He's a nice guy, he's sweet when he wants to be and there are times when he has a bad temper and says hurtful stuff but he's not afraid to apologize and admit he was wrong. However, I don't feel he cares much about me, I always have to be the one to schedule a hang out so we don't just hang out at each others houses and I feel like we only spend time together and he just goes along with stuff I like doing all the time just to get it over with. I try to understand he's nor a outdoorsy person however, he goes to parties and hangs out with his friends a lot. I also feel I have to initiate every conversation, last week a guy friend I go to the same uni with called a bit late around 7pm in the night to ask about an assignment, we grew up together so he calls me by a childhood nickname honey, cause I always got stung by bees when we were younger as kids walking home from school. When he said that I panicked cause we were watching a movie on my phone and my boyfriend had the other one of my airpods in so he was hearing what was said over the phone call I quickly explained and my friend explained it was just a nickname and nth was going on between us. My boyfriend shrugged it off and said 'it's your friend, your a big girl, if u were doing anything I couldn't stop you, it's your body'. I wrapped up the conversation with my friend then we finished the movie and he got up and picked me up to go to bed. We cuddled but it still rested on my mind what does he mean by that. I liked that he never got jealous when guys approached me and intervened when those exchanges made me visibly uncomfortable. Cause I am quite small at 4'11 and everyone towering over me makes me uncomfortable. But would he actually think I'm doing anything when I'm not. His non character attitude about the whole thing is great and all no jealousy but I don't feel he likes me that much if he feels he has to be prepared if I cheat on him which I would never do.
Why does he mentally prepare himself for the worst knowing I wouldn't do that?
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Woah, that's a lot to take in. I mean your boyfriend definitely sounds a little off like if he really doesn't care that much about you that's messed up. But also getting all worked up over little things isn't good either ya know? Seems like you gotta talk to him and be real about how you're feeling and see how he reacts. If he doesn't care or try to make you feel better then maybe he isn't the one. But don't just assume the worst right away, give him a chance to explain himself. And don't stress too much about what other guys say, as long as you're loyal it doesn't matter. Just focus on being happy and if he can't do that then find someone who will. Hope it all works out!
He said he understood what he said was hurtful but he was hurt over some guy calling me honey too and we should just forget about it and move on. I don't know if this is even a bad or good thing, he's my first boyfriend kinda embarrassing waiting until 20 to start dating.
Ah man, dating is tough sometimes, especially the first time around. On one hand, it's good that your boy understood why what he said hurt your feelings. And I get why he'd feel hurt too about another guy calling you honey, even if it was just a nickname from childhood.
At the same time though, just saying "forget it and move on" doesn't really address the underlying issues, ya know? Like if he's still feeling insecure or unsure about your relationship, those feelings won't just disappear.
My advice would be to keep talking to him about this stuff instead of sweeping it under the rug. Reassure him you care about him, but also stand up for yourself if you feel disrespected. Ask him why he's insecure - is it just the "honey" thing, or does he not trust you in general? Really listening to each other is important.
Maybe you guys could make more of an effort to show affection when you're together too. Compliments, holding hands, little notes - corny stuff like that helps boost confidence. As long as you're both willing to put in work, I'm sure you can work it out. Just don't be afraid to speak your truth, okay? You got this!
Did u understand what he said , he told it’s your wish what u do with your body because someone called u honey , he assumed u are sleeping around. That’s how insecure and jealous he is. He seems like a red flag
Right, he doesn't think highly of you.
He's not usually like this he's really sweet and doesn't mind how much I blabber about music and my uni major and listens, chiming in and asking questions tho he does stare at his phone a lot and when I go quiet and think he's not listening he asks y I stopped talking that he's listening. Tho he did say the other day that we won't finish the movies that I wanna watch xause I'm gonna talk him out which was rather hurtful.
So maybe he likes you 🙂
That's a big maybe.
He's affectionate sure.
Actions speak louder than words 🙂