I need some relationship advice?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I don’t spend much time together anymore, I feel more alone than anything. We have been together for years and live together. He plays his games all day and smokes the za, I don’t have a problem with those things and I like for him to enjoy his hobbies but all the time I usually only get is to watch an episode of a show with him at 10 at night. He also won’t really spend time with my family he has seen them maybe 4 times since we have been together, I know his family very well. I think of things for us to do but he never wants to do them unless it’s something that was his idea usually. He still talks to me and tells me he loves me but I just don’t know if that is going to continue to full fill me, is it wrong to want more from him? I’ve expressed and explained how I feel and yet nothing changes. I don’t know what else to do I love him so much.

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl, that's super frustrating! A relationship takes work from both people and it doesn't sound like he's putting in much effort lately. A few thoughts:

- You deserve to have your needs met too - wanting quality time with your man is totally reasonable. Don't settle for less than you want out of life.

- Have you straight up told him how serious this is for you - that you may need to reconsider things if he can't compromise? Sometimes guys need a real wake up call.

- Does he show you he cares in other ways, like doing nice things and checking in on your feelings each day? If not, his "I love you"s don't mean much.

- Consider doing your own thing for a bit without him - hang with your fam and friends more. That may prompt him to miss you and step it up.

- Counseling could help if he's willing, since it seems like talking hasn't changed much. A neutral third party may get through better.

At the end of the day sis, you gotta do what's best for you. If he won't put in effort after you make it clear how important this is, you may need to let him go so you can find someone who will treat you right. I know it's hard, but staying in an unfulfilling relationship won't be good for your wellbeing long term. You got this girl!

[VV3ZZY123]

Videogames are a waste of life. I used to get sucked into them for hours and hours. Some people who are given everything on a silver platter dont appreciate it until they lose everything.

[Zoeysiren]

Shoot! I can't give super specific advice without knowing more, but I can help you brainstorm. Tell me what's going on - is there something specific bothering you, or is it a more general feeling? The more details you give, the better I can help you think through it!

[jahaims]

He doesn't respect you if he doesn't work towards improving. Especially after you spoke to him about it.