I was dating this guy for like 6 weeks. We text every day, though near the end he became more and more inconsistent until eventually he just disappeared one day.
Fast forward two weeks later, and I get a random text from him. He sends me a long paragraph apologising for disappearing and tells me his reasons. He then proceeds to tell me how amazing I am and how I don’t deserve to be treated this way. He tells me he’s been so busy lately but he’s been lonely for months now and so he’s been working so much to mask this. He sends me a photograph of his new dog and tells me how he hopes the dog will help him through what he’s going through.
I reply thanking him for the apology. I tell him I’m glad he finally got the dog he’d always talked about wanting and I mentioned how I’d been out to some bar near his home town just the night before.
He takes all day to respond and then eventually sends me a text basically saying farewell. He tells me how he’s sorry again, how I don’t deserve to be treated the way he’s treated me, how I deserve far better. The guy even says “good luck with everything” and ends with “keep in touch”.
Like what? First he’s all apologetic and is grovelling to me about how he treated me badly. He opens up the conversation again, showing me his dog. Then the next thing, he’s wishing me well and telling me I deserve someone who will treat me right?
Why bother breaking silence? Like, carry on ghosting me.. why bother texting? What were his intentions in apologising and telling me how amazing I am?
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He’s indecisive, inconsistent and stupid. I’ve dealt with men like him in the past and I’d say you’re better off not even caring that he ghosted. Just not worth the energy. Then never speak with him again, the biggest mistake you can make is giving him another chance after this.
What’s the point in an apology though? It very much felt like he was trying to start it up again
Thank you for your answer too! Men say we are complicated, but honestly, I just don’t get them! 💛
You’re not alone, I’ve experienced this in the past and it is absolutely like a wtf moment. I just say it’s not worth regarding because clearly he is indecisive and doesn’t know what he wants. I know one thing for sure, there are many men busier and more successful than him who have whole families, so if he wanted to prioritize a relationship along with his Schedule he would. I’ve been fortunate enough to experience this first-hand and can attest to this.
Thank you 💛 it’s so hard isn’t it. Hearing that I’m not alone in experiencing this behaviour helps a lot
wtf would you keep talking to him?