Does my male co-worker like me?

[Anonymous]

I know he likes me as a person, but I'm wondering whether he is interested in me romantically. And if there are signs I should look out for, let me know. Ty

I notice the following when we interact:

1. We talk for long periods of time. We have really busy jobs but find time to connect throughout the day for at least an hour.

2. He makes and holds a a lot of eye contact with me when we talk.

3. He rubs his mouth/puts his fingers to his lips a lot when we talk quite a bit when we talk.

4. He laughs a lot when we talk.

5. He listens to me when I talk and remembers what I say.

6. He takes my advice (ex. immediately started watching a TV show I recommended and I suggested an activity he could try.)

7. He complimented me on my body in a respectful manner on two occasions. I told him that I was working out at my favorite studio/getting ready for summer. The first time he told me I look nice/fit. The second time he chuckled telling me I don't need go loose weight I look good.

8. He mirrors me. When we talk I feel like he copies my mannerisms and expressions.

[Smashingdoozy]

Hard to say. It's possible he's just a decent human being.

[spartan55]

Yeah, I don't really see much here except you projecting your feelings onto everything.

[Asker]

Then what are the signs? Also what feelings did I project?

[spartan55]

Rubs his mouth and puts his fingers on his lips a lot when we talk... huh? how is that a sign he likes you. Almost every point you made could be explained as normal interaction or you reaching for signs he is attracted (like the example above)
by the way I'm sure your company doesn't appreciate you both stealing time everyday to talk for an hour. Be careful with that.
Bottom line: I really don't see much except a coworker being friendly. If you want something to happen you are going to have stop this micro analyzation of his behavior and let him know explicitly that you are interested. Guys are VERY cautious about approaching at work in today's culture. The risk is too great.

[Asker]

Well there are signs of attraction when not explicitly communicated. People talk about them all the time.

There is no such thing as stealing time? That is real out of touch. Most people meet their significant others at work or school. Despite this people make a huge deal out of dating a co-worker. It’s entirely strange.

[spartan55]

Well obviously you only want to hear that he is attracted to you, so I'm not sure why you posted this. Empty validation?
So what are these signs of attraction that people talk about 'all the time?'
Clearly you don't know what I meant by stealing time. There is such a thing, trust me. If you think it's no big deal then tell your boss that you and this guy socialize for an hour on company time everyday. See what your boss says.
'Most people meet their significant others at work' what does that have to do with what we are talking about? I thought you were trying to see if this guy is interested?

[Asker]

No, since you said the signs I provided are not indications a guy is interested, I asked you to provide some body language/non verbal signs. You didn’t. It has nothing to do with me only wanting a certain perspective.

I’m not stealing time at work. It’s such a stupid concept What do you think I do for work? I can socialize, take a break, and do my job done and do it well. You’re out of touch.

You mentioned risk being too great to approach women or date coworkers. Most people meet their significant others at school or work. the risk can’t be that great.

[spartan55]

And you say I'm out of touch... 😂 😂 😂 Whatever, you seem to know everything...

[spartan55]

"Most people meet their significant others at work"... yeah, keep telling yourself that. Typical pink anon, knows shit about nothing.

[Asker]

I don’t know everything, but you’ve shown you know nothing.

[KrakenAttackin]

Draw your own conclusions.

[BarryLiverstone]

Nope

[Danny_dan92]

No, get to work.