Do men prefer hidden girls to popular girls?

[jennifer_bloom]

All I the girls I know who were lucky in love and got men above their predicted dating value were girls that were not mainstream popular. The popular girls had longer relationships before the man proposed and they usually had to sacrifice more to get the guys attention and they often had to settle for guys less attractive than themselves. It seems that men prefer modest girls that do not show off and the quiet girl gets more attention than the loud one.

[CalmUntilAbused]

I would differentiate between immodesty and popularity. I mean, if they get attention, it means they are popular, right? There are a few reasons for the surprising popularity of modest girls these days.

First, they actually stand out. What You meant by "mainstream popular" is basically the Hollywood-invented standards for female attractiveness. That means every single woman with an access to Hollywood media can and most likely will look similar. Sure, they will be immodest and thus they will attract the man's eye (by biological design, not out of free will), but that's about it. The women who actually stand out and thus attract genuine attention are those who are modest, especially these days, when immodesty is so common it's basically boring.

Second, modesty is subconsciously related to loyalty. If she likes to show off her body, multiple men will get attracted to her, even though it will be a lowly, physical-only attraction. With this much interest, she's highly unlikely to be exclusive to me, even if she originally intended to be. If she's modest, only people who go for more than looks will get attracted to her. And they will need much more than a glance in order to get attracted to her, they will need to get to know her better, so if I'm the one she spends the most time with, I'm most likely going to be fine.

Third, modest girls are simply comfortable to be around. I might be a man, but on some level, I'm just a male specimen of the Homo sapiens species. Now, because I'm more than an animal, I am capable of controlling my impulses, but it's much easier done with a girl that obfuscates her figure in public instead of showing it off. The more I am capable of looking at her as a fellow human and not specifically as a woman, at least when in public, the easier it is for me to communicate with her while remaining at ease. Interacting with immodest girls is putting much more strain on my mind, that's why I actually actively avoid such interactions.

Fourth, if a girl is taking excessive care of her appearance, she is likely to be a narcissist, which is a major red flag, and she's unlikely to have any common interests with me (no, her body is not really my interest, I just get attracted to it at a subconscious level). A modest girl simply has the time and resources to develop more interesting hobbies, but it's not uncommon that it's those hobbies that make her pay less attention to her appearance.

[sawno]

Yes and no, men are intimidated by "Out of their league" girls so they won't even try.
Then you also have men like me who would absolutely try but seek a highly compatible girl and the right girl for me is a hidden gem. Not necessarily because she's not popular, but because I seek someone who really values that deep connection and has a rarer more geeky but still very spontaneous personality. Those girls are usually not the popular girls in class.

[Excel21]

The quite ones are the ones to keep an eye on 🤣🤭

[Avicenna]

Sometimes they do