Guys, do looks really matter when you have an amazing personality?

[Anonymous]

Most of the people that I meet considerer me pretty, which is fine… But I don’t have the best body underneath my clothes. I’m super insecure about my imperfections like my arms and my tummy. I’m not fat but I’m also not an instagram model. I work out and I have a good set of girls on my chest and my butt is what some have considered a great butt (this is the thing I am most confident about lol).
Should I be so superficial about myself when I could care less if a guy is chubby? The guy I like isn’t in the best shape but I know that wouldn’t bother me because I think he is very attractive.
Am I overthinking?

[MrOracle]

Looks are always going to be SOME part of the equation, but as much as everyone likes really good-looking people, you'll find that most guys - and ESPECIALLY relationship-seeking guys (as opposed to those ONLY looking for casual sex) are not nearly as picky about looks, and also put a lot more value on the girl's morals, values, and life-goals.

Guys just looking for casual sex aren't going to give you a relationship, so unless you're just looking to get laid, what they think or do shouldn't be relevant to you. But this means you have to filter out all of the "casual sex only" guys - no matter how attractive they are to you - and focus only on the relationship guys if it's a relationship you are looking for. Never, NEVER think you're going to change a man - if he's not already the man you are looking for, assume he's never going to be.

[Anonymous]

Yes you're overthinking. Looks do matter, to BOTH genders! But no looks do NOT matter to men to the EXTENT that you're worrying about (except for a small fraction of men). Guys do not want perfection. Imperfections make women endearing.

[petitedollbabee]

Looks matter to a certain degree. Enough to initially attract someone. But personality will be what keeps them around, looks aren’t enough to create a healthy long term relationship.

[Nikki1989]

For me, looks matter for maybe a minute or two, and after that it all comes down to personality.

[slatyb]

They still matter, but less and less as people get to you know.

If you are at a healthy weight, stop worrying about this. Do you have a friend who you think looks good? Ask her about clothing and hair style? It works for Sarah Jessica Parker, it can work for you.

[ChicoFromThe305]

It all depends, if your personality is attractive then yes it's possible for people to overlook your physical appearance and actually when they fall for you it's highly likely that they will fall for your appearance as well.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Being an overthinker is far less attractive than anything you mentioned. That becomes truly exhausting to date.

[syncheart]

Looks matter to an extent. But if you can't click with someone, then you really have nothing. If your clicking with that person, then you got a relationship started.

[Guido]

When you are getting naked with guy, he is more interested In the sex then in inspecting your body for imperfections. We do not care if you are not perfect as nobody is absolutely perfect. We all have something we want to change with our bodies.

[AviatorTom]

Looks always matter, but you don't need to be gorgeous.

[Anonymous]

Looks matter, most girls will not date an unattractive guy too, unless he's rich. But there are plenty of people who look past them.

[barn_stormer]

looks always matter.