My boyfriend takes drugs, he promised to stop?

[MeridianalStar]

He has addiction to crack

He said 2 weekes ago he doesn't want to smoke it anymore

But this weekend he ignored my messages for 2 days

I know when he smokes is when he doesn't talk to me

He was online yesterday and today

didn't answer me

Thats very weird, because we talk all day and never ignore messages

I suspect he smokes again, thats why ignores me he knows i hate when he does it

What can i do

[Billlewis]

Have him give his money to you to hold for him when he gets paid, to help him get off of it.

[MeridianalStar]

I cannot
He gets in in his bank accou nt
I dont even live with him

[Billlewis]

Then maybe consider negotiating an agreement for when , and how often he can use it. For example, you could ask him to limit his use to twice a month, etc.

[bededazzle]

decide what you want in a relationship and see if this relationship matches that

[MeridianalStar]

It doesn't becaue he wants more self space than i wanna give him
I want to spend more time with him
And he says im suffocating him

[MeridianalStar]

I know during his personal space he takes drugs
He said

[bededazzle]

then it might be time to focus on yourself. in my experience you don't necessarily help people by sticking around while they destroy themselves. it's all about. but you have to follow your own heart.

[bededazzle]

oops *all about boundaries

[bededazzle]

you don't necessarily have to go full no contact by the way. you could tell him, for instance, that you will always give him a ride to rehab if he needs it

[MeridianalStar]

He know it
And he asked me if he needs me and my car
I said no problem
So he is in tight path
He got fired yesterday
Thats why i think he doesn't talk to me
He is taking drugs because he is stressed

[MeridianalStar]

I dont know what to think

[bededazzle]

look, if you were my sister, i'd tell you i know drugs don't make this guy a bad person and he deserves sympathy, but it's not a great situation for you, and you should get the hell out. encourage him to get professional help, and protect yourself. that's just my 2 cents. try to really listen to your heart--not your fears or emotions, but your real inner heart. sorry this is happening

[bededazzle]

also, i don't know if you've already been through this cycle before, but if you stuck around, prepare to go through it again

[exitseven]

They never give it up. They swears to God and the virgin to kick but they always go back to it.

[MeridianalStar]

Why and what to do

[exitseven]

let him go. sorry.

[MeridianalStar]

He had ex wife she is on heroin
And he said when he tried to leave her she would come back and he would take her back
Why he always accepted her
He only stopped taking heroin when he left her the last time
She was always high

[exitseven]

Star, you need to separate yourself from this guy. He had been in the life too long. He will never change. You will just end up another casualty.

[genericname85]

ffs... just move on. don't waste your life trusting the words of a drug addict. you can do better. you should do better.

[MeridianalStar]

But the drug is the only problem
He is good person

[genericname85]

if drug use is not a big enough red flag to you, I don't know what is... i find that to be messed up. i'm not sying that he's a "horrible person". just a terrible choice of partner.

[MeridianalStar]

Well
Hundrests of famous people and politians take drugs, so...
Him being good man and good person overweights the facts he takes drugs
But i hate he does it
Is very difficult and confusing feeling i have

[genericname85]

can you explain how "hundreds of famous people doing it" makes it ok? hundreds of famous people fuck hookers that were brought in by human trafficing and consume child porn. does that make it ok?

the difficult and confusing feeling i would say comes from the fact that deep down you know that a good partner doesn't do drugs and that however good that person is otherwise won't make up for that.

[MeridianalStar]

Im not saying its ok.. i know its bad
Im saying its not like he is a monster...
I can't leave him all of a sudden becaue of drugs
He knows i know he takes drugs and im with him still
What to do?

[genericname85]

yeah i know he's not a monster. i already said he's probably not a horrible person. just a terrible dating choice :D

i mean if i was in your shoes, i'd break up. plain and simpel. it's difficult and not nice but the right things to do are rarely the easy things to do.

[genericname85]

i mean life is short. spend it looking for a good mate. don't waste it with one you know has this huge red flag. maybe you'll never have issues down the line with him... but chances are very high and partners who don't do drugs are not exactly rare.

[tfan1]

Pull the ejection handle and get out of there!

[MeridianalStar]

How? i dont know how to leave

[tfan1]

@MeridianalStar - do you have any of your things at his place?

[MeridianalStar]

Bit of clothes

[tfan1]

@If you have a key to his place, go in there and get all your clothes etc and then leave. Once you lock the door push the key in the crack under the door. Then block his info, his account, his cell etc.

[MeridianalStar]

But nothing bad happened lately
He was sending me kisses yesterday

[tfan1]

@MeridianalStar. Who knows what that stuff is doing to his mind? Sounds like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. Split personality by that junk he’s taking.

[DevilsBargain777]

You can get over it and be done with him or else deal with this nonsense for a while until you realize it is hopeless and you finally leave him.

[MeridianalStar]

Ok then

[Staximus]

I haven't seen a crackhead in years. Most of them turned into tweakers

[Staximus]

Get rid of him, you can't help an addict until they want to help themselves

[MeridianalStar]

Well his mixed little white stuff which is cocaine and mixes it with amoniac on the fire and smokes it
I saw him do that
Maybe its cocaine or crack im not sure whats its called

[Staximus]

Stay away from that crackhead

[MeridianalStar]

He says he values me

[Staximus]

Who cares what he thinks. Don't hang out with drug addicts, they do stupid shit. You run with dogs, you're going to get bit by fleas