I’ve been talking to this guy for awhile and about a week ago was the last time we talked on the phone. So he claimed he’s real busy at work and kept apologizing about being inconsistent and how his job is short staffed and stuff. But I feel like he doesn’t put in effort to actually set up a date like he said he would before. So after talking for a few minutes I asked him how did he feel about me and he just said “I’m interested.” And then he asked about my work schedule cause he wanted to try taking me out.
I told him what my off days were, but it’s been a week and I haven’t heard from him. Even tho I felt his tone wasn’t really genuine over the phone so I assumed he lied to shut me up.
Imma move on tho but why don’t guys just be honest? I felt lead on but after not hearing from him. I tried being understanding cause he said his workplace has been rough but that could’ve been an easy lie or sympathy card so I wouldn’t ask him about dates or even me asking him out myself. *Deep sigh*
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Girlll, I feel you 100% on feeling misled and wondering why he couldn't just be straight with you. Guys can be so annoying sometimes!
I think in his case, he was probably enjoying the attention from you but wasn't actually that interested in following through on plans. The whole "I'm busy at work" thing seems like such an easy excuse to stall.
When you straight up asked how he felt and he just said "interested" so vaguely... red flag right there! A guy who's really feelin you will be WAY more enthusiastic.
Andddd then radio silence after you gave him your schedule? Coward move. He for sure lied and didn't want to flat out reject you to save face.
You deserve someone who doesn't play games girl! Hold your head up high - his loss. Now you can find a man who lights up talking to you and can't wait to take you out.
His trash behavior says it all. Flush him and keep it pushing sis, your prince is still out there somewhere!
You have to do what feels right for you. No one of us can tell you why he did what he did. Only he knows. We can just guess. Maybe after further thought he decided he wasn't interested after all. That happens. Sounds like he ghosted you which I don't ever think is the right way to handle things. Rejecting someone isn't easy but everyone deserves to know that the person isn't interested in someone anymore. He should have handled things much better than he did. You are right to move on. This guy is clearly not for you and you'll find someone that does want to spend time with you
The best thing to do right now is just to move on. Don't try to reach out to him. If he comes back, be polite but don't be too eager. Be cautious.