How can I stop certain guys from annoying me?

[Anonymous]

So context: I'm talking about 8 boys (it started age 13 and ended around mid 16) which I was only in the talking stage with all different time periods before my relationship.

I never did anything w/ them not even kissing. The most they got was a hug.

They all ended in the same way, I didn't feel like they were right for me 'cause I kinda felt uncomfortable in their presence like they gave me anxiety (I felt like I didn't like them romantically) and they didn't like the fact that I didn't give a lot of attention.

It was all fine when I was single (or so it seemed) but when I got a boyfriend they all started acting weird af. They started trying to talk to me online and irl although we weren't friends anymore but I didn't think too much of it. Were annoying to my boyfriend by following him around and shouting his name and talking ab me (like little children) always critiquing everything about him but my classmates also constantly did that right in my face so I was used to it (I went to a school with 1000 boys and like only a 100 girls and yes that's possible in Belgium lol) it's so annoying.. why do they feel the need to involve themselves in my life? I was literally no ones girlfriend 'cause my boyfriend is still my first love. How can I make them stop? I already blocked the really annoying ones

[Anonymous]

My friends and I were all 13 and had lost our virginities too our boyfriends and had been having loads of sex but none of us had ever had an orgasm. So during a sleep over we got talking about sex with one of my friend's sister and her friend (who later turned out to be her girlfriend) and she told us that it's because our clitorouses were too small and that we needed to grow them and that way we would be able to cum with our boyfriend's. So we asked how to do that and she coyly told us that we needed to while relaxing in bed rub baby lotion on our clits for an hour maybe more until they were as big as a hammer and she explained to us where our clits were. So that's what we 4 did that night, just kept rubbing our clits all night having multiple orgasms together. It was pretty intense. My friend's sister and her friend asked us about it the next day laughing. My boyfriend was never able to give me an orgasm but masturbating by myself and with my friends did. Still can't look at a bottle of baby lotion without getting wet.

[Anonymous]

They are likely doing it because they are jealous you are with him so they are annoying him to try and get him to dump you. Jealously and being rejected can bring out the evil side to people

[bowenw]

If this is happening at a school, I suggest reporting them. If they are breaking laws you may want to involve the police. Also involve your parents.

[bowenw]

Thank you for the MHO. 😊

[Friendlybro79]

If they're following you and harassing you can you get a restraining order?

[Asker]

It's not a thing in my country

[Friendlybro79]

I just looked up restraining orders I'm Belgium and there are times where it is done in your country but what you're experiencing might not be enough to qualify for that. If you block them online and they try to continue to harass you online and in public you should ask local law enforcement if there's anything to help you if you feel unsafe. If they're just annoying you I say write a letter to their parents and embarrass them since they're acting like children. That might backfire though lol

[Asker]

Okay I don't know their parents tho and I don't really have their addresses also 😅

[Friendlybro79]

I was kind of joking with the parents. You might have to continue to ignore them. If you pay any attention it will keep happening.

[justabuddy]

Growing up is an interesting adventure. You learn to deal with these type of feelings. Best to handle it gently at first, try to let it pass. You might have to report them tho if it goes too far or report to the police, these things do get out of control. One of the things you have to deal with as an attractive person.

[lisalikes]

Mixed blessing. A ratio of 100 guys to one girl sounds nice. I guess you can always just ask them in front of each other. "why do you act like a baby?"

[Still-alive]

Give them a stern direct warning to stop being annoying

if they continue to do so block em.

[BigDog1989]

You can't PREVENT annoyance but, you can call it out

[Wise4myage]

Can headphones help?

[Asker]

I already wear them 🥲

[Wise4myage]

Then just ignore anyone who bothers you.

[Asker]

I already do that tbh I continue walking and act like no one is talking to me

[Wise4myage]

I guess you can’t do much else?

[Daniela1982]

Hire some big guys to kick their asses.

[ChefPapiChulo]

tell them to fuck off.

[Asker]

Already tried to 🥲

[ChefPapiChulo]

give them 0 attention and they'll eventually stop.

[Christoff92]

Just focus on you. Don't let them in your head.

[shades777]

grow tf up, those are kids

[Jennz6]

Are you married now?

[Asker]

No 😅

[ChefPapiChulo]

Jennz is a catfish by the way.

[AmeerX]

She needs to marry him 🙂. It will repel all the annoying guys from putting a hand on her figuratively

[Asker]

@AmeerX I'm not sure if I want to marry him so soon

[AmeerX]

😔 I just want to tell you, don't let him make you wait years and years. You are young and everything. It's a mistake to think someone loves you and then he uses you and finally dumps you then no one will blame him as much as they will blame you.
Please be vigilant about what you want out of the relationship. Do express to him your desire for marriage and engagement even if it's going to happen in an years time.
If he is just a stupid boy he will not marry you but keep you in girlfriend stage and sleep with you and then what

[ChefPapiChulo]

@AmeerX buddy i dont think you are aware of the difference in cultures.

[BLP11520]

Have you confronted them face to face?

[Asker]

I just told them to stop and I didn't like that face to face but that made it even worse

[BLP11520]

Well that doesn't sound good

[YAsQuen]

cringe fake attention grab

[Cheerfull009]

Report to police to stop harassing you

[Solo3k]

U single shawty?

[DreamLife7]

Grow up