I have no idea what my boyfriend wants from life?

[Anonymous]

I feel stuck... we had a crisis a month ago. like very close to break up but decided to talk and carry on

But nothing got better, we are at the inicial level when we are polite and careful with our words

No sex no passion

I do t understand

I feel he hides smth but cannot see what that is

Its gut feeling its very hard to explain. Like the way he talks to me... he is too polite like im new girl for him

No affection no kiss no hugs

When i hug him he keeps is body shut

won't move or hug me too, its like hugging a statue

2,6 month together

[D_Bone_Steak]

Probably just some basic mental hangups. A lot of us have them. You can be like most people nowadays will be like and just say "Break up time!" or you can try and figure it out. You know... help him and that sort of shit... but the urge to just leave people on a stranded isolated island seems to be the trend nowadays.

Think of it like this... if he was a dog, yes bark bark type of dog... you go to pet him and he shutters like you're about to hit him. Wouldn't you recognize that someone in the past made him like that... that it's not you? Can you deal with that or do you need Mr. Perfect right now? All of us come out of the ringer... some are better off and some are all fucked up, which depends on the cards you were dealt and how you handle it... I think the judgment is if you can handle anything or not. He's keeping basic decorum and not beating you for anything... right?

He is going through some shit... so it's basically if you feel like helping him or not. Look through other people's advice and you'll probably see they'd just leave that shit faster than hell. Most people in my opinion don't have the strength to deal with other people's shit. Is what it is. Do you have it in you though is the question you should be asking yourself. Would you be better off or do you have a mission to save this guy because he is your guy? Figure that out first.

[jahaims]

He is going through something or is cheating. If he refuses to communicate then move on.

[petitedollbabee]

He’s already detached himself from you and the relationship, he’s mentally broken up with you. Did you two ever actually solve the crisis that happened a month ago? Or did you just keep talking about it and then think that it would solve itself?

[Asker]

The problem for me were drugs
When he takes it he changes and says hurtful stuff
He said he wants to stop doing it
Yesterday we went to the hospital and he will need to makes some analytics to see why he has some health issues and stop using drugs
Depends is he stops using them how his behaviour will change and what will happen to us
I wanna see him sober
If when sober we can be us again good, if when sober he won't want me then its over
He was going after me for 2 years
So... i actually made him a favour dating him

[petitedollbabee]

That’s a bad mindset. Just end the relationship. You’re only with him because you want to change him, hoping that’ll fix the problem. Truth is - it won’t. And you believing that you’re doing him a favour by dating him is just sad.

[Wise4myage]

You should strongly consider breaking up with him, because he's nothing more than a friend.

[Asker]

Just friend?

[Wise4myage]

Yes, I think so.

[Asker]

Why you think so

[Wise4myage]

Because sex is nonexistent.

[Asker]

He says he doesn't want to