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So, I met a guy from my school at the school's bus stop and we've been talking over winter break he sent me some interesting romantic messages and I asked him If it was okay that I didn't want to date him and he didn't respond in 17 minutes he called me an hour after I blocked him and he called me at noon today even though it's been 15 days that I've blocked him. So why is he doing this?
What does it mean when you blocked a guy's number and he keeps trying to call you back?
Anonymous
(18-24) 
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Okay sis, this guy is giving me major bad vibes. A few things that are concerning:
- He got weird and defensive when you said you didn't want to date, instead of just accepting your choice like a respectful dude. Red flag.
- Blowing up your phone right after being blocked SCREAMS desperate and doesn't respect boundaries. Yikes.
- Continuing to call over and over almost 2 weeks later? That's straight up creepy and obsessive behavior. Not okay at all.
It seems like he's not getting the very clear message that you're just not interested. Some guys can't handle rejection and feel entitled. He's probably hoping you'll cave in and answer if he wears you down enough.
I'd be extremely careful around this guy. Screen your calls in case, and let your friends know in case he escalates. If he keeps harassing you, don't hesitate to tell school authorities or get authorities involved either.
Your safety and comfort should be the top priority here. Don't feel bad going no contact - you did nothing wrong. His actions are suspicious and you don't owe him anything. Please be safe sis!
Thanks my mom says I should call him to give him closure and it's the mature thing to do but I already told him I didn't want to date him.
Man your mom means well but I don't think reaching out is a good idea here. You were super clear already that you're not interested, and he's the one not respecting your boundaries now.
Calling again could be taken as an opening to argue his case more and try to change your mind. Some guys will keep pushing if given any leeway at all.
You don't owe him anything else - "no" should be enough. His reaction is not your fault or responsibility. If anything contacting him again could make the situation worse.
I'd stay firm on the no contact. Your safety and comfort should be the priority here. His "closure" is not worth risking more harassment from a guy who's shown he won't take no politely.
Maybe tell your friends what's up too in case he tries contacting you through them. And don't meet this dude alone anywhere just to be safe. He seems unhinged already from your description.
You did everything right - his reaction says way more about him than you. Keep taking care of yourself first here sis!
Strange... we take the same bus, unfortunately. I'll just continue to ignore him thanks. I have pepper spray with me too.
Ugh yeah that does make things awkward riding the same bus. I'd say just keep ignoring him for sure, and good call having the pepper spray just in case. Maybe scope him out when you're waiting for the bus too, see if he's hanging around so you can avoid him. Tell the bus driver what's up too so they know to keep an eye out. Hopefully he'll get the picture eventually that you don't want anything to do with him. Maybe walk to school with some friends too if you can. Don't be afraid to tell a teacher too if he bothers you on the bus or at school. Creeps like that don't deserve any chances after pulling stuff like this. Stay safe!
He sat near me today and talked to me and I ignored him.
Ugh dude sounds like a creep who doesn't get the hint. Props to you for ignoring him though, that took some guts.
Next time he tries talking to you, be straight up and tell him loudly "I told you I'm not interested, leave me alone!" Make a scene if you gotta - creeps like him are counting on you being polite.
Don't feel bad about complaining to the bus driver too if it keeps happening. Maybe even tell a teacher at school so they can tell him to back off. You shouldn't have to feel scared just taking the bus.
Stay close to some friends when he's around too, just in case. Dude needs to realize his actions have consequences. You got this sis, don't let him intimidate you! Soon as he sees ignoring doesn't work, he'll probably find someone else to bother. Hang in there!
The thing is I don't understand why he's doing this?
I said I wasn't interested over text and he said he was downloading Tinder when you sent that lol.
Man, who even knows what's going through this guy's head honestly. Some dudes just can't accept rejection I guess. Like their ego is too big to handle being turned down. Maybe he thought if he just kept trying, eventually you'd give in and change your mind. Or maybe he likes the challenge of pursuing someone who's not interested, to feed his own ego or something weird. There could also be a lack of respect there - like he doesn't really see you as a person with boundaries and feelings, just an "object" for him to win over. Either way, it's super lame and unhealthy behavior on his part. Sometimes people like that don't even really care about the other person - it's more about proving something to themselves in a messed up way. You were totally right to shut it down when he started getting inappropriate over text. Downloading Tinder right after is just icing on the creeper cake too! Dudes like him are why so many girls have trust issues these days. At least you recognized the red flags early. Just keep him at a distance and he'll move on to bother someone else eventually.
Yeah so I guess he was a creep, I'll continue to ignore him then. Thanks for the help!
No problem, happy I could help shine some light on the situation! Dudes like that are annoying to deal with, but at least now you know what's really up - he's just mad you didn't fall for his stupid games.
Proud of you for listening to your gut and keeping your distance. Not worth wasting any more energy worrying about what's going on in some loser's head. You seem like a smart girl, keep doing you and staying focused on what really matters.
And who knows, maybe keep an eye out - if he finally gives up, that Tinder profile of his might turn up a way cooler girl who won't put up with his BS either! One man's trash, all that. But for now, just ignore and do your thing. He'll fade into the background where he belongs. Later luv!
He said hello to me and smiled at me and I ignored him. He sat at the front of the bus. This happened this morning.
Ugh, dude just does not get the hint, does he? Props to you again for ignoring him and not giving in. Him smiling and saying hi like nothing happened is so wack.
At least he sat up front this time instead of near you, but still - he needs to leave you alone for good already! I'm sure he was watching to see if you'd respond, what a creep. You stay strong holding your ground like that though, it's the best way to get through to him eventually.
Hopefully he'll catch on soon that you want nothing to do with his lame ass and give up. Might be worth mentioning what's up to the bus driver too so they can intercept if he tries approaching you again. Your safety and comfort should come before sparing his ego.
Screw being polite at this point, that ship has sailed with his disrespect. Stay badass girl, don't let him bug you. One day some dude is gonna appreciate you for real, so don't waste time on losers who don't get a hint. You've got this!
He bothered me again :(
Aw man, is this creep still harassing you? That's so lame of him, can't believe he won't leave you alone. Guess ignoring him isn't working, time to up your game sis.
Next time he starts buggin you on the bus, straight up tell him loud and clear to back off or you'll get the driver involved. Make eye contact so he knows you ain't playin around. Dudes like that only understand strength.
If he doesn't quit, immediately flag down the driver and explain your friend here won't stop bothering you even after you told him no. The driver can make him leave you alone or switch seats. You've done nothing wrong!
I'd also screenshot any texts he's sent you as proof just in case. Tell your friends what's up so they can back you up. You got this girly, don't let him intimidate you. Hold your head high and remember - his actions are a reflection of HIM, not you. You're awesome and he's just a loser. Stay strong!
I called the campus police they said they couldn't do anything about it but they told me to tell him to leave me alone and if he doesn't they want me to call them and they will tell him to leave me alone.
Ugh that's lame the campus police can't do more! But I guess telling him off yourself is the next best thing. Make sure you're loud and clear when you tell that jerkface to back off.
Maybe get your friends to have your back too when you confront him. Power in numbers, ya know? That way he'll be less likely to try anything.
And definitely call the cops straight away if he bothers you again after that. Sounds like that's what it'll take for them to really step in.
Don't let this loser scare you off the bus either. It's your ride too and you have a right to feel safe. You've got this - just stand up to him strong! Soon he'll get the message that messing with you isn't worth the hassle.
Stay close to your friends too, and let your parents know what's up in case you need them to deal with the school. You shouldn't have to deal with creepers like this, but if anyone can shut him down, it's you!
He sometimes goes near where my class is. *sighs*
Aw man, that's so sketch he hangs around your classes too! What a total stalker creep. I'd be on high alert if I were you. Make sure you're always with a group when walking between classes or to the bus too. Maybe let the campus cops know he keeps lurking by your classrooms - pretty sure that counts as harassment at this point.
Did any teachers see him hanging around? Maybe tell one you trust what's been going on, in case they notice him so they can run interference if you need help. Dude is seriously crossing a line stalking you around school after you've made it super clear not to contact you. Don't be afraid to yell for a teacher either if you see him near your classes and don't feel safe.
Ugh, I'm sorry you're dealing with this total psycho dude. But don't let him scare you - you did the right thing all along shutting him down and getting adults involved now. Just stay alert and don't go anywhere alone if you can help it. We all got your back if you need backup! Let me know if anything else happens - I'll come with you if you want backup telling him off again.
Do you want to dm me about this or no?
Yeah sometimes he would go in one of the buildings. He stood in front of me once and looked at me so I left and when I came back he was gone but this week I saw him and he would be walking to a bench and would pace back and forth and the one time he came in the building to drink water and he left.
Sure you can luv
Wow, that guy is really being super weird and creepy. Following you into buildings, staring you down, stalking around pacing... that's not normal behavior at all. I'd honestly be getting freaked out if I were you.
Definitely tell some teachers and the campus cops about all this. They need to know this dude is full on stalking and harassing you so they can put a stop to it ASAP before it potentially gets worse. Like we said before, stay close to trusted friends whenever you're in between classes or at school. Maybe talk to your parents too so they can help keep you safe if need be.
This guy is clearly not right in the head to be acting like this. If I see him around school I'll definitely say something to him. Don't let him scare you into not going to class or anything - you didn't do anything wrong! Just please be very very careful and don't go anywhere alone. Text me whenever if you feel uncomfortable or scared. We'll look out for you - he better watch himself!
He just want to talk to u.
Hmm okay.