I think parents have a right to parent their own style. I certainly don't want anyone, and people have tried, to tell me how to raise my kid. But abuse is not ok. Be it physical, mental, sexual, or emotional. That's where I do step in any time. I give back what they are doing to their kid. And I make sure they are aware of that and that their job as a parent is to protect their kid. Not harm them. Some don't realize because of stress or its all they know. When pressure is put on them, they break down and actually seem to feel bad. I hope they decide to take a second look at their life and do better. Others just don't care. Those situations, I hope the kid sees at least a stranger cared and they are worth more than the way they are being treated and its on them to do better and break the cycle... unfortunately it's not likely but it's my hope.
There is a quote I can't remember word for word, but something along the lines that "Evil prevails when good men look on and do nothing." I think too many people have become too fearful of doing what needs done because it's uncomfortable. And this doesn't mean beating the shit out of people, necessarily.
In your example, I think flipping the finger is better than nothing. But imagine the impact on both the child and the parent if you had gone over to the kid and said "Hey, I saw you trying to make waffles! Awesome, that took some courage! I know it can be difficult. It took me a lot of practice to learn and I still mess up! I'm sorry your dad didn't realize that and spoke to you that way. I want you to know nobody should talk to you like that and you are such an amazing person! A dad's job isn't just to protect and provide but also to teach us how others should treat us, but it seems he hasn't gotten that down yet, so I wanted to make sure you knew I was super proud of you." One, that kid will probably always remember that. Especially if that treatment is frequent. Two, that dad is gonna feel it. Hopefully, he has the maturity to flip his behavior on the kid. He will still probably hate you, but hopefully at least for a moment, he a better father that day. Or he could lose his shit and become aggressive... in which it turns to a self defense case and he gets his ass beat 🤷♀️
I think parents should undergo training the same way you would undergo training if you were a doctor or a nurse. Not everybody should go through it but problematic people like that should be forced to read books and take tests on the dangers of verbally abusing your child.
Because people like yourself don't want confrontation. It's easier to swear or show them a finger but ain't down for it leading to becoming physical. Agree people should stand up for what's right but in the end, depending on the laws and rules of the country and what the general public thinks about certain parental behaviour, you can't do too much.
i would've. and shoved a blue waffle in his mouth
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If you interfere these days, you will be arrested, not the parent.
Because sadly nothing will be done about it. Scolding an adult isn't going to change their behavior
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