YES, YES, and YES.
It might take a lot of understanding a time. So let me tell you this thing. This some worldly advice from a guy like me that may not know shit, so do not take it as gossip or anything.
Men that only want sex are like that for a reason and let just say all it takes is the right women and you can change his religion. But you seriously have to be the right one. Many before you thought they were, and there is a good chance many after you will be the right one... but it only takes the one!!!
So, I was married for 24 years. I never dated for just sex, but I was married by the age of 20. So, at 44 I was single again. I thought dating would not be that hard, I never had any problem when I was younger, and now at 44 I have so much more to offer, and I have all this vast worldly knowledge and life experience. WRONG!!!
I just learned that life had not taught me everything I need to know about life. I dated many women in the last three years... like 17 of them, in three years. They all taught me something special and unique.
I learned as a man, after you have met all types of women, and suffered, loved and failed many times... all some women have to offer is sex, and for a short time that is all you really want from them, because like when woman say they do not need a man for anything, well a real man doesn't need a woman for anything more than sex, unless she makes him want more, and work for more... but sex is always a motivator early, often and throughout the process.
These men that talked of love without sex, I honestly for better or worse am not on the level. I need that physical act of love and reassurance before I can open my heart on a truly intimate level... but I know not all sex is truly intimate.
I learned that fact from women... who will have sex with a man... but not need one. They talk to you; they will have sex with you... but they are happy in their lives without you or any man. Women taught me that.
SEX IS NOT LOVE!!!
You can but it's unlikely. I would say in your case extremely unlikely.
This man's problem is going to be that he has no real world view of his own which can propel you two forward as a unit.
He wants to pay you. That means he thinks you value him for money right now and maybe he's hoping that you'll see something else in him but that's the problem right there.
He probably doesn't know what value he brings as a person besides his position in life. If you can find it and he fucks with it, I would say you have a shot at a pretty solid relationship but even still, people like this are usually insecure, they live in their own heads and even if they don't realize it or want to be they tend to be at least slightly psychopathic. So he'll probably be an ass without realizing it sometimes.
If your natural inclination is to avoid dates with him, then I think that's probably your answer there. Ask yourself, what is he offering you? Do you enjoy his company? Is this man's world view going to put you into a lifestyle you could be happy with for the rest of your life?
Am i the only one who will be offended if a man offers me money to hv sex with him? I don't thk he respects you and if u continue having sex with him u will get attached to him more n he won't. Men r different from women, for them sex it can be just sex n nothing else, so don't expect him to fall for u because of that. If u really want to hv something serious with him then stop these meaningless sex n tell me straight how u feel n take it slow to develop the relationship. He can just say yes to continue getting sex so be careful and just stop sex for sometime while u develop an emotional connection with him.
You can't make anyone fall in love with you. Trust me, I tried that. If he only wants sex with you for whatever his personal reasons are, there is no getting around it, you have to find someone else that's heart is more open and would be a good match for you as @midnightmoon05 was saying. Granted I DID make someone propose to me and "fall in love" with me (I don't know if it was BECAUSE the sex was good) but either way, it didn't really last because well, we weren't compatible in the end anyway. Good luck, you'll need it out there. It's tough.
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If the sex is mind blowing anything is possible.
Yes, you absolutely can make a guy who thinks he only wants sex from you, fall in love with you -- here's how you do it -- make yourself absolutely irresistible to him, prick tease him every chance you get, and most importantly, make him jealous! Convince him that you have at least two other guys whom you're dating occasionally, and that the sex with them is unbelievably thrilling, and give him subtle hints that his dick is considerably smaller than the other guys you're dating and having sex with.
Such a toxic misandrist evil tactic. Are you a masochist or something? Why did you suggest this femdom stuff? If a girl says this to me I would swear at her and block her immediately!!!
Yes, you can. But you'd have to do many various things for him to start taking you seriously. His is simp and a dickhead for offering you money for your pussy. That's weird. That's some weak shit, but I'll give you hand, I'll help you start.
You can start here:
Be feminine, 1. Be submissive, 2. Don't get a headache, 3. Find ways to make his life easier, 4. If you don't do these things-- you can forget about him falling in love with you.
If he falls in love with you anyway and commits to you-- jaa... His just a dickhead.
Its definitely possible but how probable depends entirely on how much he is invested, perhaps if you are trying to spend more time with him like hanging out , going out but not as a date, he might see a side of you that he will like, he also might realize he had feeling for you without even knowing about them if you do end this friends with benefits situation. In my opinion that is what you should do. Regardless of how you feel about him if he simply doesn't return those feelings then you are wasting your time and passing on opportunities to meet other guys who would have feelings for you and given the chance you might fall for them once you fell for yourself how it feels to be loved, cherished and wanted romantically.
Yes. First though, can he love? Some people can’t, like a sociopath. Does he love his mom etc? If so, then he can love which would be normal.
Second, do you have traits he would love? What kind of woman does he want? Are you that type of woman? Can you love and love him? You can fake it but it won’t work so could you connect at that level? You are inky 2 dates in, so no way to know yet. But if I understand you, he offered money for sex after 2 dates which is odd. Good luck.
So for all the people that said yes, answer this 1 simple question how do you make someone do anything especially fall in love with someone? bribe them offer them more etc? you can't make anyone do anything that they don't want to especially fall in love if you force love on them that's not right either there's a good chance it back fires on you. might be resentment regret hard feelings etc. hell parents can't even make there kids do anything now adays. love happens for reasons naturally. it can't be forced apon on anyone or make someone love someone bc that's not love.
First and foremost, do not stop having sex with him since you already started; if you do he will leave, as he should. Also, if you don't want to fall in love with him why are trying to get him to love you? Are you just trying to finesse him?
If you want a man to love you then you have to bring more to the table than just sex. You need to show him that you are relationship material by doing things for him without him asking like cooking for him, cleaning his place, submitting to him, and being as feminine and helpful as possible.
If you are looking for love… then look for someone who will take the time to get to know you outside of sex.
now he wants to pay you 🤦♀️… how do you think he sees you?
that’s humiliating!! Block him and start over. Sex will not keep a man.
Yes, it's possible. It's upto you how well you treat him and sexual satisfy him. Make him feel that you are his dream girl. If you feel he is a great guy then don't let him go and make him feel the same way. Understand his likes, dislikes, interests and hobbies. Give him what he wants, love and respect him, support him, treat him like a king, give him good food and good sex. I am sure, he will hesitate to leave you even though if you are not perfect. If you do it in a right way then he is all yours. I think this works on all types of guys.
Most likely not. advice for next time if you want a guy to fall in love with you hold off sex for as long as you can. His offering to pay for sex from you obviously that’s all thats on his mind not a relationship and he doesn’t see you in that way because if he did he will be coming with a different approach. All you can do now is learn for this move on and focus on yourself. you got this !!
If you're in the USA, that's HIGHLY UNLIKELY... only because I can tell you for a fact, being a guy, and being around guys, we don't trust women here anymore, and we don't think their motives are even remotely genuine anymore. That's why he expects that of you... because 99 percent under age 35 are just selling their ass online now. I just got through looking at Craigslist in about a half dozen mid sized cities and probably saw 15 ads total total posted in the last 2 days from women selling content... and it was listed under "job resumes." And none of those cities was CLOSE to being the size of Chicago or L. A. He expects that, because that's how most are now, and we know it.
I am going to say that it is extremely unlikely. The fact that he offered you money gives me the ick. I would put space between the two of you and do your own thing. Maybe he will ask you on a date that leads to a relationship, maybe he won’t. In the future you need to set your boundaries clearly in the beginning and don’t get sexual with someone so quickly.
but isn't buying flowers and giving them with chocolate and jewelery the same giving money?
never date someone who doesn't want a relationship.
because there usually is a reason why he doesn't want a relationship
men who don't want relationship tend to be terrible lovers because they didn't want such a thing in the first place.
you can fall in love due to really amazing sex. but this love will be short lived after you both realize there's no real chemistry between you both but just sexual attachment.
get rid of him before you fall for him.
u First of all, don't make yourself into a prostitute.
Second, no, you can't "make" someone fall in love with you. Love is a choice. Once you've given a guy like this your body, the game's over. He won't make that choice.
Third, do yourself a favor and wait until after getting married to have sex again. You'll save yourself a lot of time and heartache that way.
u 1. You can't MAKE someone fall in love you.
2. Would you want to have a partner who loved you only because of some trick, artifice, or manipulation that you did?
3. He offered to pay you for sex, so he thinks you are no more than a prostitute. This is your idea of a good relationship?
No! He's made it clear he doesn't want you. This is what annoys me about a lot of you chicks. Men are upfront, you chicks try to force them into something they don't want and then when they have sex with you and ditch you you're mad hollering "men ain't shit". He doesn't like you stop pestering him
The only way to do that is to have strict boundaries, no sex and to demonstrate femininity, that your word holds weight and that you love yourself enough never to ever relax those boundaries. If any of those things are missing there is no chance.
If someone only wants sex then it will most likely not be possible to get them to fall in love. It is not impossible per day, the reason fuck buddy or friends with benefits relationships don't usually last is because someone catches feelings. But from the sound of it this guy is really only interested in sex, so much so that he treated you like a prostitute by offering you money to fuck him
I feel like the real question here is why would you want him to fall in love with you, it seems like he’s found what he likes about you and it doesn’t seem to be your personality. What do you like about him?
𝐼 𝑑𝑜𝑛'𝑡 𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑘 𝑠𝑜. 𝐺𝑢𝑦𝑠 ℎ𝑎𝑣𝑒 𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑙𝑙𝑦 𝑎 𝑢𝑛𝑖𝑞𝑢𝑒 𝑤𝑎𝑦 𝑜𝑓 𝑓𝑎𝑙𝑙𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑖𝑛 𝑙𝑜𝑣𝑒. 𝑆𝑜 𝑖𝑓 ℎ𝑒 𝑛𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑟 𝑙𝑖𝑘𝑒𝑑 𝑎𝑡 𝑓𝑖𝑟𝑠𝑡. 𝐼𝑡 𝑤𝑜𝑛'𝑡 𝑝𝑟𝑜𝑏𝑎𝑏𝑙𝑦 ℎ𝑎𝑝𝑝𝑒𝑛
ROFL. Why would you want someone who puts you on par with a prostitute? I mean do you NOT have any self respect. He was fucking offering to pay you like you're a good for nothing whore of the streets.
How can you not feel disgusted that he offered you money for sex like a cheap whore?
What love are you even considering at this point?
Do yourself a favor and find someone else
Well, I don’t have a lot of experience. Only dated 2 guys. They were long relationships. I didn’t know he thinks of me as a prostitute. I thought he was just desperate since I rejected him
It's possible, but very unlikely. You've already demonstrated that you're easy, so that's how he sees you now. He even thinks you might take money for sex, and that's not a good sign. He has also shown you his true colors, and he's obviously not the kind of guy you would want to be serious with anyway.
No, he has a target in his head and he wanna do it, we don't how if he'll leave after achieving it or not but looks like he will leave, he doesn't deserve to be loved by you specially when he only care about his dick and nothing more.
No, he already knows what he wants from you, you’re not going to change his mind. I suggest moving on, you can definitely do better than someone who wanted to pay you for sex
I think he categorized you once he offered payment. You would not offer money to someone you have any kind of connection with. It is obviously just sex with him.
no. you can not force someone to feel that way for you. the fact he only wants sex lessens your chances from the initial no. attempts at doing so at best is only stringing him (and yourself) along at worst whoring yourself out.
Well, if the guy has clearly made you understand he first of all wants sex, and if he gets that sex, there is indeed a little possibility he may actually fall in love. Love knows no rules...
Cover everything. Like a Muslim woman. Except for your eyes. This might make him fall in love even if he don’t want to fall in love. DO NOT show your body. DO NOT expose any area of your body he needs to earn it.
Wear the COVID outfit again. Dress modestly. This will make him respect you.
However if you already gave him sex. I don’t think anything will work. You already look easy. In his head. you're EASY now. Nothing will change his mind. He already saw you naked.
No, you can't MAKE him fall in love. It happens or it doesn't. My guess is, in this case it won't.
No. The moment you have sex you trigger feelings of disgust. BECAUSE the mating strategy that involves fast sex also involves having sex with many different people. So when you put him in that mindset, he's not coming out of it. If you want commitment you have to learn how to have principles. But at this point, it'd be a little disgusting for the guys who would commit. Why were you letting other men smash and then expecting them to commit? You screwed yourself.
The chances are slim, you are wasting your time and maybe even making yourself less desirable to others in the process
Yeah just say to him "Nice try bud! You wanna have sex? Gotta fall in love with me first."
No. He doesn't want love, he wants sex.
You're trading in currency he doesn't accept.
Move on to someone who wants love AND sex.
The fact that you are in your mid to late twenties and asking this question is mind blowing.
A guy who is offering you money for sex is a guy you want to fall in love with you.
The internet is truly mesmerizing sometimes.
I don't know about that chief. He might just want to fuck.
You want him to fall in love with you but you don't want to fall in love with him?
It is possible. Sex is the bait for bonding
No. Relationships based on things like sex, status, money etc don't work with "love"
Probably NOT! If he offered you money, he just thinks of you as someone to have sex with, an amateur prostitute.
Why do you want him to fall in love with you if you don't want to fall in love with him? ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Because he offered me money and begs me for one last time and we’ll that looks like I’m a prostitute to him when he clearly knows I’m a wife material because I work lots of hours study travel my exes are better looking and can’t believe he’s acting like every other man who just opened a business and treats me like that.
I still don't get it. Why do you care if you are done with him? Maybe you are already in love.
If all he wants is sex than he thinks all you have to offer is sex. The answer to your question is NO.
Stop chasing Chad Thundercock and you will have better results.
You want a guy to fall in love with you that thinks of you as a prostitute? What is wrong with you?
Why would you try?
It’s a lost game.
At this point in your interaction there is no chance of him falling in love with you.
No. As the old saying goes, "Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free."
He just wants the sex. Especially since he offered you money for sex.
decline the sex.,. do things together without fucking and focus more on emotional connection.
no, cause the commitment that comes along with "love" is exactly the thing he does not want.
Over time, maybe, but don't hold your breath.
Stop having sex with him. You are starting to develop feelings. Please, let him go. He’s not someone you want feelings for. He doesn’t even respect you fully so no love will develop.
Highly unlikely. If he’s just using you for sex, don’t count on him falling in love with you.
The girl that "loves me" or so she says she does, only "wants sex" from me, right now. Whatever that means
He offered you money? So he thinks you are a hooker. I dont think she fall in love with you.
Mission impossible.
He will only break your heart, then you're just going to return here and ask us how to move on.
Nope. If its sex for pleasure it will stay there. You started it in the wrong path already. You might as well end up in that road alone too.
Don’t waste your time trying to change him or any other man!
You can't make anyone fall in love with you, ever, no matter what. As for taking payment, i doubt he's offering enough! If it gets to 6 figures, think about it. LOL
How are you unsure of this if you're 25-29 years old?
Maybe he's never been loved. Maybe he never felt loved from his parents. Some people just need a chance. It's harder for them because it's new where as some know nothing but.
Yes, as long as he’s getting sex from you no matter what.
It happens but have some respect for your body
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