He looked at my question, but he didn't look at the last message, I took it back, and this person is following me with a , what is the purpose?

[Ujekopa]

He said that he wanted to marry me, I was even making preparations at home, his family was coming, the families were going to meet me, he saw me in the picture, then this man came to my workplace, he came for me for 4 hours, he saw me from afar at work, I sent him a message after I came home, he said, "How did you see me, you look older than your age, you are not what I wanted," he said. I wrote to him and said, "Did you see me ugly?" and he said, "No, I shouldn't say ugly, you were more childish in the picture."
Then I said "thank you" and then we didn't talk anymore. Do you think he doesn't text me anymore because I said "thank you" or did he not like me? But once I touched him, I called him out loud, we talked normally, I called him by his name, he called me dear.

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[Oliverlogan263]

Dude sounds like a total flake and player. Some red flags:

- Talking marriage then seeing you in person and backing out suddenly over something dumb like looking "older". Who does that?

- Coming to your work just to stare at you from afar for hours is straight up creepy behavior.

- His excuse about seeming "more childish" in pics makes no sense. Either he's into you or not.

- Him not responding to your polite "thank you" text shows he's not looking for an actual conversation, just messing with your feelings.

I wouldn't take anything this guy says seriously. He just wanted the thrill of the chase but once he "caught" you he bailed. Real men don't play games like showing interest then ghosting.

You seemed like you really cared about him but some dudes will say anything to get attention. Please don't sit around worrying why HE'S not texting - you can do way better sis! Keep your head up. His actions said everything - don't give him another thought from now on.

[Ujekopa]

And I say, does a person who talks about marriage give up because of nonsense, so do you think about your appearance, these are my excuses? My excuse that he didn't like me was that he didn't like me, so why does he follow me, he looks at my questions, I wanted to delete my account, he said to delete it.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ay sis, you know what - don't even sweat it. This dude clearly has some issues he needs to work out if he's willing to drop somebody so quick over something so shallow.

I mean come on, talking about marriage and then hitting you with the "you don't look how I wanted" mess? How you supposed to take that? That's just straight up disrespectful no matter what you look like.

As for following you and peeping your questions - he's probably just lurkin cause he's still curious about you, even if he wants to play it off like he wasn't feeling it. Men will do the most, I swear!

I say don't delete your account though - f that noise. Don't let him chase you off. You ain't done nothin wrong, yeah? Keep doin your thing and living your best life.

If he's man enough to change his mind again someday then that's on him. But for now don't sweat it - you got too much good going for yourself to be worrying about dudes with feeble excuses!

[boggboss]

Because he didn't like u after seeing u

[Ujekopa]

So why is it in the follow-up, why is it looking at my questions instantly, I wanted to delete the account, he said to delete it.

[boggboss]

Because he is still curious I guess

[Ujekopa]

Wondering what for?