I had a teacher in middle school who I now think may have groomed me. There were lots of compliments about my personality and appearance, some gifts, lots of alone time. He stalked my social media until I confronted him, one day despite repeatedly saying no he made me get in his car, he frequently hugged me (not just short hugs but like we’d hug for some time and he’d occasionally rub my back or talk to me at the time I just thought he was supporting me), eventually at one point he told me he loved me and so many more things but I’m trying to keep this short.
Sometimes I feel like it’s clear as day and other times I doubt it because towards the end he got confident and started hugging me and stuff in front of other students and staff yet no one acted concerned it made me feel like it was all ok. We never got sexual either so I thought I must be crazy and that all of his intentions must’ve been good and had just come off as bad. I don’t know now and it drives me crazy not fully knowing I get anxious when I think about it or see him. I know I should go to therapy but I haven’t been able to bring myself to do it yet so I’m trying to find another way of getting support so if you read this I appreciate it…
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There was a teacher in my school like that. He used to bring gifts for a girl. Used to support her. Used to admire her. Say good words to her. We all were some kind of jealous of her getting this kind of treatment. And he was the head of school.
One year after I have left that school, I have found, that sir had called her in office one day for some work, and told her to sit in his lap. That girl came back hostel almost running and crying. And that day jealousy turned into thankfulness kind, that thank god it wasn't me.
I remember that sometimes kids would tell me that they were jealous but I also got bullied about it a lot. Sometimes im surprised it never developed into more but then other times I convince myself its because he meant well and it never would’ve happened like that.
You are lucky that it didn't got developed more. Maybe he didn't get courage or chance. But you were almost near to that danger zone. Just only few centimetres away.
His behavior was wildly inappropriate. If you can get it, I recommend therapy. It make take you a bit of looking to find the right one.
It does sound like he was trying it on. I think you will need expert advice on this.