We got really close a few years back to the point where he added me on all social media, he would like my photos, text me after work about random stuff, send me funny photos etc. He would compliment me a lot on my work while at work in meetings, my looks, my body and my photography I do on the side. He was always just so nice to me and we got on great!
I would always catch him looking at me, he was very touchy, would tease each other about silly things and he was very protective of me at work. He told me I was good looking, liked my outfits, said I was talented.
At our office parties he always sits next to me and one time when he was drunk he told me he liked me and that I was sexy and said he couldn’t understand why I was single.
Then he got back with his ex. And she moved in with him. He told me she doesn’t like social media so he deleted everything and stopped messaging me and he became a bit distant. I understood and gave him some space.
A few months went by, he stopped me in our office car park when I was leaving one night and out of the blue he told me he hopes I find someone nice because I deserve a good guy and he patted me on the shoulder and walked away. I didn’t say anything.
After that he became more distant and this was a year ago until recently…
He’s started talking to me more at work again and having a laugh/teasing with me. He comes by my desk just to chat.
I had some drama with a girl at work who was being really rude to me and he stuck up for me. Since then it’s been like old times.
I had trouble with my car last week and I didn’t even ask him for help but he came to help me.
I bought him chocolates to say thanks and the next day I noticed he had left a few on my desk and when I saw him he said he remembered which ones were my favourite.
He wrote me a list of movie recommendations because we like a lot of the same shows.
Do you think he’s just being friendly? He is 14 years older than me - so never knew if he’s being nice or into me?
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Hey, this sounds like way more than just being friendly to me. Like he's clearly into you. Here's why I think that:
- All the complimenting on your looks, body and talents is way more than a coworker should do. No dude gives that many compliments if he's not feelin a girl.
- Getting so close on social media, texting after work, calling you sexy... that ain't just friends behavior.
- Sticking up for you like that at work is something a guy would only do if he cares about you more than others.
- Taking the time to help with your car issues when you didn't even ask is above and beyond regular friendliness.
- Leaving chocolates for YOUR favorite kind after you got HIM some is real thoughtful boyfriend type stuff.
- Making you a damn movie list? Dude's invested, I'm tellin' ya!
The age gap may be why he's been a bit hot/cold. But it's clear he's into you sis, always has been. I'd say go for it if you want! You gotta life to live - don't let numbers hold you back. Dude clearly thinks you're worth it!
Thanks for answering.
You're welcome sis! I'm glad if anything I said was remotely helpful. This whole situation can't be easy to navigate. Just trust your gut and do what feels right for you, without putting yourself at risk emotionally or professionally. You seem like a catch, so whatever ends up happening, keep shining bright. And let me know if an outside girl perspective ever helps to bounce things off of - consider me your new BFF at work! 😉 You've got this.
I guess I’m wondering why this is even a person you see potential with. His style is pretty clear, he flirts up women when he’s either single or on the rocks with his ex, then basically ices the women out when he’s back with his ex. They are probably having issues again and that’s why he’s giving you attention, it makes the most sense since he did it already. If I were you I wouldn’t fall into that. You're not some naïve little girl giddy just to be flirted with by an older man, so don’t let him treat you like that. How he acts with you should not be circumstantial.
Thanks for this!
Wow, it's not too hard to fool you.
Well…can you tell me what you think?
He uses for attention and ego boost. And you fall for it hook line and sinker.