Boyfriend made me cut off my male bestfriend, and he cried and told me how I was a very good friend to him? now i'm heartbroken even more?

[Anonymous]

my male bestfriend and i are a bit closer than the usual friends but my partner is kind of jealous and has valid reasons to be jealous of the proximity of our friendship. however, we have never overstepped boundaries and have never been physical. My boyfriend asked me to cut him off after he knew how close we are, and how often we spoke. I told my male bestfriend and he. was devastated and made it even harder for me by telling me that i was a great friend to him and was always there for him.

[_Maya_]

What is your question? What to do about it? That's really unfortunate your boyfriend is that insecure. I'm also going to warn you that you are likely to get some opinions from our resident bitter men that claim girls and guys can't be friends. Ignore them or better yet hit the three dots next to their opinions and click the "I don't want to see this" because they are all full of shit. I have two very close guy friends. It has never effected any of my relationships. Like your friend they have never attempted to get physical or has there been even a whiff of intentions other than friendship. This is coming from knowing them closely for almost a decade. You need to talk to your boyfriend and ask him if it is okay if you tell him who he can and can't be friends with. Only fair.

[Danny_dan92]

As a guy, I can assure you. That in most cases (I won’t say all) but in most cases. Men that are friends with a girl, are actually just “friends” in their eyes.

In this case I think this girl should ask herself the real question which is “is she the only friend he has?” Cause if that’s the case then ok, I can see why he was hurt cause he lost his only friend… but if he has guy friends? Yeah… he had an alternative motive

[Orangekiss]

Well, for some best friendships are no better than smoke from a cigarette, or dreams that you soon forget, they are fading away. I don't know if I could cut out my bestest friend for some guy who may break up with you tomorrow. That way you are a two-time loser instead of losing just one.

[RavVid]

It is not compulsory for either you or your boyfriend to be in a relationship.

Your friendship quite possibly impacts on you being able to bond together. I have experienced that myself and it was quite offensive in reality and sabotaged the bonding.

I think it comes down to giving to your boyfriend what should be your boyfriend's.

You are both free to put conditions on the relationship and either accept of reject knowing that it ends the relationship.

It is seriously a problem if your are closer to your friend than you are to your boyfriend. It is not jealously, it is just an unacceptable situation that he is second string.

[DextroShade]

This guy was never really your friend, he was just orbiting you hoping one day you would take him out of the friend-zone. He is only devastated because your boyfriend had you do the right thing and extinguish that hope. Men are not your friends!

Also, ignore the feminists/spinsters telling you he's "insecure" or whatever because any other masculine man who is worth a damn would have had you do the same thing!

[matchrestore]

I don't think it's reasonable to ask you to end a longstanding friendship like that. My best friend is female, my wife's got good male friends. We trust each other enough. My wife even encourages me to hang out alone with my female best friend.

There's nothing wrong with having a cross gender friendship while in a relationship.

[Anonymous]

Is your best friend gay? If not chances are he wants to sleep w you. That is usually the case w most male female friendships. A lot of men guide their intentions under a “friendship” w a woman. Especially if you’re cute. It’s not that your man is insecure, it’s that he doesn’t trust your male friend. That’s not being insecure. He knows as a man what other men think. I’m not sure you’d feel much different if he had a female best friend who he talked to a lot of hung out w.

[Apple1996]

Never cut off friends because of a partner. That is extremely controlling. There is no reason why you can't have a male friend. Your boyfriend is just a piece of 💩

[aceleon]

sorry, time to choose no other way around, this is not how i met your mother, girl with male friends are red flags and that is final, he doesn't need his trust to be tested everyday.

[Danny_dan92]

He was devastated because he wants to say hi to your pussy with his cock. And now his chances to slime his way into that position is gone

[Anonymous]

What is the question? But no, your boyfriend didn't "make" you do anything. He wanted you to cut off your friend and you decided to appease him.

[Staximus]

Maybe you should have made your friend your boyfriend instead

[Unknown2o22]

Stay friends. That’s your boyfriends issue

[KrakenAttackin]

@Unknown2o22 If she did that and I was her boyfriend, I would walk. No man should tolerate this, neither should any woman.

[KrakenAttackin]

Your boyfriend was right to do this.

[Asker]

why? how come? i feel guilty as f*** for cutting him off abruptly like that and it shattered my heart when he said i was a very good friend to him and he was tearing,

[KrakenAttackin]

Asker, then go date your "friend". Having an opposite gender friend is absolutely destructive to your main relationship.

[Roudyrebel8]

Have you discussed this with him?