Do men avoid women if they are sexually attracted to her?

Question

Is it difficult for men to approach woman they are sexually attracted to her, whenever they meet he got excited just by looking at her
If he met her talked to her, hear her voice on the phone he got excited
He is very attracted to her but never talk to her if she talks to him he avoids her
Why he doesn't approach her?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I don't want to admit my feelings to any girl anymore. Women and girls simply want to follow warped ideologies like feminism of today and it's disappointing to see many females around the world, especially western country be deceived by politicians, magicians, those in Hollywood, musicians and even their so-called "female friends". I think women don't understand that men are simple -- a man who values himself is loyal at heart will just have a few hobbies like playing sports, playing video games, be nice to his family, especially his mother and know how to cook a few dishes. There are men and guys with this criteria, where he will also work hard himself to provide. But the truth is, and this goes out to all you ladies on GAG that majority of you are never satisfied in life, that you always want to find something better with this "grass is greener on the other side" concept. It's like having a stable job that pays well, but quitting that job because you see a job that pays $150,000 year but then you start that job and realize you hate it and reminisce about the past.

As much as a breakup or rejection may hurt the guy in the beginning. A guy's pay back comes later, it takes longer but he eventually realizes his self worth, focuses on his goals, redevelops himself and doesn't care about women and then women start to care about him more. I avoid women now not because i'm scared but to be blunt, I can't deal with your a female's fucking childish nonsense. It takes TWO for a relationship, it takes TWO for a marriage. Women today don't care about marriage, they care about individuality, selfishness, absurd amount of attention from men and her job. For the record, many, many, many women on GAG have said they are fine with dying alone and no one by their bedside, to those women on GAG I say, be careful what you wish for because you may reap what you sew.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It is difficult, and it's like women do not consider this at all, because there's little to no respect for men that are genuinely trying to convey interest to her, when they work up the courage. They just want to be entertained and swept off their feet by the guy that couldn't give two shits.

So you have to get yourself to a point where you just don't care. At the very least be cool and collected, and you might have a chance. I've had experiences when I was younger where it's like the excitement was in my voice, and wanting to be this positive guy around girls I liked, or wanted to be liked by, and looking back, it's so cringe to me. It didn't feel stoic or masculine in those moments and I'll bet these girls were bored our of their minds and drier than the Mohave desert, having to sit there and talk to me.

It's really a sad reality of life and relationships. You can't show all your cards off the rip. You can't be too available, too into them, even when you are and can't help it. You have to learn how to mask it and play the game.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

Because he has a big boner in his pants and he doesn't want her to see it!

The first time I invited this guy over for some old fashioned strawberry 🍓 Kool-aid he said yes. When I bent down in the fridge to get it out, he was standing behind me. He drank the Kool-aid kinda fast then said he had to go, and he left.
Later when we got to know each other he told me just seeing my behind when I bent over gave him a woody and he couldn't hide it.
So, that is one reason they avoid us.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Maybe he's attracted to you but doesn't want to date you or maybe he doesn't feel confident.

nolabels · Answer

I behaved in that manner when I was a young, cripplingly shy teenager and onwards into being a young man.

It took me two years of very concerted effort starting at about age 22 or so to overcome my shyness, and I was then able to approach women whom I found to be attractive.
Not "out of my league" attractive, but attractive nonetheless.
Something was apparently still off in regard to my game, though.
Also, the supply of women who were available in the circles of people with whom I was connected had become extremely small.
Being a mid-20s adult has a way of tremendously narrowing the field of potential mates compared to being a teenager and into one's early 20s.

I was never one for heading to bars.
At the time, I never thought of attending church related social activities, either.
I was shot down at every rare opportunity that I was able to come up with.
After a few years of that, I quit trying.

Fast forward to my early thirties.
By then, I'd declared myself to be a confirmed bachelor, had bought a house, had money saved, with a new truck and two boats in the garage.
Fishing had become my platonic mistress.

What do you think then appeared in my life?
Women.
Still not very many, but now they were after me instead of the other way around.

One of them wore me down, and the rest of the story is of our not very blissful marital history, including the reversal of my respectable bank balance into massive debt that was somehow hidden from me until very recently, the end of my fishing days, a kid, now grown, and my wife, whom I eventually grew to care for and about, is dying of brain cancer.

My main point in telling this story is to fix shyness at an early age.
I consider it to be the responsibility of parents to deal with at a very young age.
Once I knew that it was possible for me to overcome my shyness, I did so.
Before that realization occurred to me, I felt utterly trapped by my shyness.
Normal sexual attraction certainly can cause some knee-shaking and awkward approaches, but terrible shyness is equal to complete paralysis when it comes to dating.

If and when I allow myself to think of the romantic opportunities that I let go by because of my shyness in my early life, I sometimes feel like crying.

What's done is done, though.

C'est la vie.

Finchie40 · Answer

If he is shy and he doesn’t know if she likes him the same way he likes her pretty much , He might avoid coming on to her because he doesn’t want to come off as being a horn dog and come on to her to strong , because he doesn’t want to blow his chances with her , especially if he is unsure how she feels about him. Most of us Guy’s are attracted to a girl’s beauty first , when we see an attractive girl that is beautiful to our eyes we
Pretty Much picture her naked in our arms and having our way with her , some Guy’s our just better at controlling it , compared to other Guy’s that have a hard time controlling it For a girl to be attracted to a guy and want a guy , she pretty
Much has to feel an emotional connection with him first , that’s what makes Guy’s and Girls’s different for the most part. Most of us Guy’s are more visual than girl’s are when it comes to attraction and being turned on by a girl, Girls’ can be visual as well when it comes to her seeing an attractive guy but for her to want that attractive guy she has to feel that emotional connection , with him first where most guy’s show his emotional connection to her by having sex with her

Anonymous · Answer

It’s tough to be yourself when you feel attracted to someone. Some people make it obvious (sometimes too obvious) other people are low key because their nervous and worry about looking foolish.

Ideally someone should “be yourself” but that’s often easier said then done. Some people are better at this then others

Anyway if you like the guy you suspect might like you it doesn’t hurt just to smile at him and say hello. That will help calm his nerves.

But if you are not interested in him then don’t approach him just because you “feel bad” or something. No. If he says hello to you be polite to him but be careful not to lead him on.

AviatorTom · Answer

If I'm taken (as I am now, my SO and I have a good relationship) and a woman attracts me, I do tend to avoid her, because that's easier than trying to avoid the temptation.

When I was younger and single (not taken), I had no problem approaching a woman that I found attractive. Sometimes we clicked, sometimes we didn't.

One time in college, my friend and I went camping. for a long weekend Just across from our campsite were two girls (I'll call them Laurie and Jane, not their real names) also camping. They were both attractive and we introduced ourselves, spending the rest of the camping weekend together. I ended up dating Laurie for 18 months before we went our separate ways, and my friend ended up marrying Jane.

colaman94 · Answer

I'm not actively dating, however I could only guess I suppose I prefer not to hang around attractive women im attracted to. Otherwise I just feel awkward. However at the moment as I know I'm not actively wanting to date, I'm confident as a grizzly bear 😊🤭

RingOfFire · Answer

Assuming he really IS attracted like that and it isn't a misinterpretation by the women who is misreading his feelings... a few possible reasons: Shy Afraid of rejection Not sure how to approach her without scaring her away because he is so attracted Has other reasons in his life why he can't pursue the relationship like another relationship or possible objections to the women for some reason by his family... different race, religion, nationality, etc...

TheorionMage · Answer

EVERY overture to a female you DESIRE... is a potential 'interview' toward intimacy; and every Suitor dreads rejection to life's ULTIMATE invitation to 'dance'.
For MANY uncertainty of potential is preferable not 'making the cut' ~ :'(

FreyaRed · Answer

Ones play it down and become to distanced, others exaggerate and become embarrassing clowns. There are many defensive mechanisms in action when boys feel some impulses. Generally the longer they get accustomed with a girl the more normally they start to behave. Men need more time to deal with instincts and emotions, you should calculate that with if you have a decision to make.

Singing_Hollow · Answer

There is a reason why there are different hierarchies in the male kingdom Eg Beta, Alpha etc. Alpha's dont lack confidence in asking a girl out comes across more assertive to a female which tend to lead to a stronger attraction, even when he is rejected he will still keep his head high and move on to the next female. A beta male fears rejection and seldom gets the better females.

Raaj4you · Answer

I am sexually attracted to a cute, sweet, smart girl who is a psychologist. I have approached her and had chat with her. But she is not responding to my text messages. I know she is attracted to me sexually too but she is playing psychological tricks and games. She thinks I don't know what she is trying to do.

tzdc21 · Answer

There are many factors:

1. He could be shy.

2. She could be sexy, but a bad bet for a long-term relationship.

3. He doesn't want to be the next victim of the "Me to movement."

4. She's around a bunch of her girlfriends, and majority of guys will not approach girls in a group setting.

5. Her boyfriend is standing right next to her.

TooHot2Care · Answer

If my mindsets in the shit, I'm probably not going to talk to you that day.

One more catastrophic incident to tear at my ego and self-esteem isn't a risk worth taking in that moment.

If my mindset is decent, yeah I'll approach you.

Texaskid1 · Answer

As sure as flies love shit.  A super duper smoking hot woman will intimidate 99% of men. Most will look but never approach. Of course they will then go home and... Bad monkey !!! bad!!! bad!!!

m33ladEmjay · Answer

Depends on the guy, however, most guys today don't have the confidence to approach girls anymore.

For myself who likes approaching girls, I wouldn't approach girls in most parts of U. S (maybe parts of CALI, FLORDIA, AND NYC is okay) and anywhere in Canada. SIMPS make women unapproachable & I wouldn't bother.

If women turn down men without being an A hole! then I would approach them all the time.

pickles77 · Answer

He could be nervous, it happens when you really like someone. Attractive women get hit on all the time too. He’s probably thinking why me? Or I doubt she really likes me because there are infinite other guys for her to choose from and he just doesn’t want to get hurt or be in something that isn’t taken seriously

XXTruthfulOgrexx · Answer

Easy enough, he is deathly afraid of rejection. It is highly likely he has been rejected so often that he no longer sees an option in approaching anyone.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Nah, I do try to be careful to not come off as thirsty, but I don't actively avoid them unless I'm trying my best not to give them any ideas.

Anonymous · Answer

He may find the woman attractive but is probably sick of being rejected. It is the men who have to make the approach with all of the risks that entails, and usually the woman is surrounded by her friends which is off putting to say the least, but if they are actively blocking any approaches he'll then think 'why bother'/

Anonymous · Answer

Not all men will avoid women they are sexually attracted to. It's important to remember that people's actions can vary widely based on individual personality, values, and circumstances. Some men may approach someone they are attracted to, while others might be more reserved. It's crucial to have open and respectful communication to understand each other's feelings and boundaries in any relationship.

scholar4life · Answer

It is way too risky to express that attraction in the postfeminist society. For me, it is far more safe to keep my attraction private. Women created a hostile market while still hoping for chivalry to happen in dating. Double standards still emerge everywhere in the dating world.

Willg95 · Answer

I went after a woman I was attracted to and she pursued me first. We hit it off right away a d when we met she was flirting with me. However after awhile she went distant. I thought im a trying to hard. It just seemed like she was busy or playing games. I dont understand women that do this probably just looking for attention, but in person she was all hyper. I always say it's there loss at the end of it.

DreamLife7 · Answer

Men don't talk to women they aren't attracted to. So to answer your question, he isn't attracted to you so stop making up delusional scenarios in your head. He thinks you're ugly

ritxi · Answer

Yes, I think that most teenagers use to do that, but men who encourage themselves when they become older.

SolitarySolace · Answer

I can’t speak for other men but as far as myself, I avoid all women whenever possible especially the ones I find attractive.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Not the men I meet. They have no problems approaching.

boggboss · Answer

No this is not somthing guys do he is not approaching for some reason or another

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, especially if they are insecure and lack self confidence.

Wwwyzzerdd · Answer

If she doesn't like him then she'll make a grandiose display of emasculating him and attempting to assassinate his image publicly.

Starrrboy · Answer

Maybe he doesn't think he's ready to be with her.. and maybe he's afraid of getting rejected..

Tomisworthless · Answer

I do mainly knowing i dont compare to other men she can select then there's not wanting her to know my attraction to her

BurrsBlackCobras · Answer

Ermm because I live and look like a troglodite so my chances are super low Also don't even know what to say and am garbage at coming up with conversation topics

Anonymous · Answer

I get like that when I like a girl way more than that. I get extremely anxious.

DB1973 · Answer

Conversational Skills, Or lack there of.  I can only speak personally.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Some guys are afraid to approach any woman. Others will approach any who interest them.

TheGuyYouCrave · Answer

No, we approach or ignore because there are more important things then talking to a silly female

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Yes, because of fear of rejection of our #boyjoy !!!

MaxUsefull · Answer

It depends on the guy …some has this difficult…some not

FoyLee · Answer

Why don't you give him signal? Why don't you approach him? Learn to flirt!!

robocop666 · Answer

I do sometimes. I am scared they will see it

Nifrayu · Answer

He's shy or he could be anxious.

NathanDavis · Answer

no... I'm a grown up

grega239 · Answer

I avoid women out of self preservation

Angelo75 · Answer

Maybe he's just shy.

Imsmurter1 · Answer

Yeah get nervous maybe.

Anonymous · Answer

Obviously. It's called fight of flight.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

VERY DIFFICULT

Roit83857 · Answer

Just whimpy behavior

he-takes-a-part · Answer

Kids

Slim57 · Answer

@Joker_ isn't gay

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