What's going on when a man avoids your eye contact?

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

I've been observing this for a while. Some men at my gym did that recently. At first, they just looked at me normally. Some of them stare but not smiling. But now they look away even when they talk to me. I'm sure I check my appearance to not look too bad from time to time. Only the oldest one keeps looking at me. I feel like... 😱.

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[Static_In_The_Attic]

Times have changed & guys are changing with times too. As for the next time you go to the gym give yourself a pat on the back because if guys don’t give girls eye contact you brought it in yourself. Back in the day if a guy looked at a girl she took it as a compliment & nowadays if a guy looks at a girl he is automatic labeled a creep.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Hopefully, it's not extreme like what is happening in the west. There are a few foreigners I greet and nod as friends though we've never talked.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

The one thing about the future is that it’s unwritten & as for the future anything is possible & anything can be written. If it’s eye contact you seek try to seek it in a different way.
What do you wear at the gym? The tight revealing gym hooker cloths that all the girls wear or something else?

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Just sweat pants and a t-shirt. Rarely, I wear leggings. And I never wear only sports bra.

[Curmudgeon]

1. Because they assume you are not interested in them.

2. Because they do not want to be accused of any untoward behavior.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

1.

Can you elaborate please?

Other members focus more on No.2 which hasn't happened yet. (I might try a social experiment one day.)

[Curmudgeon]

@el_Te_de_la_Rosa Well, it really is that simple. They think you would never be interested in them anyway. " Only the oldest one keeps looking at me", you stated. And that makes sense - the older a man gets, the less he cares about rejection.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Thank you. By the way, why don't they stop looking at women at all? I mean they're in 70s.

How can I tell them politely... "Grandpa, mind your own grandkids!" 😂

[Curmudgeon]

@el_Te_de_la_Rosa Well, at any age, nice scenery is simply just that, nice scenery. (that IS a compliment, by the way). My father is now watching and jacking off to porn, sadly this is because Mother passed away last July. They were married for 66 years.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

I lost my dad when I was in 20s. Maybe that's what I can't understand. 🥲

[KrakenAttackin]

They are worried you are a TikThot video queen recording "gym creepers".

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

I am not. No worries. It's me who has to check where I can step around the gym.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

I've watched these series and I feel sorry for the guys. 😅

https://youtu.be/8qR0lqOD6mU?si=O-LUOubKZJZo1cCt

[KrakenAttackin]

Men are done with women at gyms.

[Mr_twoface]

It doesn't mean anything. Could be focused on their routine. They might be checking you out anyway.

[spartan55]

If something isn't there girls will create something in their head and then think it's important. Those guys were maybe talking about something that GASP... wasn't you... Nothing to see here.

[JacobJordan]

Because they aren't looking to pick false allegations because you are dressed inappropriately and might be filming.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

I don't film myself or anyone there. Dressing? It's only once I wear leggings with a short top covering just my back, not a t-shirt that's long enough to cover my butt I wear as usual. Could that be the cause?

[JacobJordan]

You don't have to film for their to be the presumption of filming and any clothes that are very tight fitting is not something to wear to the gym unless you want attention however now with all the fake accusations you could wear a sheet and people would likely avoid looking

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Ummm... from what I experienced today in a dance section, now men were gathering outside the room staring, while 10+ of us women were enjoying the moves. Some wore bras and leggings. I just had sport pants and a loose sleeve-less tee. Non-sexy at all.
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Frankly, it'd be more like them watching a chimpanzee. I tried to be as goofy as I could. Hopefully, if they see other sides, they wouldn't be prejudiced about my behavior. I intentionally act ridiculous and come up with jokes sometimes for them to see me as a friend, not a hoe.

[JacobJordan]

You'll have to talk to the women that made it this way for ladies. Guys had no problems until women started falsely accusing them and putting it online and then of course other dudes see the comments filled with women agreeing with the false accusations.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

I have watched some vids on Youtube. But the subscribers are mostly men.

[JacobJordan]

Because men don't do false accusations

[Anonymous]

It means you have too much time on your hands.

[laly520]

they ain't interested