationship with him. You can just be friends or you can even just talk or write something to him and cheer him up in this hard time just as a fellow good human (without planning to be his friend in future). However being good and kind can lead to people taking advantage of you, so you need to be on your guard.

Jlupton13 · Answer

Have you ever considered talking about these issues with a therapist? It sounds like you think about the guy a lot and feel guilty for what you did to him. t also sounds like you had a reason to do what you did. It also sounds like if he stalked you, it's probably a good idea to not communicate with him, and if there is someone who you even think might be him, just don't talk to whoever it is. If you need help with keeping boundaries, it's a good time to seek a therapist. It doesn't mean you're a bad person or you are weak or anything. Plenty of people get therapists and they really help.

AjayOnTheInternet · Answer

As for the random guy online, I wouldn't assume it's him. As for if you should keep trying, it depends. When I was in middle school I never dated, and even rejected girls. I did this because, I was insecure about how my life was. I was very poor, house was not upto safety codes, and our water didn't work for 3 years before we moved. I had to Shower and do laundry at grandparents house. I was too embarrassed of my life to ever open up and start dating, until I got my shit straight.

Fireguy17 · Answer

I'm sure whomever you blocked will be just fine.
Remember, he was stalking you, so you had every right to do exactly what you did.
You have to remember that stalkers will say and do anything, so you resume contact with them.
It could definitely be him under a false profile, or someone else that he had do it.
just move on and don't worry about his feelings, because if he cared at all about you, he would not have stalked you in the first place.
Does that make sense?

Anonymous · Answer

Having this much empathy is not good. You would be treated as use and throw and would be very tough to maintain any bit of self respect or take a stand. Your life would be complicate so much where you would be more like servent whom everyone would need and call but not enough standard to be someone's wife.

Yucy_Gluttony · Answer

I KNOW WHAT TO DO! BUT WE ARE NOT THE SAME SO I DONT KNOW IF TELLING YOU I wouldn't TALK TO HIM WOULD HELP. DONT CARE ABOUT PEOPLE WHO DO NOT CARE THEMSELVES

cnj421 · Answer

No. You don’t need to mother him. He is responsible for his own feelings. Why make it confusing for him to show you “care” when you rejected him for a reason.

Anonymous · Answer

here's a wild and crazy idea something your tiny brain probably never thought of doing but why don't you ask him questions and see what his responses are and look for clues to what he says but keep in mind there's a possibility he could lie about certain stuff you ask him or it could totally be someone else

Lady_Heart · Answer

He rejected you, now he sees you as what is left for him. Men r too cunning which is sad honestly. Good men r hard to find

spartan55 · Answer

I'm confused, why do you think this guy is in distress?

artgorgeous · Answer

If he rejected you, he rejected you. Deal with it.

DreamLife7 · Answer

I doubt he's heart broken about rejecting a woman he didn't want. Sounds like you're the heart broken one who won't let it go. Heal and move on stop stalking the man

DarkWinterNights · Answer

I wouldn’t worry about it. Regardless of who blocked who, it’s kind of a final thing on the internet. Just move on.

sheikalana · Answer

No LOL. Is not my job to comfort him if he’s feeling lonely.

jshm2 · Answer

Don't be stupid. That's how murders happen.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

You’re only gonna end up playing the fool. Leave it be

gxddess_ · Answer

Oh stop worrying about him, he will be alright I promise. So many guys out there. This guy belongs in the past now. He's not a baby that you should take care of.

AmeerX · Answer

Why do you have what if? Just reach him out and talk to him. And forget about anons words.

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