Why would a guy be so secretive if we aren’t together?

[Anonymous]

I like this guy but at some times it feels like he’s into me too but there are times he puts me in the friend zone. He’s gotten upset a few times I’ve hung out with some guys but later on he reminds me we are just friends.

The days we are together he keeps his phone at a distant but will check his phone constantly at a distant. We hang out in his living room but he leaves his phone in the kitchen. I asked if I could see what he’s up to on his phone which ended with an no. I even told him he doesn’t need to hide anything cause we aren’t actually dating but he continues to be suspicious. All of this just started happening. He was never secretive with his phone like that or keeping it far away from us.

I really like him but I’m not sure whether to continue to fall for him or date other guys.

[Kevininja363]

Let the man have his privacy. He doesn’t like it when you have guy friends because 99 times out of 100 the “friend” wants to sleep with you. You aren’t dating yes, so let him have his privacy. Trust builds over time. The dude might think that distancing himself is good because he’s taught that a man doesn’t show his feelings and if his feelings are shown then he is weak. Be patient with him and he will trust you more and more. He has nothing to hide, sure, but he doesn’t want anyone to look at his life. If he wants to share it with you he will.

[Anonymous]

First of all it’s his right to privacy. Second just cause you two aren’t dating doesn’t mean nothing in regards to showing you what he’s doing on his phone. What if he was watching porn? Maybe looking at nudes of girls you know. Would that change how you thought about him? How you see him? Probably. Second to me it sounds like he’s not interested in you as far as an actual relationship. Maybe for sex but that’s about it. But you say sometimes it feels like he’s into you, which you may be reading wrong. It could just be that he likes the attention, the high he gets from having women want him while still sleeping w other women. Men get like that sometime. They may not talk to a girl as much but the minute she’s talking to a new dude they get mad, give you the silent treatment or say something mean or stupid. Sure maybe he likes you but in what way? For something serious or just for sex?

[Anonymous]

The guy sounds exhausting and annoying. Move on from that headache