Am I wasting his time?

[Anonymous]

There’s this man I’ll call Erik. Not his real name. Erik comes from a big, traditional Greek family and he wants a traditional wife who’s a great cook and a great wife and mother to his many kids and I’ve just decided that I don’t want to have kids, because of my low energy from long term major depression and anxiety disorder and the risk of having severely autistic kids with severe mental health issues, because mental illnesses, personality disorders and autism run in my family. I feel like he’s already trying to fit me into a picture of a domestic goddess. He’s getting really intense, really quickly and I like him, but I don’t think I can cope with children. Should I just tell him? Stop wasting his time?

[236color]

Yes, and thank you for being this self aware and also concerned for his wants and needs. Time for a serious sit down with him where you explain your situation, that you know what his desires/expectations are and that you can't fulfill them. My wife and I decided at one point to terminate a pregnancy because she was under treatment for depression. We were concerned both about the medication she was taking and if she could survive postpartum depression if it escalated her existing condition.

[Saiesh30]

Yeah in the long run it's best to keep the picture clear. Better to present your opinion directly than doing it later when time runs out.
I'd suggest be upfront about what you want and let him decide what he wants then.

[laly520]

yes u r wasting his time

leave so Erik could find the right one n u too could find the right one

[Jamie05rhs]

You don't want children? Shit, I don't either. Marry me instead! Lol