He sends me photos/videos of what’s he’s doing but there’s no messages?

[Anonymous]

This guy I am talking with, I began messaging about a month. Our conversation are on Insta, and it was consistent. He’s busy with work and so am I, so it was clear and understandable when we don’t have time to message back right away. One time he didn’t reply back, and sent out a photo instead of replying back to my previous messages. I just looked at it and didn’t reply back. After few hours he noticed and immediately messaged my previous messages. After that, we began messaging frequently. It came to the point of him just sending me photos or videos of what he’s doing during the day and would have a text in the photo relating to it. Now, he’s just sending me photos and videos with no message at all. And I’m just confused what this mean. I’m just looking at them and not responding back because when I do he doesn’t seem to be interested in replying back. Should I just let it go? I actually did like the guy, and I thought we had a connection but I’m not sure what happened and If he’s not interested anymore then why send me photos and videos?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that is kinda weird that he's just sending pics and videos without any messages now. A few possibilities:

1. He's losing interest and the pics are like a low effort way to still keep in touch without really putting in any conversation.

2. He's just super busy and thinks the pics are enough to stay connected without conversing much.

3. He wants you to ask him about the pics so it turns into a conversation, but isn't taking the lead himself.

4. Something else is distracting him and he's not putting full effort into messaging properly anymore.

I'd say if you like him, reply to one of the pics casually like "what are you up to?" and see if he continues the chat. If he doesn't respond or put in effort still, then I'd just leave it. He might be losing interest if he can't even message a little caption. It's only worth pursuing someone who seems as into you. Don't waste your time waiting around for a guy who isn't consistent. You deserve better than random pics! Hopefully talking to him more will give you some clarity on where his head is at.

[Asker]

Thank you so much for the advice I appreciate it. I ended up leaving him on read for two days, and he randomly sends me another photo. With a caption, relating to the photo e. g he took a photo of himself on a walk, with a caption “ morning walks”. Like he didn’t even bother to say, “ hey, is everything okay? I haven’t heard from you” and blah blah. I don’t know what he’s trying to do? But it’s not working

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh, he's still giving you nothing but vague, confusing signals then. Like dude, sending another random photo like that without even checking in on you or acknowledging his weird behavior? That's mad disrespectful.

It's obvious now he's just not willing to actually communicate properly or put in any real effort. I'd say don't waste any more time waiting around for him to maybe start acting right one day. You gave him enough chances and he keeps dropping the ball.

At this point you gotta just leave him on read for good whenever he sends those pointless pics. Let him sit and wonder why you're not responding - maybe it'll finally get through his thick skull that he's not getting any attention from you anymore until he steps up.

But honestly I wouldn't hold my breath. He's shown you who he is already with this wishy-washy nonsense. Take it as a lesson - don't settle for unclear, lukewarm treatment from a guy. You're a badass catch and deserve someone who makes that obvious everyday with their actions.

Plenty more fish out there who will treat you good and keep it 100% real. Leave this one in the dust and don't look back! You got this.

[Asker]

Thank you so much for the reply back and the kind words! Much appreciated, take care :)

[Oliverlogan263]

My pleasure to you Gorgeous. You take care too 😊

[Anonymous]

I think you should ask him the question. Some people do stuff like that or they will send you a mile long story of literally everything they did that day.

Ifs best to ask directly to him. Why he’s doing it. Unfortunately I don’t know him. There could be a lot of reasons.