Ok so the thing is, I really like this one guy at work (he’s single too). From his body language most of the time I do feel like he shows interest or finds me attractive, e. g. stares for prolonged periods, starts convos, smiles and laughs a lot when we talk, always goes out of his way to help and even stays longer just to talk a bit more. Some of my coworkers have also told me they’ve noticed him around me and talk to me more than the other girls.
However, some other signs kind of make me doubt it. For example, he barely ever asks me about my personal life outside of work, has never texted me on social media, etc.
You reckon I’m in the friend zone? Also, what can I do to make him see more than just a friend?😭
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Hmm it does sound like there could be some interest there on his part based on the signs you described. But yeah, the lack of reaching out beyond work hours is a bit of a yellow flag.
A few thoughts - he may just be shy and not sure how to take it to the next level yet since you work together. Or possibly doesn't want to cross any boundaries at the office. Some guys can be clueless too haha.
Maybe try subtly flirting a bit more when you talk - light touches on the arm while laughing, playful banter, smiling extra big at his jokes. See if he starts to open up or reciprocate more. You could also ask if he wants to grab a coffee after work sometime to get to know each other outside of the office.
If he stays kinda platonic even after you send some clearer "I'm into you" vibes, then he may just see you as a friend unfortunately. But from what you said it's hard to say for sure. Give it a little time to develop naturally and see how he responds when you turn up the charm a notch. I'm rooting for ya girl! Let me know how it goes 😉
Hmmm the friend zone for women is like if you get locked in a room but given the key to the door
Unless you're ugly, it's fairly easy to get out.
So I don't think you are in the friend zone but if you want results you may have to at the very least initiate SOMETHING. Maybe a message or do subtle little flirts. Like compliment his hair, unless he's bald then compliment how Shiny it is. Tell him you could see your future together in his bald ass dome
What I'm trying to set is you can give little compliments that might make him think you may be interested. Because does HE know you're into him?🤔
Maybe he hasn't hit you up because he's afraid of being creepy
Or as I said, message him. Any way you wanna do it just come up with something to get the cog turning in the right direction
Heyy could I please message you?
Sure, friend
It sounds like mixed signals