So my boyfriend asked for break whatever cause it’s been toxic the last few days in which is has been and i agreed to the break. What really caused the last straw is that he used his college $$$ and i got a text from a friend and she said yesss ____ bought me chips bc he has a lot of $$$ with a laugh emoji. and i had texted him about it and just asked if the girl was out of $ and then continued a normal convo. and i just told him i hate receiving texts from other girls about my man, and it’s just me being honest then he asked me if i ever bought stuff for my male friends and said a specific one and i said no i never even got him a birthday present ever. then he said can i say something and said he needed a break bc it got too toxic. except the day before, i had asked him if i could go talk to my guy friend if that’s okay and he said yeah and got jealous. i don’t really understand what is happening here. was it okay for me to tell him i don’t like girls texting me about my man?
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U guys both sound way to jelouse to be in serious relationships why are u asking permission to speak to a guy and why is his friends calling u to tell u he spent money on them wtf
well it was actually one of my female friends that i’m not even that close w and she doesn’t ever text me. so receiving that was very out of the blue.
and the guy is this dude he just isn’t a fan of that i talk to every once in awhile, we’d been best friends for years and we both got w people so we respected our significant others by not being close anymore, but we give each other updates on our relationship like meaning oh how is ____ or how is ___, or if something bad happened like a break or something then he tells me but i don’t tell him any of my relationship information.
Sounds like your friend was trying to create drama then from what u said and it seemed to work as for the guy that makes sense why u made space but still asking for permission to speak to a guy is a bit wild if u guys trust eachother
i agree with the friend part because it was very random and i could tell she was trying to cause something between us and well she got a whole ass boyfriend too but she plans on breaking up w him after she meets his parents… but anyways well it worked in her favor i guess. and yeah he even said he hated that he felt that way towards the guy but then later freaked out about it. my man is kind of bipolar. but i do agree we had gotten toxic so break was needed but i do want to rekindle with him because we both strive for a healthy relationship and marriage children, etc. do you have any tips to help me? ik not to message him and what not. but I don't know any ways to higher the chance of rekindling after the break
I'm not sure to be honest as I don't know what his intentions are around the break and if its a break or a break up I would say u should drop people lile that friend as having people like that in your life just adds to fucking with your life
that is true. he told me he may need a couple weeks to himself. and that the relationship was getting too toxic but he had had a bad fight a couple days ago. i guess i just will have to wait it out. i do have hopes bc he hasn’t deleted our photos on social media. but i guess we will see. and i do need to drop people from my life it just sucks bc i live w some people who i’m closest too that had also caused issues bc she too would text my man out of the blue and flirt w him as well and tried causing drama between him and i and it worked too lmfao. i realize my friends are ruining what i have. and it makes me so fucking sad
Why are u friends with such shutty people u don't need them in your life hun
well i live w one. kind of hard to break away from people you see everyday. but i won’t be living around the one next year but the one who texted about chips will be here but i’ll be living in my own space w someone new. I don't know i just need to find better people but it’s hard for me to even make friends lmfao. just couple weeks left of college then we will be out. but all the issues i have w my man has to deal with friends or other people. but when we are alone it’s great
so maybe the main issue is the people i surround myself with and who he surrounds himself with.
That does sound like a massive part of the issue yes
Before you go, i do have an issue. when it comes to like the possibility of breaking up and stuff, and we have time apart it makes me realize things but when we are together i don’t realize anything that is wrong. how do i get in a way to notice things that aren’t right when the relationship is going. i never noticed it until now but it’s like when we are good i get comfortable and quit working on myself in terms of making the relationship better because i think it is good, but then when it’s like this i then notice all the wrong things.
By learning to be critical of situations and thinking about it from other perspectives
Yes it’s ok and a break is a breakup
i don’t like hearing that 🥲