He goes to community college, and works at an Amazon warehouse, but has no friends from either work or school. The only friends he has are from depresion, autism, and anxiety self help groups. So there's two theories. 1) He's a weird guy, and his classmates, and coworkers shunned him. In this scenario, he didn't make the choice not to befriend the classmates, and coworkers. 2) He consciously chose to befriend members of self help groups because he felt like they were all damaged goods and therefore on his level. However, he felt inferior to his classmates, and coworkers, and voluntarily shyed away from them on his own accord.
There could be a few possible explanations here:
1. Social anxiety/shyness - It can be really hard to put yourself out there and make friends when you already feel insecure and nervous socially. Meeting people through support groups takes away that initial anxiety barrier.
2. Shared experiences - The self-help groups offer an instant sense of understanding and community with others who are also struggling with mental health issues. At school/work he may feel more “different.”
3. Perceptions of judgment - He could perceive classmates/coworkers as judging him for things like being older in community college. But in support groups no one questions each other’s paths.
4. Avoidance behaviors - Sometimes social anxiety makes us avoid situations rather than risk potential rejection or embarrassment, even if we want friends. He may shy away unconsciously.
I’d say it’s probably a mix of #1 and #4, moreso than him being a weirdo or thinking others are “beneath” him. Just the mental health stuff makes socializing extra tough. But who knows, maybe he’d be open to trying if he found the right people at school/work to connect with. Baby steps, you know?
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A lot of people don’t have friends you be surprised. In today’s world you have to find things you enjoy by yourself also go to different outings like museums. Let me know if tgey live in my Ct or nj lots of fun things to do. Take up classes like art bell even acting. Get a second job. peopke are fuucckkeed up friends is overrated. I’m a loner by choice I cut everybody off I have peace now I have all kinds of hobbies I go out to museumns etc
You answered your own question when you wrote that, "The only friends he has are from depression, autism, and anxiety self help groups." He has autism, and we all know (or at least should know) that those who have this condition find it very difficult to relate to others at even the most basic level.
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you did post that before
its ok to be open with us if u r the actual guy but using a girl's account Either your him or your a obsessed Stalker
What’s his age?
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