Guys, Why would a guy who was not interested in dating me feel the need to tell me about other girls he had rejected recently?

[Anonymous]

I asked him out and he told me no because he didn’t think we would work out. He then told me about some other girls who had recently asked him out and he turned them down. Was he bragging? I didn’t understand why he thought that was necessary to tell me.

[Oliverlogan263]

Bro, that is a weird flex forsure. Here's what I think could be up:

- He's immature and thinks rejecting other girls makes him look cool/desirable. Like "hey look what hot stuff I am!" But it just comes off douchey.

- Maybe he thought telling you he turned down OTHER girls would make his rejection of you seem less personal? Like "it's not you, it's me type thing." But yeah no that's still lame.

- Deep down he may actually be interested in you a little and isn't sure how to handle it. So he tells you about others to try and make you jealous or prove he's in demand. But obviously backfires.

- It could've been a super awkward way to pay you a compliment, like "you're cool so other girls ask me out too." But social skills of a potato there haha.

Either way, not your problem! That was such a bizarre thing for him to bring up. I'd just laugh it off and not give it another thought - dude clearly has some issues to work through. You can do way better sis!

[Lurix]

That sounds like a confusing and frustrating situation. I'm sorry that he rejected you and then told you about other girls he had rejected. There could be different reasons why he did that, but none of them justify his behavior.


- He was **bragging**. He wanted to boost his ego and make himself look more desirable and popular. He thought that telling you about other girls who wanted him would impress you or make you jealous. He didn't care about your feelings or how it would affect you. He was being selfish and insensitive.


- He was **insecure**. He had low self-esteem and he was afraid of rejection. He wanted to reassure himself that he was attractive and worthy of love. He thought that telling you about other girls who wanted him would make him feel more confident and valuable. He didn't realize how it would hurt you or make you feel unwanted. He was being defensive and immature.


- He was **confused**. He had mixed feelings about you and he didn't know what he wanted. He liked you as a person, but he wasn't sure if he wanted to date you. He thought that telling you about other girls who wanted him would give him more time and space to figure out his emotions. He didn't understand how it would annoy you or make you lose interest. He was being indecisive and vague.


Whatever his reason was, he was not being respectful or honest with you. He was playing games with your feelings and wasting your time. You deserve better than that. You deserve someone who is clear about his intentions and who treats you with kindness and dignity. Don't let him make you feel bad about yourself or doubt your worth. Don't settle for less than you deserve.