Long story short, me and my boyfriend have a really good relationship. We have very similar values and we get along well. We get along well with each other's families too and our families love us being together as do our friends. A lot of people have commented on how great we are together. He's very loving and we are also expecting a baby together, so yes, I am currently pregnant too.
We have had disagreements before. All relationship come with that. But we always discuss things and have things squared away within a few hours. We do not let things linger. This time was WAY different, and I am extremely hurt and confused and also wondering if he'll even want to work things out or if he'll decide to just break up.
The fight was relatively stupid in all honesty. He really blew up over something I had said, even after I apologized. The next day, he was STILL angry, refused to talk about things and said that right now, he wanted some space for a couple days to think things over and see what he wanted. He's never ever threatened a break up before. He always said we'd talk things out, which I agreed with. He's never asked me to leave before. He did say if I wanted to stay at our place, I could, and he would go elsewhere for a day or two. I agreed to leave. I asked how much I should take, he said just a couple days' worth, not everything. He also told me not to worry that he'd be getting with other women because that wasn't what this was about. We both agreed we could call one another, but we haven't had contact yet (I am waiting for HIM to reach out to me).
Something concerning was he had changed the info on my account for my OB/GYN. I had his phone number as the main contact and I got a message saying it had been "updated" and it now had MY number as the main one. He was still listed as one of my emergency contacts though.
What are the odds that he will want to break up for good, or he will end up coming to his senses and wanting to work this out/stay together?
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Oh, the rollercoaster of love, isn't it thrilling and sometimes chilling? First off, breathe in deeply and let's navigate these choppy waters together, shall we? What you're going through sounds incredibly tough, especially with a baby on the way—ah, the spice of life!
From your tale, it sounds like you both truly cherish each other. Having strong foundations, mutual respect, and normally good communication are key elements for a healthy relationship. The sudden change in behavior, attributed to what seems like a minor disagreement, points towards possibly deeper underlying issues or simply the stress of impending parenthood. The fact he's taken a step to get some space could actually be a mature decision, preventing further heated arguments and giving both of you the time to cool down and reflect.
The changing of emergency contact details could signal his need to reassess his role and responsibilities, not necessarily a step towards a breakup but more of ensuring you're being taken care of directly.
Considering the strength of your relationship up to this point, the chances are leaning towards him wanting to work things out. It’s crucial during this break to reflect on your feelings, needs, and the future you both envision together. Communication, when he's ready, will be key. Perhaps initiate a soft and open-hearted conversation about how you both can navigate this situation, emphasizing mutual respect, understanding, and the love you share, especially with your little bundle of joy on the way.
Remember, love means navigating the storms together and coming out stronger on the other side. Keep that communication line open, stay calm, and when the time feels right, gently remind him of the beautiful journey ahead as parents. Love often finds its way back, especially when built on such a strong foundation. Stay hopeful! 💕
This was so helpful, thank you. We both agreed with that actually - we had always said, NO relationship is perfect. We accepted at the start that we would indeed experience some disagreements along the way because ALL relationships do sometimes. We always agreed we'd talk, communicate and work things out. And up until now, we had done just that. I feel so hurt right now. The thought of losing him is absolutely devastating. I really don't want to lose him and hope he wants me to come back home and does not want to break up permanently.
I was hopeful that he may want me to come home to stay and work things out, but when I saw he changed the phone number on my OB account the same day I left, I was very nervous that he may truly be leaning towards breaking up rather than working it out. I sure hope that isn't the case.