The guy I'm dating doesn't want me to sleep with or date other guys, does that mean we're in a relationship?!

[elisiajordan]

The thing is am dating someone whom I really like. He told me the other day that he doesn't want me to date other guys or sleep with anyone. I told him I don't want the same from him too and if he does find someone else to tell me, and he said he would...so does this mean we're exclusive and in a relationship? I don't wanna ask him or talk about it again...

[soslin711]

Well, this is a tough one because guys are notorious for saying things like that...and then when they cheat they say 'Hey, I never said you were my girlfriend I never said we were exclusive'. You are going to have to talk about it eventually. You can let it go for now, but if you guys want to move forward and become more serious you have to set some boundaries and make sure you're clear on what you both want. It's good that he said that though, it means he really does care about you. Guys are funny when it comes to labeling a relationship as exclusive, and being in a commitment... so give him some time. but eventually, he's gonna have to come out and flat out say it.

[Tamikaze]

Why did you tell him if he does find someone else to tell you? That isn't what you say when you are dating exclusively or in a relationship. So, no, you are not in a relationship if you two are open to find other people. And, ditto to Robby's response.

[airiver]

I agree with Robby...You need to bring this subject up with your boyfriend...And if you can't you two will end up nowhere...

[hesaysim2sexy]

yes girlfriend you are in a relationship... he wants you to see him only him...without sounding too corny..

[intra]

Yes this is called a monogomous relationship. Were both parties agree to have sex with each other only... but you might want to ask about the porn use and sextoys if you want to be really absolutly positive about the sex dating issue and what exactly in includes or doesnt, such as seeing exs, remaining friends with exs, contacting exs, in fact you could probably get in in writing ...

[jenn33]

Get it in writing? what has this world come to these days?

[bobair]

I understand your reasons for not wanting to bring this up again, but relationships are about relating and communicating.

If you're so nervous that you can't bring up the boundaries of your relationship, then you're screwed.

Assume he's dating other women until he says otherwise.

~ Robby

[jimgiese]

Gotta go with robby on this. TALK about it with him.

[The1andOnlyNubs]

yes. lol. It does. Wait until you feel it is a little safer and slip the title in but I think he might first. When we say the whole exclusive thing its our way of asking... Wanna be my girlfriend? without sounding what we would consider corny.

[DIPEPDINGOLD]

First off, this is a red flag of a controling man. You hould make it clear that you guys are actually in a relationship which means--bring it up again.

[Jake_W]

Yes your in relationship. You blonde or something? Be a good girl and don't cheat.