Why is my ex being so petty? returning insignificant gifts after telling me to leave him alone?

[strawberrybaby3]

He has NPD most likely. All the signs are there. Even my coworkers think he’s nuts and unfortunately I had a relationship with him for a long time and we just broke up a few months ago.

Every time we get into an argument it goes to the absolute worst lengths where he threatens to call the police on me and then keeps sending messages even after I stop responding.

He’s telling people in there that I need to leave HIM alone. And that’s exactly what I’m doing but I guess this is part of the smear campaign.

If he wants me to leave him alone so bad (he’s said this so many times before), why is he returning perfume samples I gave him which are so insignificant? And staring at me from afar?

Updates

6 mo

**I work with him as well. So he’s doing this at work. He threw it behind me.

[spartan55]

Because you still talk to him and haven't cut contact. So, is there another coworker you are interested in?

[strawberrybaby3]

No but we have cut contact. He’s telling people I need to leave him alone but coming near me to drop samples I gave him. I don’t understand lol.

[spartan55]

Why do you need to understand it? Just move on.

[Andres77]

Tell HR he’s harassing you and see what happens. They don’t care about you or your relationship. They care that workplace drama will taint the workplace and effect efficiency and the profit margin.

[TaureanBull81]

As the old saying goes "don't s**t where you eat!" Having romantic relationships with co-workers is a recipe for disaster. If I were you for your own sanity, find a new job elsewhere.

[justabuddy]

Sense you work with him your best bet is to keep it strictly professional. Totally ignoring him can be a form of harassment too. Just keep everything work related and don't let anything else get to you.

[strawberrybaby3]

I’ve done that. He has now started to stare at me and hoover me because im not giving him a reaction. When im not pining over him and begging for a reconciliation and starts staring at me from afar , circling around where i work looking at my phone to see if im speaking to other guys, but won't directly make contact with me.

[justabuddy]

Yeah, he will dig his own grave if he doesn't get over it. You just don't want to go down with him.

[Fireguy17]

He is probably trying to hurt you.
Put them on market place and cash in.
You are right, it is petty.

[TallAnon]

Doesn't matter, he told you to leave him alone; So stop it.

[strawberrybaby3]

Clearly you can’t read because I said I AM.

[TallAnon]

Good, so ignore whatever he's brewing up and just live on.

[Chayce]

Sounds like you guys are crazy in love

[strawberrybaby3]

Not really.

[Chayce]

Wdym you guys have been dating for a long time & broke up months ago but you’re still in regular contact cause you work together. If the arguing was getting that heated at work why haven’t one of you guys left that job yet? That’s that toxicity that women love. And if he’s sending you msgs you guys don’t have each other blocked even though he’s threatening to call the police (lol by the way) on you. Is he Italian as well? That’ll complete this Tony & Carmella Soprano relationship dynamic thing going on here.

[strawberrybaby3]

No he isn’t Italian lol. Middle eastern. He says he wants 0 contact with me , 0 interaction (all has been said before) but now is telling people that I need to leave him alone, but nobody is falling for his shit. If he wants NO interaction, why come up near me and leave cheap little samples I gave him? I don’t know if that means he’s done and that was the last thing from me that he is removing from his life or if he wanted a reaction that he didn’t get

[strawberrybaby3]

And we have blocked each other now lol. But if we ever make up and I have him blocked he just calls on no caller ID with no shame lol

[Chayce]

It’s hard to decipher who wants what when the man is also emotional, which is just ugly. But again, you guys are working in the same environment and you can’t even be cordial between each other. Would you get back with him?

[strawberrybaby3]

No we agreed that we would not be getting back together but we still talk all the time, but with lots of arguing. Very hard to let go. Can’t even count the amount of times he’s said all this stuff to me but it’s a new thing for him to be giving me my stuff back…

[strawberrybaby3]

Like he couldn’t just went and threw that in the garbage but instead it seemed like he wanted me to know he’s done this time I guess?

[Chayce]

Look, if I was him & I was dating someone that looked like you for a long time & we broke up, I’d be stressed probably as well, but I wouldn’t act out the way he does. You guys are arguing because each of you is probably sexually frustrated, but you guys don’t want to smash other people. Correct me if I’m wrong here

[strawberrybaby3]

True. I mean i don’t know , he could be speaking to other girls but he’s not the type to just go and sleep around. This is the longest relationship we’ve both ever had. I’m also speaking to a few but no real goal to meet up or sleep with anybody.

[strawberrybaby3]

When he was angry yesterday he said he isn’t interested anymore and has moved on and to leave him alone (all has been said before), even though just a few days ago he’s sending me relationship memes even though we made it clear we aren’t getting back together. I just don’t understand

[Chayce]

Nah, if he was truly a mack you guys wouldn’t have been having silly arguments & whatnot for this long because he would’ve moved on & replaced you without having to rub it in your face. You’re all he has but instead of communicating with you he’s being extra with it. But that’s Arab men, & he just wants his habibi back…. LOL. But are YOU doing anything to antagonize him? Him threatening to call the cops on you must lead me to believe you are equally crazy

[strawberrybaby3]

LOL NO!! that’s why it’s so funny all I did was text him. He calls me on no caller ID but me texting after a fight is crossing the line lol? I’m at work right now and every time we make eye contact he just completely looks away and is pretending like I don’t even exist.

[strawberrybaby3]

But no I don’t want to be in denial, I don’t believe that he wants to be with me. All of my coworkers keep saying they think he loves me but just doesn’t know how to deal with it which I don’t buy at all. If he really loved me this wouldn’t be happening.

[Chayce]

He probably does, he’s just an emotional man. You should just fuck him & see how you feel after

[strawberrybaby3]

I asked a few days ago he said no, he doesn’t want problems in here because he believes that after we do something the emotions are even higher. No winning here. And if a man really loved you he would not be going around telling people it’s officially done and I have to leave him alone.

[strawberrybaby3]

We did things like a month ago and it made it better for a bit then things got worse again