Should I stop seeing this guy?

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I’ve been seeing this guy that I used to work with off and on for a few months and I can just tell that he’s only after one thing. When we first started talking we went to this arcade twice but after that it would just be us hanging out at his place. And recently when I asked if we could hang out somewhere else he said that we would but something tells me that he’s not gonna follow through on it. And I remember after leaving his place the last time I was there I texted him “I wish I could’ve stayed” he said “why’d you say that?” I said “I miss your company” and he just said “aww! maybe next time”. I just said to myself what kind of answer was that? No reciprocation at all. So I just ended up saying “Nevermind don’t even worry about it” he was confused and asked me what I was talking about but I did not respond. He never does anything special for me and only wants to hang at his place and I feel like I deserve way better than that. I’m really contemplating on cutting him off all together. Any advice?

citygirlxox · Accepted Answer

Cut him off and don’t entertain him, next time he asks to see you tell him you’re going on a date with someone else or don’t even have to answer. In my experience men show you how they feel through actions. So if you feel he’s already letting you down in a casual situation just imagine 2 years down with him in a committed relationship! He sounds like he’s rejecting your affection and feelings. Really try to think about what you need in a relationship and what you want and try to separate who he is from just making the list match him lol. But it’s easier said than done but if I were you I would forget him.

rosemilk · Accepted Answer

suggest you two go to some restaurant or some activity that's outside. if he says no, he'd rather be at his place or your place, say well i guess i can't see you today then. but otherwise, yeah you're right to probably just end this now. he doesn't seem too serious about you

hardboiledink · Accepted Answer

Next time take it slower. I just told another girl this same thing that whoever girls sleep with they will bond with. So instead of all the stupid siuationships and hot girls summer use your brain, focus on building your life since women seem to want to to independent nowadays, and pick guys who actually have potential. AKA they have their own lives, fun, and life together

magiusX26 · Accepted Answer

"no reciprocation" ? what? i take it you are not good at reading between the lines, the room, or body language. probably not so good with social cues either. his "awww" etc spoke volumes of emotional responses to and for you.

AutumnSerenity · Answer

He’s not that into you. Not because of anything you did, but simply because he’s emotionally unavailable. That’s something he has to work through, not your problem. I’d move on without warning. Don’t say a word, just cut him off as if he never existed.

HateyouxD · Answer

You're like, "red flag red flag red flag... but red flag AND red flag... should I give him another shot?"

PeachyPie93 · Answer

You know him the best if it feels wrong, it probably is. I would have a talk with him about feelings and stuff first but if he isn't reciprocating dump him.

Natasha2024 · Answer

Girl!!! Im happy that you're seeing all the red flags and acknowledging them. Dump him it will definitely save you from the heartache and its still early.

Nice222 · Answer

Yeah it might be time to dump him. But maybe talk to him first and ask him why he doesn’t do anything special or take you out. Maybe he doesn’t have much experience dating or he just needs some suggestions as to where to take you.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Yes, stop seeing this guy. That should be obvious.

noohair · Answer

Guys don't do hints, we don't get it. If you want a guy to know something, speak slowly and use simple words.

Anonymous · Answer

Ok when you saying seeing this dude, does that mean you’re sexually active w him as well?

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Have you been very clear what you want? Give him a chance to step up.

Onyx436 · Answer

Girl , you know what to do. Leave and don’t turn around. Let that man be 👍

spartan55 · Answer

Have you talked to him about what you want?

RavVid · Answer

So you don't get to sleep over after sex?

Tharithi · Answer

Maybe he’s extremely shy bruhhh

AngryCarl · Answer

Of course you should.

Sabretooth · Answer

It doesn't look like it's going anywhere.

Anonymous · Answer

You do realize he's a f-boy, right 😹

Anonymous · Answer

He's just not that into you. Let him go.

HouseMoat · Answer

Please do

Minahh · Answer

Dump his ass

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