Why would a guy be all over you, say he wants you in his life etc, then flake out on meet-ups he’s suggested himself, only messages (no phone calls)?

[Anonymous]

He used to call occasionally in the past etc not now. He said he ‘wants and needs me in his life’ , tells me I’m ’amazing/awesome, funny, sweet’ but flakes out and ghosts me. What’s going on?

[_Maya_]

Could be any number of things. I am just going to take a couple guesses. First thing that comes to mind is he is nervous once he gets to the actual meetup. He wants to do it but as the time gets near to meeting up he is all nerves and calls it off. I can't relate to that but I am sure some people are like that. The other thing is that he just doesn't know what he wants. He might say all the right things but his heart really isn't in it. I think if he has done this enough times to you that you need to evaluate if it is worth getting jerked around or time to move on.

[HollyK21]

Dating as an adult, you should be holding a man accountable of his actions, not his words. That’s how you determine whether or not he’s genuine about trying to pursue you, or just using you as a time-pass and getting the benefits of having a woman in his life without the commitment. He can be filling your head with all the lovey, romantic shit under the Sun, but when his actions aren’t matching, he’s flaking without scheduling something else or not really trying, then despite how disappointing it may feel to accept this you can safely determine that he’s all talk, wasting your time.

[TommyMountainFigure]

It sounds like a case of fantasy meeting the real world.. The fantasy side of things he's ok with, but as soon as it becomes real? He's scared of something!

[strateguy632]

sounds like he said what he thought would work, to do intimate, and since satisfied looks for the next hot lady.

[MittParekh15]

He seems to be use and throw type of guy, better to ghost him and find real friends..

[slatyb]

Why is not important. He's a waste o of time.