First of all. Dating and relationships are different, I will always sit down and break up with a girlfriend in person and trying to explain why etc...
Dating is not as serious and commited. Usually the guy carries the load from the start. He asked the girl out, took care of organizing the dates and paid for most of it. So, many guys don't feel like they owe the girl much since they do it all. If there is a girl I date casually, I'm not going to call and have a serious talk about why and when and how I don't feel like keep dating. If the girl is texting and calling me, I'll always answer and talk. For girls it might be easier because the guys reach for them, so they always have the opportunity to turn it down at some point.
For a guy, it seems less dramatic to leave it as is. If the girl reaches back, then you answer her and makes things clear. If she never reach back, you assume she wasn't that interested either and leave it at that. Usually a guy thinks over if he wants to keep dating,it takes some days. As that time passes by, if the girl doesn't reach for him, then he usually thinks it's OK to leave it at that for now. Sometime you still like the girl anyway, and it leaves a door open without drama and hurt feelings.
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I mean at that point, if one of them had made up their minds that he does not want to see you, it is pointless as to why they broke it off. Logistically, giving a reason does not help anything just makes things awkward. I personally would let her know. But won't make a big deal about it, just casually let them know.
If it works out, it does, if not, nothing will make it work
It's an odd combination of the guy caring about your feelings by getting to avoid your disappointment when he calls to say, "It's over." Aaand, of course, his being selfish because a bunch of guys there are honestly scared sh*tless of confronting a girl about something like that. Lack of communication's a downfall. I also feel that immaturity plays a big role in this. I dated a very mature guy who apologized profusely when he left me for his ex-girlfriend and was honest about everything. Then the guy I dated after him was the same exact age as he was. In fact, they knew each other and were close. (I DID NOT KNOW THAT -__-). This guy saw me for about three months, and out of the blue, he just stopped talking to me. He didn't talk to me for over three weeks, and then he tried to be "friends" with me after this time of his random disappearing act. Ha, no. He was very, very immature during the whole relationship. Some guys are also afraid of commitment, and if they feel you getting attached to them too soon or at all, they freak out and run away.
I love how all of the men are saying "we don't want to hurt the girls feelings" or "it hurts us to see the girl hurt, it's because we care." This is total crap and no girl buys it for a millisecond. The reason why guys do this is because they're gutless wonders who would rather live in blissful ignorance rather than looking like the 'bad guy'.
Im sure many of you men have talked yourself into believing that's OK to do this, but as a girl, let me tell you, it's far from it. It leaves the girl feeling confused and resentful towards you and after having done this you can almost guarantee that you've blown any chance you ever had of having a relationship with this girl; it doesn't leave the door open for the future, it slams it hard and dead bolts it shut.
So, just a word of advice gentlemen, if you don't want to date a girl anymore, just come out and tell us to our faces, both parties will be a lot better off for it.
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Because a lot of guys avoid seeing and hearing girls feelings being hurt. We are quick to confront or explain ourselves to other guys, but with females a lot guys are more sensitive to the pain they cause. It may not hurt her if we want to move on, but the possibility of her hurting makes us avoid telling her.
Awww girl! I feel your pain! I was crazy about a guy who did the same thing to me. It's just plain cruel and selfish! At least have the balls to look me in the eye and be honest instead of stringing us girls along then just disappearing!
Agree, and we didn't even date. He doesn't want to be my friend. Yet he kissed me then he is gone. I ran into him. He was nervous...big smile...no hey how are things going...dont get it.
Probably they realized they were getting closer and closer to a "relationship" with you, so they panicked and ran.
it's the highest form of gutlessness & immaturity & selfishness
Cause they're punks.
They can't face the music. They think they'll hurt you less, but no. They leave you confused on top of being hurt.Easy: because they suck.
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