We've been talking for a month, I noticed that he does not try to intiate a subject to talk about and I find myself trying to goindo that a lot?

[Anonymous]

So he saw me at a wedding (we are a bit more of a traditional culture people) and he asked a common relative to give him my number and he then texted me he lives abroad and so when we talk he doesn't really put a lot of effort into trying to keep the conversation going and try to text me more, i didn't text him for like 5 days and eventually i texted him ( also he works a lot of hours during the day but i don't think that's an excuse to not text me) i would like to know what you guys think and do you think it's normal that a couple doing long distance don't talk for several day or do they talk everyday

[Anonymous]

He is not that interested like you are!

Probably had 3 girls he is texting right now and your like 3rd?

So why put any effort into it? Your going to him so your easy!

Really shows he is not interested in a serious relationship!

Might not want a traditional relationship just sex?

[Asker]

He said that he'll come on December so that we meet and discuss and make serious decisions oh also he's looking for a wife so we are discussing marriage, do you think that this behaviour will affect me later on if we get married, also do you think i should not text him at all to see what he would do

[Opinion Owner]

Don't text him for a month and in like a week if he won't text then yes it will affect your marriage!

Is a marriage loving in your tradition or just business?

Not being mean asking!

He might just wanna be married easy sex and still act single! Here in India most guys want that for free sex and free home after messing up!

[Asker]

Well we are muslims and marriage is a sacred thing, can i ask your opinion on romantic relationships like why do we even need that, sorry my aquarius nature just came onto the surface right now and i am confused

[Opinion Owner]

No it is important to understand and that there is romance or you will eventually start hating him wanting to get away!

Marriage is 150% work on both sides or just becomes boring tiring work living with someone else and sex will become such a pain making you hate it!

Not texting imagine if he ignores you for days while next to you in the same room!

[Asker]

I don't know if that's just his personality and he's just not so romantic and a very logical man, or if he just a loser and doesn't know how to keep a convo going with a girl

[Asker]

I will try the no contact to see what he does because after all it's the guy that has to put more effort and go for the girl and try to win her heart, i will update you later!

[Opinion Owner]

More. likeky. a loser who does not care!

What do you like about him or just like that he talks with you?

Well ask any married women and romance is a big need in a marriage!

[Opinion Owner]

Remember he has to win your heart!

Not just be there for you to find over!

He has to give effort! Beyond just texting

[spartan55]

Texting gets very boring very fast. Most guys hate texting.

[Asker]

So it's normal right? But why is it that when i texted him after a while i asked why he didn't text me and he told me why did i disappear and didn't text him

[Asker]

Isn't he the one who should text more since he's the guy?

[spartan55]

Well yeah, it's a two street. He was probably tired of making all the effort and wanted to see some from you.

[Asker]

Since the beginning i always found myself the one to be more trying to make the conversations going, could it be that he's just not used to talking to girls a lot

[spartan55]

See my first comment.

[spartan55]

Because he's the guy? Ugh... honestly it doesn't matter who texts first. But if either party looks at it as a gauge of interest then you a potential problem. Neither party should be the first to text everytime.