If a guy gets angry when I don't give him attention does it mean he doesn't like me?

[Anonymous]

This dude and his friends would constantly glance at me when I'm behind them to catch me looking at him because rumor has it that I liked him. Sometimes he would stand a few meters away staring and waiting for me to look back at him, then get frustrated and grumpy when I don't look back and say something to his friend along the lines of "she probably thinks she is all that" (but i'm not sure if he is referring to me or someone else). The next time I saw him he would tell his friend "I don't want to see her" in an angry tone when I enter the room. Does he think I'm playing games with him? Why is he so desperate for my attention if he is not interested in me? Mind you I've only talked to this guy once years ago.

[Anonymous]

Any time you post about this guy, you never say that you’ve tried to have a conversation and clearing things up. It’s just a bunch of your loose interpretations of how you believe he is acting or feeling. If I were as curious as you are I’d have had a chat already, otherwise go ahead and continue with the miscommunication. However I think he’s just as confused as you are, because you do in fact give him attention, the next day or at some random other point in time pretend he doesn’t exist. Which does look like you have a problem when maybe you don’t at all.

[Asker]

I talked to him and he denied having any interest ever and pretends he doesn’t remember what I’m taking about

[Opinion Owner]

So that one time you spoke years ago was about him having interest? I mean at least that part is clear, but I’m more-so talking about his behavior towards you. That is what I’d want to clear up.

[Asker]

No my Bad. We talked years ago and last week I confronted him about this weird behaviour. We made a bit small talk and in the beginning he was very friendly but as soon as I mentioned his behaviour and his staring he acted like he didn’t know what I was talking about. I asked him why he did not approach me and he said „idk I guess I was never that interested“ which is a lie because everyone of his friends knew that he used to have a crush on me years before he started acting this weird

[Opinion Owner]

Ohhh ok. Well if he said he was never that interested then it makes sense he didn’t pursue. There’s people where they can have a crush on someone and then they don’t anymore. Maybe at one point they really thought they liked the person, but ultimately did not. In any case, it still doesn’t explain his actions, and that’s what I would want to clarify. If he says nothing is wrong, then maybe you’re just being sensitive and too aware of him.

[Asker]

Yeah But he admitted to his friends that he used to like me

[Asker]

And no I don’t think I’m too sensitive, even his friends shake their head at him. I feel like he kind of liked me but at the same time resents me because I kind of rejected him in the past by ignoring his stares and he can’t get over his ego even though it’s 5 years ago

[Opinion Owner]

I guess I don’t understand why you’re putting so much emphasis on romantic interest? It’s not like he has a crush and being mean or rude because of it, so where’s the connection?

[Asker]

How do you know he doesn’t? His friend tried to ship us and I think he wanted to talk to me the last time I saw him

[Opinion Owner]

Because he told you he doesn’t honey. To say otherwise is delusional. He said he was never that interested, he told you directly. This is so obsessive.

[Opinion Owner]

You may think you’re ugly but another man won’t. You should move on to someone who actually likes you.

[Asker]

At some point he was interested and everyone knew. So saying he was never that interested is just a lie

[Asker]

Yeah he also stared at me like he wanted to talk to me but when confronted he doesn’t get a word out. That dude is weird so why would I trust a word he says?

[Opinion Owner]

Honey he is probably looking back at you because you give him so much of your attention. You don’t think he finds your actions weird and that contributed to why he stopped liking you? And for him to say he wasn’t that interested only means he thought he liked you a certain amount but ultimately he did not. It is absolutely fine if you’re a woman who likes the same man until the next one comes along even if he doesn’t like you back, but that is absolutely not how everyone is. This isn’t even a diss but it shows how little experience you have with men. To keep insisting he likes you after he has clarified, then call him a liar is just so oddly delusional girl….

[236color]

It means he insecure and possibly dangerous. The anger displayed because you're not paying attention to him is a red flag. He thinks that because he stands a few meters off , you should notice him and show appreciation for him standing in his vicinity? That sounds like some Aaron Rodgers incel shit going on there.

[Asker]

Yeah I know. But why does it affect him so much if he doesn’t consider me worthy of a Date? I mean even 3 years later he keeps glancing at me from afar to catch me looking at him (which I’m not) and then says he is not into me wtf

[236color]

This is how he protects his ego, "I don't want her anyway", "She's stuck up, thinks she's all that." All kinds of stuff to try to convince himself you aren't worth the obsession he has with you. These guys are dangerous. If you ever see him carrying a duffel bag near you RUN.

[Asker]

But I admitted that I stared at him too so basically I confessed my interest in him

[AviatorTom]

No, it just means he gets angry. Sometimes we humans get angry at people we care about.

[Asker]

Yeah but when I asked him he said he was never that into me

[laly520]

u have to talk to him fr

[Asker]

I messaged him and he pretends he doesn’t know what I’m talking about

[laly520]

then he ain't interested n time waster

[Asker]

Quite a reaction from someone who doesn’t even like me

[didichi]

Yeah he just wants attention and to waste your time.

[Sameone]

Your story is very complicated

[Asker]

i know

[Asker]

basically, i like this dude and he found out and told his friends but would get mad when i don't show that I'm interested

[Sameone]

Best thing you do is move on
Because this relationship is not going to work

[Asker]

Why not lol?

[In_Trance]

not necessarily