Share experiences of having to socialize with someone who ghosted you, as if everything was normal?

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A guy I dated ghosted me, but I still may have to see him again in group gatherings. As an introvert, I look insecure in group gatherings regardless. Any tips on how interact with the group and him if this ever happens? I worry that he'll be able to tell from my facial expressions that I was affected by him ghosting me. I know men don't tend to pick up those subtleties, but he's the insecurity police who has an easier time of identifying emotional states. He often complains that women try to trap men, so I feel like that allows me to just say hello and continue the rest of the evening talking or at least listening to others.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I was once in a friend group with a guy who cheated on me and starting bringing that girl around our friends, so I don't know if that’s ghosting but it was definitely hurtful.
My advice is to heal first. I forced myself into awkward social situations with him just for the sake of not wanting him to think I was hurt or broken, plus they were my friends too and I didn’t find it fair to miss outings on his behalf. I didn’t want to feel replaced or gossiped about, I was eager to show my strength when that shouldn’t have been priority.
In hindsight I wouldn’t have worried so much about keeping up appearances and kept my distance for at least a few months, I’d also have arranged to hang out with those friends separately while I healed. I put myself through a lot of unnecessary stress, anxiety and pain.

DancingQueen16 · Accepted Answer

So this was in my second year of high school and I was in my theater history class and the girl who was sitting behind me was someone who was my best friend in elementary school but once we started middle school she just all of a sudden stopped talking to me anyway one day she dropped her pencil and it landed near my seat and she asked me if I could pick it up for her and I did and that was the first time she had spoken to me in years

Andres77 · Accepted Answer

When you think of him just start saying to yourself “parasite boy”. Every time. And when you see him, think the same thing. I’m an introvert too. I don’t look insecure, I look annoyed by having to be around other people. You have some skills and abilities that you’re confident in. Maybe a little self-talk would help. What I teach my daughters is “competence breeds confidence”. Be encouraged by your own expertise, start in one area and branch out. Your confidence will grow.

and that guy can kiss your patooty. Who needs an arrofa

BoopBoopBeep · Accepted Answer

I've never been ghosted before, nor ghosted someone else, so take that with a grain of salt. Honestly, once we're broken up, I don't care what my ex's facial expressions consist of. Just interact with the rest of the group as you normally would. I'm sure they have a general understanding of what happened.

smne35 · Answer

First of if he can't accept you as your are then you need not concern yourself with him any further, you should have zero concerns behind with and around someone but as far as tips just be your natural self always never change anything about your to please anyone that's, pretend, false

exitseven · Answer

Ghosting was not a thing when I was dating. A girlfriend dumped me and went back with her old boyfriend. She did it in a very cruel way and she really hurt me,
I ran into her at a party a few months later, she came over to me and tried to hug me like everything was okay. I just put up my arm, bent at the elbow and looked at her and just said "Don't"/

RealMarek · Answer

I would pretend to not notice him and if he asks why you won’t acknowledge or speak with him you can say that you’re ghosting him like he ghosted you.

nevooo · Answer

this sounds extremely awkward and has only happened to me once. a person told me some really personal things, for a reason i couldnt even tell you cause i didn't ask, then i guess got embarassing and disappeared from out friend group entirely to avoid me.

7Phoenix7 · Answer

Treat him as a ghost. Act like he's not there and focus on everyone else.

Anemone978 · Answer

I would not even acknowledge him in the group but just be yourself and try to enjoy your time talking with people..

lightbulb27 · Answer

just call him out..."hey you ghosted me"... and laugh. end of story... if you are emotional about it, then he has control of you. see how that works?

007kingifrit · Answer

i'd call them out on it, publicly

the only time i had to interact with someone who did that to me she actually apologized and said said sometimes she just takes a me day. but she's done it twice i dunno

TooHot2Care · Answer

The fact that you are in the same room and it bothers you means you should not BE in that room.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

To put forth the effort to finally send them a text message.

Anonymous · Answer

you just dont care and you live your peaceful single life

shortster · Answer

Ask him if his phone works. Then proceed to shame him for ghosting you if he says yes.

jahaims · Answer

I only socialize with people I enjoy

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To put forth the effort to finally send them a text message.

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