Do guys like you after they get in your pants or do they just ignore you?

[kova_808]

Just wondering

[DaveJord]

I am going to hold true to my form and just give you the down and dirty truth.

Some men are just bad types of people and there is no way of knowing sometimes, so this response only applies to normal or someone that has some sense of values and ethics.

You met women and you connect with her. You ask her what type of relationship she is looking for and the answer 90% of the time is love and commitment. Then you tell her, the truth. And the truth is this, love and marriage are goals... but it's the time and emotional investment you put into it, that determines what type of relationship it is.

So, they totally agree with this and move forward with the potential relationship... then the games begin!!!

At some point as the man, you realize that this woman does bring a lot to the table, but she is making no time or putting out no effort. At that point in time, it's not that she doesn't bring a lot to the table, it's that she is not really offering you anything. It just one line of excuses and drama after another...

It's at that point you, as man start to do the math... because you are losing interest in this woman rapidly, by the minute. But you have paid for dates, you have invested all this emotion energy and time into it... and you realize she is not worth any of that.

BUT!!! If you play it right, you might be able to get sex out of it at least once so you can say it was at least worth it for that... because she is seriously offering you nothing else of value.

At this point in time... sexy factor plays a part. Say you manage to hang in there long enough with all the games. That eventually you get sex.

At this point if the sex is bad, you pull the plug and say thanks no thanks.

If the sex is good you might hang in there long enough to get sex more than once, and if she changes her behaviors and improves on how she treats you... then it might still lead to a good healthy and productive relationship.

Chances are though it won't, so you cash in on the sex and cut and run. Some women think just because they open their legs, that they got you hooked like a fish on the line. WRONG! You were not a good person before and now you are even worse.

Bottom line, after 47 years of life... chasing sex from women never really plays out well. The substantive qualities of a productive relationship were never there, and sex never makes it any easier... but it does give you some type of take way, where you can say you seriously tried, but she was too complicated, but after all the bullshit at least I got laid.

[MrOracle]

You are using "like" in a confusing way, so I am going to explain how most men think and operate, and hopefully answer this question in a more useful way.

To start with, a guy generally knows if he has ROMANTIC feelings for you or not after his first time spending time with you, or at least around you and observing you interact with others. He doesn't need to have ever touched you to know this, but he must have experienced your personality.

It's ALSO true that nearly every man (assuming he's single and straight) who finds you physically attractive wants to bang you. This includes men with romantic feelings for you AND a large number of men who do not. In fact, it's the norm for a girl who is at least somewhat physically attractive to have 10-20 men who just want to bang her for every man who has feelings for her.

This is why it is CRITICAL for girls to understand the difference between ROMANTIC attraction and SEXUAL attraction - women see these as virtually the same thing, but for men, they are completely separate and just happen to overlap occasionally.

Generally, if a man is talking to you, and he's mostly talking about dating or doing things with you in the future, he probably has romantic feelings for you. If instead he's mostly talking sexually or he's trying to get you alone with him, he just wants to bang, and will likely ghost you afterwards.

The problem for you is that virtually all of the most attractive guys - the ones you will have the strongest infatuation for - will be in the second group. Such guys are attractive to you because they are attractive to every girl, and for the same reason, they GET tons of girls easily, and so there is no benefit to them to commit to any one woman when they have access to all of them.

If you choose those highly attractive guys, you will get laid, but little more. If you want a real relationship, you have to choose the guys who are actually looking for a real relationship - and that usually means NOT the hot or higher status guys.

Every girl today is trying to have it all - the hot, tall, rich, ambitious, yet available guy that every other girl wants but yet will remain faithful just to her. That's why so many girls are single and why so many others get ran through. You are far more likely to find a a rainbow-colored unicorn shitting glitter and carrying a duffel bag full of $100 bills than a guy like that, because no such man exists - even Victoria's Secret Angels can't get such men, because they are just a fantasy.

[_Maya_]

Not all guys are like that. Certainly some guys are only going to want you for your body but there are a lot of decent guys out there that will like you for who you are and not just view you as a sex object. That is the tough part is finding the latter. Being patient in a relationship with intimacy can weed out the ones just looking for a piece of ass. If you don't jump in bed with a guy right away you can see if he gets bored or is willing to wait and put in the effort.

[Kokoaquest]

In my experience withholding sex and having good consistent conversation about your values and perspectives on topics that are important to each of you will weed out the players and Fk boys... If you can't connect interellectually then why would you work as a couple once physical connection is initiated.

[Anonymous]

If you dont want to be used than you have to be upfront and say "this is what I want, I don't want to only fuck I want a boyfriend or a husband" or whatever the fuck.

99% of guys will just lie to you to fuck you. Hell, some of them will even go so far as to marry you.

Not because he loves you. But because you were the first female to give him pussy so he locked it down with a ring.

Some guys are that pathetic. And most dudes will say or do anything to get laid.

Even if he's nice.

So what do you do? Lock down the pussy and never fuck anyone because it probably won't lead to marriage? Because if that's what it is you have to demand that and not do it till you're married.

That's crazy to me I'd never do such a thing. But hey maybe some poor schmuck will.

I think you should just meet a guy you like who is kind but also probably knows how to plow the puss after he teases it and eats.

Ya know? Like thats what the other girls wish for. They dream of fucking the guy who is nice and capable of satisfying her sexual needs in the bedroom. In like a conscious way not just a "natural skill" way.

Like some guys know what's up. Period. We know how to make any woman satisfied. Because we care.

Find that guy. I guess there's not that many? I'm not sure.

[Robocod]

There are men that only look for sex and once they got it they leave. If they tricked the woman with eternal love promises then shame on them, but if for some reason you two ended up in bed first and only after you got to know each other better maybe he didn't feel a connection and he didn't want to pursue a relationship with you.

Nobody's fault in this case, you both had some action and that's it.

Try to connect with the man before letting him in your pants to reduce this risk.

Also, be a woman of value, don't think the content of your pants is enough to convince a man to invest in a relationship.

I'm not saying you are not, it's a general advice to women: if you ladies want to secure a man please know that sex is the beginning of the journey, not the end.

[OlderAndWiser]

If a guy thinks of it as "getting in your pants," then all he wanted was sex. Depending on his circumstances, he may want to continue in a relationship with you just for the benefit of having sex again, but some guys will lose interest after they had made their conquest.

I think more guys are interesting in finding a partner for a serious relationship, especially as they get older, and they will think of intimacy with you as "making love" instead of just "fucking."

All guys are not alike and don't assume the next guy will be just like the last guy.

[dynamicyandere]

It depends on the guy.


If he’s desensitized to the bonding effect that sex is supposed to create, then it likely didn’t do anything to bring him emotionally closer.


But, sex is supposed to have a natural bonding effect, so for some guys they will catch feelings.


For me, my pair-bonding is still very much intact, so I can’t have sex someone without catching some feelings.


So, I only have sex with people with whom I’m already in an exclusive and long-term relationship with, because I want to hold onto whoever I have sex with, and because I want the sex to mean something.


If this guy is in the casual sex scene though, it’s likely that his pair-bonding tendencies are long gone.

[Nirmroth]

What I noticed over the years that casual dating dynamics are different for each gender.
Talking about dating app experience here of me and my friends.

A women usually is very reserved or shows only medium to low interest at you. The conversations are lead by the man. After having sex it changes though. Suddenly the tables turns and its the women who peaks in her interest while the man is now low/medium interested.

Guess there's some biological factor at play here. It is how it is.

[Nirmroth]

Guess its how males are more primed to "spread their seed" aka have sex while women subconsciously care more about the security of their potential offspring after sex.
ain't that far away from apes like we think we are

[Joshydavid25]

Yeah, plenty of guys still like you after they get in your pants.. See the thing that a lot of people don't understand (especially a lot of women.) Most of the people men only want to lay with are people they wouldn't consider for a relationship whether it be maybe they don't think they're that attractive, maybe they do but don't like their attitude, maybe there's something about them that's stopping them.. If you're a cute girl with a nice pleasant personality, they'll definitely stick around.. You'll know a guy wants to stick around if you withhold sex and sex if he wants to get to know you.

[BigDog1989]

A lot of people believe women need love to have sex, and that men need sex to feel love. It's all in what you believe.

The problem with love is, different people show it in different ways. So, like, for example, they may love you, but, show it in a different way. The girl i like, will say it, (though i don't believe it), while, I try to show it, but have never said it (even though I don't think she thinks I do), likely because i won't say it, and she will

What is love though? Like, why is it any different than the word "like". "i LIKE you" vs. "i LOVE you"

[FunkyMonkee]

It depends largely on the guy! I had two guitarists in my band that'd fuck anything in a skirt that stood still long enough! Once they got what they wanted, they never wanted to even see her, again! Both had a steady girlfriend and/or wife at the time!
I, on the other hand, would MUCH rather just have a steady girlfriend or wife so, once I get a girl, I'd prefer to keep her. I want a relationship, not just a quick wick dip! (Say THAT 5 times, fast!)

[katiesmuff]

Depends on the guy! Some will be sincere and really like you and once they get some of your pussy will continue to be just a genuine and want to continue a dating friendship.

Then there are the guys which pussy is all they were after!

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

It's actually post nut clarity

[elizamichale1]

U get both kind of guts honey... sum just want sex n nothing after... but sum would definitely remain in touch

[Sparkie460]

It depends on the guy and how long it took to get in your pants. Some guys will get what they want from you and move on to the next woman. Other guys will will adore you and stay in a relationship with you.

[MikeTheBartender]

Both. That's why you gotta vet out the second group. Both nice guys and assholes wanna fuck you. But the nice guys will care about your feelings also and you as a person. They will likely want to stick around for a long time.

[Ms_Facesitter]

If sex was his only goal he'll just ignore you after.

[Fireguy17]

Yes.

While many guys just want sex and they are gone, there are some that consider it very special and it can make you closer to each other.

[Nikki1989]

Most guys will use you up and spit you out. There are good men out there, but it takes some searching.

[BarryLiverstone]

If you took the time before intimacy to make a connection and earn trust. If he likes you genuinely before then he should after

[Anemone978]

I suppose.. I only let one guy in mine so.. who knows they probably wouldn't xD

[Billlewis]

I'm usually very sweet and generous to her after another guy has gotten into her pants;)

[RingOfFire]

Depends on what the rest of the relationship is like. If you give it up to easily, chances are you won't be respected by the guy.

[ProbablyClueless]

The "liking" happens before the sex, ideally.

[DextroShade]

If he ignores you after getting the box he never really liked you to begin with and just saw you as recreational use only.

[hbkfan]

Well I still have feelings for my ex even after we slept together so it's different for everyone when it comes to that concept of dating/hooking up

[Kinkyhubby]

Depends on the guy. Some guys are just after the hunt to get you in bed, and to use you for sex. Other guys may actually want a relationship

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

Not all but
Guys with option will leave u
Their is very high probability because of post nut clearity

[Unit1]

Remember - first comes the relationship and then the sex. Not the other way around.

[Anonymous]

If it's your husband then you have less chances of them showing no interest but if he is someone like a fling then you are probably pumped and dumped

[Wise4myage]

Yes, but you have to make us earn being in your pants!

[Luckycharms12]

Depends on person some men really like the girl. Others will just want sex and go

[YAsQuen]

its very easy to tell which is which. The more physically attractive he is the more likely he just wants in ur pants

[Kristierose]

I think it depends on who they are and what they want not every pick up in a barr want the same out of life

[QuietRunner]

if we want in your pants again then we will still like you

otherwise

you'll probably be ignore especially at 18

[Ifitbtbtb]

Fornication is a sin. It’s hatred, not love. I would think they typically hate you more after it.

[Light_beam]

could a western girl ever say that?

[HiveBee]

Fornication is not sin. Sorry to burst your religious bubble.

Nobody is going to hell.

[Kokoaquest]

Not a sin, western society has made it about sin because sexual liberation and exploration could damage reputation and hierarchy. But really it's natural we all do it, how can a activity that brings life and pleasure into this word be a sin. I think war is a sin.

[Anonymous]

Depends how early you give it to him. At the very least wait for things to solidify first

[Anonymous]

I only chase pussy after I get in her pant i block her...

[Dinklex3]

lol.

Some do, some don’t

[leahzrc]

they will always like you more

[jaskin777]

All depends on the guy

[jahaims]

Only if he is using you.

[Charliefretz329]

Like her more… return for repeats! 🥰

[Djaay]

Are you from Hawaii? The area code , that's why.

[Anonymous]

No all guys
And how easy he did it?

[riverrat3]

Could go either way