Why does my boyfriend never want to have sex with me?

[Anonymous]

I’ve asked him why and he said he just never thinks about it, or he’s not a sexual personal or he would say “I tried the other night” knowing very well he didn’t. Also, if and when we do have sex he acts very strange doesn’t like to kiss or touch my body. He only likes to do the missionary position and he’ll never remove his shirt or mine. Anytime other than trying to have sex he’s very affectionate with me gives me hugs and kisses, slaps me on the ass, etc… its only during the act is when I feel like I’m with a completely different person. Could someone help me understand?

[SueShe]

There are multiple reasons why a person does not like or enjoy fornicating. Usually, it is a deeply rooted psychological issue caused by a trauma in past years or it could also be the result of strict upbringing where copulation is seen as something only to perform when absolutely necessary and solely for procreation.

Another possible issue is that he may be asexual, meaning that he sees intimate relationships as something disgusting and vile. I don't believe that he is aromantic since he likes to cuddle and kiss you.

I would suggest that he sees a specialist, first all by himself and then perhaps as a couple therapy.

He may more likely disclose his true motives if he is able to talk to someone that has the necessary distance, someone like a psychologist. Good luck.

[aceleon]

1- he is asexual

2- he has issues with intimacy and sex (anxiety disorder or something perhaps)

3- he has ED of some kind or watches too much porn and is desentisized.

4- some other type of psychological issue.

[patrick994]

It is highly recommended in such cases to talk to a psycho-sexologist, to better understand whether his aversion stems from past traumas, whether it is the result of an overly strict upbringing.

[bobinnes00]

Does he take antidepressants? ... That can seriously lower libido leaving little desire for sex...

[DarkWinterNights]

Somethings going on. Does he have a traumatic history or something happen to him? Did he have super strict parents? Otherwise I’d say porn induced ED or maybe a hormone imbalance.

[spartan55]

What you described is beyond bad sex. Has it always been this way?

[Asker]

Yes, I just always thought he would get more comfortable

[spartan55]

My guesses are (in no particular order): watches too much porn/can't perform, he's gay as a blade, sucks at sex.

[aceleon]

gay? is this the first sexual orientation you can think when someone doesn't want sex? there is something called asexuality you know?

[spartan55]

Can't rule it out.

[Alex-Snow]

How old is he? It is difficult to imaging a healthy younger guy to not want sex frequently... but I guess we all have different sex drives. How often do u two have sex? Does he ever want to go for round 2 or 3?

[RedInnocent68]

He’s just not that into you. May even be gay and hasn’t come around to it yet. Do yourself a favor, let him go and move on.

[Jerre]

Very difficult to say. Most men would want your shirt off so they could caress your breasts, suck your nipples. Does he say anything when he cums in you?

[Crankor]

It's possible he's not physically attracted. Or there's not much if any emotional connection. How often do you interact with each other?

[KrakenAttackin]

He's gay or something about you repels him.

[Rickyboy100]

Perhaps his ashame of his body. Is he small down under?

[Anonymous]

Erection problems

[Asker]

Nope, never

[Opinion Owner]

He has it now maybe

[Asker]

It’s been like this for 3 years

[Opinion Owner]

Have him followed

[Anonymous]

What's his past relationships?

[Anonymous]

He is probably cheating on you.

[DarkWinterNights]

That wouldn’t effect his performance in bed

[Jmmmfi4]

LOW SEX DRIVE

[Anonymous]

GAYNESS