Gentlemen, in your time on this planet have you learned to be a simple man?

[KrakenAttackin]

It has taken me many years to internalize the simple wisdom of this song.

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Yes this question was addressed to men, but I am surprised there isn't one single pink comment.

[Billlewis]

It just figures that you'd lay this one on us, Sir. Lynyrd Skynyrd, 1973-74. I heard it for the first time in '80, or thereabouts.

[KrakenAttackin]

This song is legend. A mother taking with her young son, giving him solid advice that isn't driven by feminist, TikThot, awful modern culture, or other destructive inputs. She genuinely wants her son to be happy.

[Billlewis]

Yes, Sir, I know the lyrics almost verbatim. 'Find a woman, and you'll find love, and remember there is someone up above...'
Here m.youtube.com/watch

[KrakenAttackin]

Good stuff! I haven't heard this in at least a decade.

[Billlewis]

Yes, Sir, thank you very much, you're the best.

[KrakenAttackin]

@Billlewis. I am actually 54 not 44. In the 1990's I was a police officer for about six years in a shit hole city up north. One hot summer day we had a pursuit which reached well over 100+ MPH. As we left the city for the highway the suspect either blew a front tire or hit a big pothole (or both), but he lost control of his vehicle, hit a K-Rail, bounced off it and hit a large embankment, which sent him airborne. His car landed on the roof, snapping his neck and almost decapitating him. After the dust settled we approached the vehicle, weapons drawn, until we saw his inverted body draining blood onto the pavement. A fucked up scene for sure.

I went back to my car to cook off (mentally and physically ), and the song "Simple Man" was playing on the radio. Since that day I have always associated this song with that event, but I still love the song.

I never gave the event much thought until recently (25 years later). I find myself wondering if that man (the suspect ) had found the love of a GOOD woman, would he have been living so fast and seeking the rich man's gold? Would he have run from us? Was dying better than being arrested? Did he really have nothing to live for?

Today, finding the love of a "good woman" is unrealistic for the vast majority of men. I think this is a big reason so many men are just dropping out of almost everything. Unfortunately, the most dangerous and destructive force in society is a man with nothing to lose. Today we have legions of men with nothing to lose.

[Billlewis]

What an amazing story! Yes, Sir, in similar fashion as Mr. Exterminatore, you're the epitome of a badass. I'm glad you made it through that shift in one piece.

[KrakenAttackin]

@Billlewis. The more dangerous experiences I have had the less of a badass I feel like. There is always someone bigger, tougher, faster, smarter than you. In my now older self I think being a "badass" is Knowing your own limitations, asking for help when needed, being willing to die/kill for those you love, and being willing to follow your own (quiet) path.

I am curious what @Exterminatore thinks about all this.

[Billlewis]

I think he has a few things in common with you, Sir. You're both very convincing examples of the male species, and neither of you are interested in bowing to anyone, anywhere. I've been fortunate enough to have chatted with him recently, and I can tell you that he's just formidable. Perhaps not as well versed as you are, but much more intimidating.

[KrakenAttackin]

@Billlewis. Agreed that @Exterminatore. Is an example of a "faster, stronger... etc" than me. I respect him completely and do not begrudge his superior skill set.

[Billlewis]

I don't think it's necessary a case of him being superior to you; he apparently just has a greater tendency to revel in the advantage he holds over little wuss ass simps like me, that's all. You're nicer than him, but the mean ones work better for me... lol

[KrakenAttackin]

@Billlewis. Would you die or kill for the ones you love?

[Billlewis]

If those are the only two choices, I guess I'll kill... lol

[KrakenAttackin]

See, you aren't such a simp after all 😉

[Billlewis]

Yes, Sir.

[Anonymous]

Mostly, yes.

That's the best Skynyrd song of all time.

[KrakenAttackin]

Anon... if you have this concept at your age, you are doing well.

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you. Probably not always 100%, but I think I do for the most part. I have a good job and career, I own a house (thankfully I bought one before the shit hit the fan), I'm hapilly married to my high school sweetheart, and we have two beautiful daughters. I think I have most of the bases covered.

[KrakenAttackin]

Op... Good for you! Man, it's good to hear a success story.

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you sir, I appreciate it. I do feel fortunate.

[strateguy632]

simple is a stupid limitation every good recipe combines stuff. pizza with various toppings and other luxuries make life worth it.

[KrakenAttackin]

@strateguy632. You do you brother.

[exitseven]

I am a very complicated person tht is masquerading as a much simpler man.

[KrakenAttackin]

@exitseven. Well that's the point. Many of us are complicated, but that usually entangles us if we aren't meeting our own previously set goals and self expectations. At some point, acceptance of a simpler life can help bring peace.

[exitseven]

so far no good.

[KrakenAttackin]

You may not need to simplify as much as I have. I've been beaten down pretty badly these past few years.

[msc545]

I've learned to talk more simply to people that I think will have trouble understanding me and the way I usually speak.

[KrakenAttackin]

@msc545 I mean in your soul. Are you OK leading a simpler life, on a quieter path?

[KrakenAttackin]

Life has forced me to accept a quiet path and coming to accept that has been a struggle, but one I am slowly winning.

[msc545]

Oh - ok, I understand. I am working on it, not doing as well as I hoped I would.

[KrakenAttackin]

@msc545 That's all of us man. Slow, steady, steps.

[msc545]

yes well said...

[KrakenAttackin]

Thanks man.

[Fuentes]

I learn to only care about money these hoes today are weird af

[KrakenAttackin]

@Fuentes. I get that but chasing bag too hard can be destructive. You are a good man and I wish you success.

[Fuentes]

And success comes with money my guy hahaha

[KrakenAttackin]

@Fuentes. "Success" is how you define it for yourself. As you get older your definition of success can change significantly. Money os great, but nothing beats peace of mind. I am not there yet but I am working on it.

[Sorobor]

I'm trying. We'll see if i manage. But if i have the strength to do good, i'm going to do try my best.

[Likes2drive]

It’s gotten simpler since being divorced

[KrakenAttackin]

@Likes2drive. That is a definite simplification.

[Likes2drive]

No emotional stress either

[Alex-Snow]

I am learning not to overthink things.

[Exterminatore]

For the most part.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Sure have