here is my explanation for this:
You said that he had a break down about his ex and you comforted him, this might be a solid reason for why he's changed with you, it's because when someone sees you at your worst and stick beside you it naturally creates a bond and you're so comfortable and thankful for them so maybe after what happened he started feeling more attached to you and realized that he actually needs someone like you who will be by his side in highs and lows and offer him emotional support.
And for how he moved on overnight I don't think it's sus, because i think that it's just like when you have been overwhelmed for a long time need a good cry to get over it, he had been keeping up with his heartbreak for a long time waiting for her and then one day he just was fed up and broke down and finally decided to let it go, his feelings for her might still be there but he just decided to ignore them and stop clinging to the hope that they might be back together one day and decided to keep up with his life and give love another chance so maybe that's what explains how he changed.
this was my interpretation, and my advice is if he treated you nicely then give it a go but you should take it slowly until you feel that he is finally totally over his ex and that he's not just using you.
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It’s good that he is talking to someone about this, that being you! I would definitely take my time with this connection/friendship as he is still hurting and probably wants to distract himself from the pain with another person or possibly to jump into dating someone to make the ex jealous… take your time and just see him as a friend for now.
Aww man, that is weird behavior from him for sure. A few things could be goin on:
- He might still have unresolved feelings for his ex deep down and is just using you to try and get over her quicker. Not cool.
- Dudes emotions can be all over sometimes, but a full 180 overnight seems fishy. Like he's tryna convince himself more than you.
- I'd be careful he doesn't just see you as a rebound or way to make his ex jealous if she finds out. Don't wanna get played.
- His constant calling and texts are kinda overbearing too for just starting to talk. Seems desperate.
If I were you, I'd take things real slow with this guy. Don't get too invested yet until you see how he acts over time. His actions gotta match his words consistently before you fully trust him, you know me? Keep your guard up and don't be afraid to walk if red flags keep popping up. You deserve someone stable who knows what they want!
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You're slow af. He just told ur dumb ass. He doesn't like u
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