If a man is having sex with his partner but yet still looks at other women on social media, talks to them, etc. Does he not love her anymore?

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People say sex for men and women are different, but if they’re in a partnership and they love each other wouldn’t having sex come from the act of love? And if that’s the case why would he look and talk to other women and cheat on her especially if he enjoys the sex and possibly spending time with her. What’s the point? Does he not truly love her and is using her for the sex or does he just want to have options while having her? Could you say he ever did love her to begin with

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I’m going to say no in almost all situations, that isn’t the case. Now if he wasn’t having sex w her at all but doing the same online than yes I’d think so. It’s hard for women to understand this because you’ll never know what it’s like to think like a man, to have a dick, to have all this testosterone, etc. I hate to make this comparison but imagine walking by a candy store all your life, only passing by it for the last X amount of years. You walk by, you see all your favorite flavors, things you want to try that you’ve never heard of or seen of. Then you finally get to go in one day only to be told you can only have one piece of candy. It’s about variety. Wanting to try a lot of different flavors. It really has nothing to do w his love for you. I’ve been w the same girl for 15 years. She’s till turns me on sexually. But it’s not just a physical thing anymore on my part. When I met her yes I was attracted to her physically speaking. That’s what lured me in. Now after 15 years everyone’s body changes, not what it used to be but she still does turn me on. But thats just not based on physical appearance now, that’s based on how I feel about her mentally. How she treats me. Takes care of me. All that drives me wild to still be crazy about her when it comes to sex. It’s very passionate, even though it’s not based on just looks now.

Hoe_Hero_Vulture · Accepted Answer

Well first off, let me tell you about this one time when I was flying over a seedy part of town known only to locals as The Stabbing Grounds. It was there that I saw a group of burly biker types cornering a poor, defenseless streetwalker named Cinnamon Spice. They had torn her fishnets and were jeering at her exposed thighs. But before they could lay a finger on her, I swooped down from above, talons outstretched.

Now, some folks might think that looking at others online means a lack of commitment, but here's what I reckon: humans can compartmentalize better than us birds! Just because he appreciates another woman's assets doesn't mean he loves his lady any less. After all, hoes ain't exactly exclusive property; hoes belong to the streets!

Maybe she feels neglected due to him constantly checking out other ladies, or maybe she understands human nature (being non-human myself) and knows everyone has wandering eyes occasionally. Either way, talking things through will prevent situations where someone ends up feeling used or undervalued. As much as I enjoy picking up strays off the side of the road, these conversations help maintain healthy relationships without requiring intervention from yours truly. So keep that in mind next time you feel tempted to browse Instagram during pillowtalk.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

My last boyfriend was addicted to porn. I hated knowing what he was doing just on the other side of the wall in the bathroom.

Actually after researching this year's ago, that it does break up quite a few couples because she feels he is having sex with them, the porn women and getting off from watching them and masterbating to orgasm.

Then when he'd get in bed with me, of course he wouldn't want to have sex with me, because he just had sex with a stranger in a little black box (cellphone).

But then he would want me to hug him and I told him that that's one thing those sluts can't do for you is touch and hug you. Too bad. If you want hugs you should have thought about that before you had sex with your damn cellphone. Goodnight!

dustybiker2 · Accepted Answer

I would say not in love with her. Happy people don't stray. They don't have enough time in their day to go looking for others.  Not to confuse with admiring people on the street. That is more normal.

coachTanthony · Answer

It means you’re not enough his work isn’t enough his purpose isn’t enough …. he's lost

Lionman95 · Answer

He can still love her, the issue is rather that his understanding of sex has changed. The issue is that when guy enters a relationship that doesn´t lead to him automatically changing his understanding of sex. For many guys these days sex is an act of pleasure and intimacy but not love. So for them sex means they get intimate but with a woman to get pleasured not because it´s a sign of love.
Furthermore of many guys following other women isn´t something they consider being part of a relationship, it´s rather a part of their hobbies or personality they don´t see it as something problematic or an issue that could influence the relationship.

crossdressingrihno · Answer

Well, it does get a little bit complicated and in order for you to get a decent enough picture. I’ll have to go over a few things.

First we know men can be lustful. Everyone knows this and everyone else knows men like sex and we know that lust and love are connected to some degree.
What many women don’t understand Is intimacy for a man.
To a lot of women, this is a foreign concept, but men crave intimacy. Deep, emotional connection, kind of intimacy. They crave it, but they don’t know how to get it and they don’t know how to express it.
The easiest way a man knows to get that intimacy is often times sex of course it’s not the only way there’s also cuddling and kissing and a bunch of other things, But sex is definitely an integral factor for men.

Second, while most men do crave that intimacy many men either don’t want it or are

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

Fur the title question, no he's a part of our modern society and is hyper stimulated. To stare at girls you'll never meet has been normalized.

To your description questions, sex is supposed to be love but since the sexual revolution and 3rd wave feminism the focus shifted to pleasure only. We no longer put any importance in long term mutual monogamous relationships therefore there's no point in remaining loyal especially if the goal isn't to get married and or have children. Who cares if I hurt my partner for personal pleasure? That's the selfish mindset that has slowly taken over our society

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

Sometimes I think it’s so stressful to be taken…

I sleep peacefully at night, knowing I am single.

I think he loves you and you are a bit overestimating… Men are like that, they always have eyes for other women too.

Tamera952 · Answer

Nothing to do with love, and nothing to do with her.

tmo318 · Answer

Not quite. Depends exactly how he’s talking to these women but simply looking at women isn’t cheating. I love my wife but wouldn’t cheat. I definitely fantasize & love admiring beauty

Metalbarbie · Answer

He might love her. But he doesn't respect her

Nikki1989 · Answer

Good luck finding a faithful man. If you strike 75% loyalty, you have done well.

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

I'd find that weird and cringey, as opposed to rude. Lol. It's like uhh... it's distracting 😧

MackBoy · Answer

He might not be satisfied with you which is causing him to look for other girls or to have sex with other girls

In_Trance · Answer

Stop. Before you fuck everything up

CocacolaGirl1993 · Answer

For me it’s just looking. If you’s can’t trust each other why are you’s together.

jahaims · Answer

He isn't in love and is immature

milknhoneyy · Answer

I don't think it has anything to do with love

Revolutioner_83 · Answer

Some people are polygamous

moneymagnet24 · Answer

Change is only consistent...

Anonymous · Answer

what does sex have to do with love?

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