Going through his phone is a bad idea isn't it?

[Anonymous]

Please read fully. I just posted a question similar to this about an hour ago but this is an updated version.

Original post: My boyfriend says he plays these games for the storyline. But there is full in sex and he knows it makes me uncomfortable but still plays them. He doesn't like me going near him for sex. He days it off putting. He is playing a new sex game rn. I am next to him, so I'll doubt he'll do anything. Why does he do this?

Update 1: He just went into the bathroom for over 10 minutes. Before he left he had a blanket over him and now the blanket is gone. I'm probably going through his phone tonight : (

Updated 2: After about 15 minutes after he went to the bathroom, I saw him fully rubbing himself under thr blanket again. He will turn me away instantly if I go near him.

[petitedollbabee]

If the trust is gone to the point that you want to breach his privacy and go through his phone, just cut the loss and break up. There’s obviously a flaw with the sex life between you two and you don’t sound happy. If you go through his phone and find nothing, what’s going to change? Nothing. You’ll still be unhappy.

[Asker]

True

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I don’t have a problem having checked mine, I would actually feel very sorry I couldn’t provide my partner with enough security to be sure in me and trust me.

So, I would want him to see with his own eyes, that there’s nothing he needs to worry about.

But then, I’d expect him to trust me without wanting to check my mobile.

[Anonymous]

I can understand why he doesn't want you near him. You overreact about him masturbating and made it known you don't want him doing this. Now you have an issue with him playing video games because they contain sex. Worst of all you are on the verge of breaching his trust by wanting to go through his phone.

Don't get into a relationship if you are going to be controlling and go through someone private property. You aren't his wife so you had no right to even touch his phone

[Asker]

He has a porn addiction and I know what I am doing is wrong.

[Asker]

He has broken my heart and self esteem into a million pieces

[Mamaliv]

Going through his phone and seeing what you already know is just gonna make you feel worse. Hard as it may be, if I were you I’d grab my stuff and leave.

[Asker]

I did and it made it worse :(

[Kelly6]

If you are going through his phone then you have already passed the thresh hold, it's game over

[Asker]

I passed that line years ago then:(

[Anonymous]

If he has a problem with you looking at his phone, you know he is hiding something.

[Asker]

True

[Anonymous]

Why haven't you dumped that clown yet?