Why are attractive men so rare?

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MrOracle · Accepted Answer

It's because most women today have completely unrealistic expectations. They want a super-hot, tall guy who is ALSO wealthy, who is going to be nice, and romantic, and who is going to be faithful. Those things never come in a single package.

Social Media and dating apps have given women VIRTUAL exposure to men all over the world, rather than just the men around her, so they actually have access to the top men all over the world. The problem is, those top men aren't looking for relationships - they're just looking for some casual sex, because why would the want the hassles of a relationship when they can use a girl until they get bored with her or until she becomes a hassle, and then he can dump her and have a new replacement within a day? There's no upside to a relationship when you're in that position.

Women chase these men because they foolishly believe that SHE is going to be the one who is so special that he will commit to her - but that's never how it actually works out. Still, it's allowed women to have crazy high standards. And women even demand men that have the best attributes of ALL of the guys before him - if one guy was very fit, she will only date fit men. If one guy was rich, she only wants rich men. If one guy was very smart, she only wants smart men. If one guy was tall, she only wants tall men. The fact that she didn't find all of those many traits in the same one man before doesn't occur to her - she now wants EVERYTHING in the same guy - which would make him insanely desirable to ALL women - and then she thinks she's going to have him to herself. That's just delusional.

Even worse, women are very much in denial about the fact that they have the most leverage they will ever have when they are in their 20s, and that their "market value" is going to go down significantly in their 30s and continue to drop from there. Instead of securing a solid relationship in their 20s, women are focusing on their careers and are sleeping around in their 20s, and then they think they can be MORE demanding in their 30s and 40s, and can't figure out why they can't find "a good man." Well, duh! That's like wanting to buy a new Ferrari when you only have, at best, Honda Civic money. You can want all you want, but you won't be getting that Ferrari.

Levin · Accepted Answer

Well, women are the fairer sex. But tbh, a lot of women are over-rated and overweight these days. Maybe you require some kind of emotional attachment, too.

Babygirl_S · Accepted Answer

I completely agree with you.

Attractiveness in men, much like in any individual, is a combination of various factors including physical appearance, charisma, confidence, and personality. When we consider the rarity of truly attractive men, we're often referring to individuals who possess an exceptional combination of these qualities. Henry Cavill serves as an excellent example of this rarity. Firstly, his physical appearance is undeniably striking. With chiselled features, a strong jawline, piercing blue eyes, and a physique that seems carved out of marble, Cavill embodies the epitome of male attractiveness.

However, physical appearance alone does not make someone rare. Cavill's appeal extends beyond his looks. His charisma and presence on screen exude confidence and magnetism, drawing viewers in and capturing their attention. Whether he's portraying the iconic role of Superman or a suave secret agent in "The Man from U. N. C. L. E.," Cavill's on-screen persona exudes charm and allure. Moreover, his personality adds depth to his attractiveness. Accounts from colleagues and fans alike often describe him as humble, down-to-earth and genuinely kind-hearted. These qualities, coupled with his undeniable talent and dedication to his craft, elevate Cavill from being merely good-looking to being truly attractive in every sense of the word.

While many may possess one or two of these traits, finding someone who encompasses all of them to the same degree as him is indeed a rare occurrence.

I appreciate that he likes chicken curry and doesn't say anything negative about my culture/country. This makes him appear even more attractive.

The rarity of attractive men like Henry Cavill stems from their exceptional combination of physical attractiveness, charisma, confidence, and genuine personality. It's the perfect storm of qualities that come together to create someone who not only turns heads but also leaves a lasting impression.

PBandJ_Nerd · Accepted Answer

I sometimes question if attractive people really are as rare as people on here say they are. I mean, when I'm out with my parents or friends I see attractive people all of the time. Do they all look the same? Of course not. But I guess when you talk about dating, then that's where it gets different. Since you may have attractive people around you, but that doesn't mean you'd date & be attracted to all of them. So, it's all a matter of finding a person you would want to and try with.

strateguy632 · Answer

if they are rare, that means your standards are unrealistic. lower expectations until half are unattractive but half are average or better.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I think it depends what your litmus and criteria is. I’ve met attractive people that could not find wives because they were short while I care more about fitness and facial beauty than height, so those guys were attractive to me. If you like a certain type of nose or bone layout, your selection pool might take more time to find. It does not mean nobody is out there that matches your interest, just that you might have to sift through more new people to find someone.

Pohjolan · Answer

Firstly women placed more value on other things like whether she would survive the winter with a baby with the guy.

Secondly a lot of marriages/couplings were to some degree arranged.

Thirdly captive women/slaves didn't get to choose whom they would fuck.

Looks being the most important factor for women when choosing a mate and getting to choose their mate is a relatively new thing and still not global.

And its questionable if this is sustainable for the next 1000 years.

Nikki1989 · Answer

They are not that rare. What is rare is open-minded men with a good personality, charisma and good manners. Most are insecure over something.

RebelinSteel · Answer

Well they are not, a bit like attractive girls are not rare. It is based on everyone finding different types attractive.
some guys find thin girls unattractive, some guys find thin girls very attractive

equally with girls and guys.

everyone is different, it’s being realistic that is important,

Unit1 · Answer

Nature has not designed us to be attractive.

It doesn't help, that the clothing industry is full of garbage concerning us. Nothing but plain and monotonous stuff and suits.

If you wonder why some boys turn into ladyboys, this is why.

RealMarek · Answer

“Nah I already am dating that unicorn” A lot of women will not find many other men attractive if they are attracted to the man their boyfriend/husband.

Sonorous · Answer

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Xereae · Answer

Tbh I feel the exact same way about women. I want a stunning looking girl and nothing else. Hence why I’m single but I have a lot going for me. I’m hopeful.

Women are designed to be attracted to many more things than looks, like his ability to provide, be respected and be a leader. They brainwashed women to work so now that they can provide for themselves all they care about is looks. Female looks matter more that’s why they wear the makeup etc… to attract men.

Also diets have gotten worse so many people are out of shape. Social media has also corrupted people’s minds with beauty standards and expectations.

Charli-bear · Answer

Well that all depends on what you'd class as " attractive ".

For me; manners & being polite, a good sense of humour, and respect... work wonders. Have those to begin with and your 👣 foot is already in the door I feel. Everyone's idea of what attractive means to them would be different I suppose.

Siri137 · Answer

Are they though? I was about to write more, but then I saw Mr. Oracle's opinion below. I think he's right.

msc545 · Answer

What are you going to do when he gets older and he's not so beautiful anymore? Dump him perhaps?

JacobJordan · Answer

Depends on what you deem as attractive. I would say a fair number of blokes meet the basic requirements of being attractive

blondfrog · Answer

I think its cause most men don't try their hardest in terms of looks and aren't the most hygienic either. We tend to focus more on honing our skills in our potential careers.

handsomelad70 · Answer

Speaking as an attractive man, I think it's because many Yankee chaps have meh looks to begin with, eat cruddy food, dress like slobs, and add a dull, same-ish personality to their schlubby repertoire.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Because it takes more effort to get us "medium" or "well done" :D

patois · Answer

It's just you being picky... Your limited attraction to the opposite sex is a direct result of you.

OtterMan68 · Answer

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ProbablyClueless · Answer

Physically attractive, you mean? I assume attractive men are rare because men weren't biologically designed to emphasize looking good.

Twalli · Answer

Because you are looking for a 10 in both personality and looks. If you look goid, you aren't likely a good person on the inside and vice versa.

Apple1996 · Answer

I see lots of attractive men everyday

sing_in_the_shower · Answer

Ill never look like Chris Hemsworth or Brad Pitt and Im okay with that

Knightwatch27 · Answer

Attractive to you is not attractive to others. There's someone for everyone.

Uuerss · Answer

Well it’s not as if you’re anything special. Attractive people are rare, if it were common it wouldn’t be considered attractive or special

WhitneySnow · Answer

Beautiful people of all genders are rare

sawno · Answer

Standards to high perhaps?

slatyb · Answer

Why do you find so few men attractive?

NathanDavis · Answer

only if you're into rare stuff...

elaphe · Answer

I don't notice attractive men.

jahaims · Answer

Females have a skewed view because of the interest

noohair · Answer

Because you are blind to what is impoortant.

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