There is a guy I (female 29yo) really liked. He's 36.
We met last winter and got on well.
We came into an argument, I wanted to meet up and he seemed distant. He didn't arrange to see me even when he definitely had time to.
I admit I might have gone a bit too intense then. Like trying to get into contact with him and him ignoring me, I texted frequently and he just ignored my texts.
I gradually started texting less amd less.
In the last month I just asked how is he etc. And eventually asked him straight uo if he wants to be with me since it seems like I'm the only one reaching out.
His reply was -" I've been thinking for some time and think that we are incompatible. You are not what I'm looking for in a partner. Here I said it"
It really hurt and after that I stopped contacting him.
After a month he called me saying he missed me. We met and he was really nice, helpful and sweet.
I asked why he came back. His response : "things just worked out organically. "
However, I've noticed that now I don't feel the same things for him. It is different and I find it hard ro trust him. I told him all of this. He sad he wants to concentrate om future. His said "I didn't mean that. It is just a silly thing. I can't turn back time."
I tried to explain and said that I expected him to at least apologise since he knew how hurtful it is.
His response :" I am really sorry I hurt you but I'm not going to explain myself any further ".
I know everyone needs to think about future but shouldn't he have at least apologised for saying he doesn't want to be with me?
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Why should he when that was what he felt at the time?
Question is - he came back now and wants to be with me.
But by previously saying that he's done he basically ended whatever we had.
Surely you'd know that you would hurt someone by saying that. If he didn't want to be with me - fine.
But since ge came back shouldn't he apologise for saying that? Basically breaking up?
He broke up and now acts like its nothint6
Those were his feelings then. Sometimes feelings change.
I understand that.
But if a woman told you she doesn't want to be with you anymore. Which would have hurt. And then she came back expecting to resume like nothing happened - would you be ok with that?
I wouldn't be taking her back to begin with.
I feel like should have done it but Iike like him too much.
Believe that everyone deserves second chances.
But only if people regret doing what they've done
Think about what you said. You feel very strongly about this, but are letting it slide because you 'like him too much'? You think that's healthy?
No, I do not think that's healthy...
I know I sound.. Sorry, I AM being weak and unreasonable but I'm genuinely not sure if I will ever find someone who is as compatible and who I fancy as much...
How old are you?
29, why? You?