Long story short...
This guy was one of my interns way back. At the end of the internship I told everyone that they can contact me if they ever need refs. A few did, as did he. No problem. A couple years leading up to the pandemic he has asked to go for coffee, go for lunch sometime, texted me to update me that he moved out on his own and then same thing again "let me know when you are free for coffee or even lunch".
Fast forward to after the pandemic he popped up yes for a reference and then went on to ask how I was and to let him know when I would be free to grab coffee because it would be nice to catch up. I was under the assumption that maybe he just wanted to get some insight on the field he was pursing so I offered to chat over the phone. He preferred a meet up. When I finally met with him for coffee he was a bit nervous, and there wasn't anything specific he wanted to talk about. Bought me the biggest hot cocoa and we were just two people shooting the breeze about life. Irrelevant but we initially hugged when we met and hugged when we left.
I texted him later to say it was nice to catch up. He replied with similar sentiments and ended with something along the lines of we should hang out more often than once a year. And then mentioned that he will have more free days each month. Hmm... alright...
Fast forward. He popped up again stated he wanted to chat on the phone or meetup to talk about a project he is working on and would love my expertise on it. When I said I wouldn't be free until Feb he said no prob. Yesterday I wanted to confirm a day so I don't book a meeting he stated that it will most likely work because by then he would have pitched his project and would have that to share w/ me. Meaning he doesn't really want my expertise instead wants to meetup. So... is this a networking thing? A friend of mine thinks it's not networking But what do you all think?
And to GAG trolls... just... don't bother with snarky remarks... thanks
Hmm yo that's kinda sus if you ask me. A few things make it seem like maybe he's tryna holler at you lowkey:
- The random coffees and lunches with no real reason come off date-ish. Like who just meets up with an old intern that much?
- Saying he'll have more free days each month to hang is weirdly forward. Like what does your schedules gotta do with anything?
- Claiming to need networking help on some project but can't even tell you what it is yet? Major bs flag.
I'd say his intentions probably ain't all professional at this point sis. Dude's shootin his shot fo' sho'!
If it was me, I'd play it cool but keep my guard up. Might be tryna finesse you. Feel him out next time you link up - if convo stays on you and not his "project" then you'll know for sure.
Keep it chill for now but watch your back fam. Dude tryna holla, don't let him play you! You too fly for some half-assed "networking" stunts 😂
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I'd assume networking at this point
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